Protective Styling is IMPOSSIBLE!

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I think protective styling is a lie made up by the devil. Yeah, I said it. I do not believe you can put a style in your hair that is low to no manipulation and you are able not to bother it for days or weeks on end. If you tell me that you can keep twists, braids, buns, or a wig on your head consistently for more than two days, I am going to call you a liar. You guys will fool me no more.

I keep trying so hard to protective style, but my spirit gets disturbed when I say, "I'm going to put twists in my hair and give it a break for a little while." I go to sleep at night and dream of wash & gos, twistouts, braid outs... even a flexirod set or two.

I am physically and mentally unable to allow myself to protective style my hair!

Why is that??? I have these braids that I put in about 5 days ago and I am sitting over here shaking, sweating, and scratching myself from hair style withdrawl. Yes I have done different things with the braids but my mind knows the reason I put them in: PROTECTIVE STYLE. I should be stronger than this but I just can't do it.

Please tell me I am not the only one and you guys just made up this whole thing about protective styling to play an evil trick on me. LoL

I have no idea how any of you successfully do it.
I am watching this thread because it is my issue exactly. I think these women with awesome hair have made up this lie to make me feel inadequate about my inability to do any protective style I can leave the house in and to keep it in for several days even if I could leave the house.

I really think that sometimes.
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tonight I will be washing and doing twists for a twistout tomorrow,


i will say Im getting a weave on saturday, I might make it to a month with it.
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LOL!!! I pretty much feel the same way - I feel uncomfortable when I can't "check" on my hair - touch it, wash it, etc. The longest I've ever left twists in is like four days, and I can bun, but I have to redo my bun everyday.

Honestly - the best "protective" style for me is when I flat iron my hair, because I leave it alone for like two weeks, and usually leave it in a bun during the week.

I can also deal with it longer when I'm really busy and don't have time to do my hair. But on the regular I'm like...I need to do mah hurrr!!!
I think protective styling is a lie made up by the devil. Yeah, I said it. I do not believe you can put a style in your hair that is low to no manipulation and you are able not to bother it for days or weeks on end. If you tell me that you can keep twists, braids, buns, or a wig on your head consistently for more than two days, I am going to call you a liar. You guys will fool me no more.

I keep trying so hard to protective style, but my spirit gets disturbed when I say, "I'm going to put twists in my hair and give it a break for a little while." I go to sleep at night and dream of wash & gos, twistouts, braid outs... even a flexirod set or two.

I am physically and mentally unable to allow myself to protective style my hair!

Why is that??? I have these braids that I put in about 5 days ago and I am sitting over here shaking, sweating, and scratching myself from hair style withdrawl. Yes I have done different things with the braids but my mind knows the reason I put them in: PROTECTIVE STYLE. I should be stronger than this but I just can't do it.

Please tell me I am not the only one and you guys just made up this whole thing about protective styling to play an evil trick on me. LoL

I have no idea how any of you successfully do it.
Originally Posted by FoxyCleopatraGuide
Sings *You are not alone* I have been racking my brain on how I can keep a PS in my head. Since I went natural the longest I can keep my hair in a PS is 3wks and even then I take out a piece of hair to play in. When you figure out how to do it plz let me know
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I stop fighting with my hair and just let it be, when I use to use combs on wash day I did a lot of twist and braids for protective style and I also did a lot of braid outs. Now these were good and my hair did grow but if it was raining and I had in a braid out I worried about becoming a puff ball. I leave the house looking all cute and then my hair decides to grow an afro and thatís all good but not for work.

Now that I stop using combs/brush I wash and finger detangle this way I have more curl definition, then apply my products twist or braid hair and undo when my hair is dry, now I could go out in the rain and not have to think what my hair will turn into because itís in its natural curly pattern. That is as protective as I get these days. I wear a bun one day, one braid in the back another, out and wild on the weekends and this works out best for my hair.
I know how you feel. If I wear twists for too long, my hair will start to lock and I hate taking my hair down after being braided. There was a post on CurlyNikki about how to make twists last longer and still get styling flexibility. It went something like this:
1. Wear twists for a few days
2. Take twists down for a twist out
3. Turn twist out into an updo.
I'm trying that this week. You get the styling flexibility while keeping the manipulation at a minimum.
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I lasted 3 weeks so proud of myself.


tonight I will be washing and doing twists for a twistout tomorrow,


i will say Im getting a weave on saturday, I might make it to a month with it.
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If my edges would all me to wear kinky twists or micro braids I would protective style all the time.

