I agree that the slavery comments are a bit out there, but for me, personally, if you don't have permission, you don't get your paws in my hair. Period. The issue is that people don't understand what boundaries are these days and when they've been crossed. I'm not that prim and proper, so I wouldn't be down with returning to Victorian era mores, but re-establishing some respect for other people's personal space is in order.
I don't even think it's a boundary issue. Why does this not happen to people with non-kinky (or tightly curled) hair? If it was a boundary issue, everybody with curly hair would have the whole world up in their hair. But it's not. It's specific to a certain type of hair that only a certain segment (mostly) of the population have.
Sidenote! Urbanbella's hair is GORG