I personally love playing in my hair but my very limited skills keep me from a lot of styles.

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I just can't help but feel the need to touch my hair, condition, detangle etc .

I agree that the only time I leave my hair somewhat is when its straight but even then ...
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I will wear a wig over my twists but I think the longest i have left twists in is 3 days. The main reason is my hair likes to be washed or at least rinsed thru every 2 or 3 days. And i rinse if i work out hard and with it getting colder the dandruff is starting up more. If i washed it with the twists in i think they would get water logged and unravel. I dont think i could go weeks without detangling or getting the shed hairs out.
Gurl dats RIGHT! *Let em know! Them be the saaame ones runnin round talkin bout a shampoo left their hair moisturized! Feelin soft!! *Dats cray cray! Liars! All of em! Hahahahahaha i feel your pain Foxy. *Last night it took me 3+ hours to put in these twists, and ioneven like em. If I can go seven days I'll be SHOCKED.*
Lol, I guess it just has to do with you as an individual. I personally can go for days without doing a thing to my hair (well, except the occasional moisturizing and sealing of course.) It only gives me more time to do other things. I can also manipulate my hair, a lot, if I want to. Constant manipulation is the thing that can cause breakage for some naturals, which is why protective styling was introduced. While I don't think it's impossible to protective style, as I have been doing so for one out of the two years I've been natural with much success, I do agree that it all depends on how much you feel the need to touch and manipulate your own hair. I most certainly can keep a bun or whatever in my hair for 2+ days. Sometimes, it just feels good when my hair the least of my worries.

Last edited by Precious Curls; 11-15-2011 at 05:35 PM.
I practically live in protective styles. I wear twists most of the time throughout the year. I wear them pretty much all the time lately because it's getting cold and I just don't have the time or energy to be fussing with a twist out everyday.

I'm going to be doing braids, with my own hair, the rest of the cold months and wear my hat or head wraps. I love twists, but braids keep my hair stretched and they don't let my hair tangle like twists do when left in for long periods of time.

The main reason I protective style is because I'm not very style proficient. I can't do much with my hair, besides twist and braid it. Plus, I don't have time. I can't multitask when I'm doing my hair so styling daily is not in the cards for me.

I am pretty good at twisting, I must say. That I have down.
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Last edited by CocoT; 11-15-2011 at 09:02 PM.
i'm the same way. i've not counting lazy, messy, bad hair day buns, i've protective styled like 3 times in 4 years. 2 of those times, i had a friend spend HOURS (like... for than twelve) braiding/ kinky twisting my hair, just to take them out like 2 or 3 weeks later. i can't do it... it feel like a punishment.

oh, the 3rd time i did mini twists on my real hair... it looked to scalpy, so i took them out
I don't know about people not touching their hair at all with protective styling but I know for a fact many women of color do indeed leave their hair in certain "protective" styles for days and months on end and that's if they are natural or relaxed. I do think they touch it though..they just don't take it down from whatever style they have it in.

I personally can't live like that.. I like my hair. I don't want it hidden away. To me it defeats the purpose if I can't fully enjoy my hair. But that's me. I wash n go daily though so I could be biased.
Protective styling is like fasting. You can go a day, a few hours, whatever, without eating, but the minute you CHOOSE to fast, you're starving! Same with PSing. You can leave your hair well enough alone, but once you determine that you're going to PS for xx amount of time, you want to be all up in your hair. It's the nature of the beast.

I used to twist weekly, because I liked to do my hair but didn't want to manipulate it every day. Yeah, umm, that contributed to my having carpal tunnel in both wrists. So now those twists will last for 3 weeks come h*ll or high water, because I can't physically do them more often. The desire has dropped immensely.

If you're able to reach your goals without PSing, then more power to you. If not, then it becomes a matter of what's more important, and you just go from there.
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Yea I touch mine. I moisturize it daily. Protective styling isn't about neglecting the hair, it's just low manipulation and for me it adds to manageability. Out styles for certain curl patterns and hair textures is just not conducive to preservation of the hair.

A wash and go may technically be low manipulation, it just isn't easy to manage my hair in a completely unmanipulated state. I can't apply product in mass like that. And Idk what it is about twisting my hair that makes it hold on to moisture, but even applying product and leaving it be just does not work for me. Letting my hair shrink up on itself would be the end of my hair.

I love my hair in twists. That's how I enjoy my hair. I love it in a fro too but I just can't do that all the time, especially now.
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