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Old 11-14-2013, 05:24 PM   #20481
 
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Old 11-17-2013, 08:56 AM   #20482
 
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I want to create a time machine and go back to the 90s. I was on youtube watching rap videos and I was shocked by the amount of clothes these girls were wearing. Even the sexier videos, had the girls in a bikini that fully covered the ass and a bikini top that wasn't just nipple covers. Then I watch Luniz (I got 5 on it ... my jam when I was kid and didn't know what the lyrics were about) and the girls were in baggy jeans and crop tops. Hip hop used to be Amish?
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For the moat part. There is sir mix a lot's put it on the glass video, but that is probably tamer than most of today's pop and rap videos. 80s hair bands were the ones that had sexually provocative videos back then.

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I’m Mixed. I Have Natural Hair. And Yes, I Understand the Struggle. | Black Girl with Long Hair

Interesting read. Although some of it had me giving her the side eye.
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I relate to her insofar as I'm also biracial with more of a white phenotype. But based on my own experience w/people's reactions, she's wrong ... black people understand what they're saying when they tell her she "doesn't understand the black struggle". She probably has no basis for whining about that. We don't understand - not the way mono-racially, or mostly black, people understand that black struggle on the daily. Whether she sees it or not, I highly, highly doubt ppl who look like her (or me) get the same level of BS from whites. I have half-sibs who are fully black. A cop pulls them over just for being black, just for being "brown". If I'm going twice the speed limit in a school crossing zone, I don't get pulled over, or if I get pulled over I fake a tear and the officer falls all over himself to make sure I'm OK, then let's me go w/a warning to feel better.

At the same time, I do acknowledge that people like her/me do have our own unique struggles that can't be fully grasped by any mono-racial group. That said, our struggle is different, not harder, than mono-racial black people IMO. Definitely not harder IMO, and probably much easier, the whiter the person is or looks. And yeah, like her, there are times when I've felt on the outskirts of various racial groups. That is a PIA sometimes. Humans all struggle somehow though. ... But anyway, she would do well to feel a sense of pride in her hair, whatever anyone of any group says about it. Just choose folks from all backgrounds that don't bash your hair lol
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I relate to her insofar as I'm also biracial with more of a white phenotype. But based on my own experience w/people's reactions, she's wrong ... black people understand what they're saying when they tell her she "doesn't understand the black struggle". She probably has no basis for whining about that. We don't understand - not the way mono-racially, or mostly black, people understand that black struggle on the daily. Whether she sees it or not, I highly, highly doubt ppl who look like her (or me) get the same level of BS from whites. I have half-sibs who are fully black. A cop pulls them over just for being black, just for being "brown". If I'm going twice the speed limit in a school crossing zone, I don't get pulled over, or if I get pulled over I fake a tear and the officer falls all over himself to make sure I'm OK, then let's me go w/a warning to feel better.

At the same time, I do acknowledge that people like her/me do have our own unique struggles that can't be fully grasped by any mono-racial group. That said, our struggle is different, not harder, than mono-racial black people IMO. Definitely not harder IMO, and probably much easier, the whiter the person is or looks. And yeah, like her, there are times when I've felt on the outskirts of various racial groups. That is a PIA sometimes. Humans all struggle somehow though. ... But anyway, she would do well to feel a sense of pride in her hair, whatever anyone of any group says about it. Just choose folks from all backgrounds that don't bash your hair lol
I have not made of my mind about this chick. She says she wrote an article about how she hates being mixed because of her hair.

As far as "struggle" I don't think it is as neatly packaged. You don't have to be mixed to be rejected by the "black community". I identify as black but I often feel like I'm on the outskirts because I don't act, look, talk in a way some black people feel I should. I was called a "house n" recently.
I think in this day and age what people get away with has to do with who you know. Where I live the "good ole boy system" rules. People who have money and connections get away with most stuff. I have been pulled over but knock on wood only received a ticket once and that got fixed. It is a better advantage to be a minority with connections than be white, poor and know no one in authority. One of my friend's is half white and half Asian but looks more white and she never gets off without a ticket. One more and she will lose her license. But I think she argues with the cop. She doesn't know how to be "sweet", look very pitiful and apologize.
I'm also willing to admit that being a minority woman is easier than being a minority male because people are less threatend. I think if you looked pretty much the same but were a guy you likely would have received a ticket. Two of my mom's brothers are light to the point of being at times mistaken for white. I don't think it gave them advantage when they were young and broke. But now having money does. Both of them are or have used their influence to get their kids out of trouble.
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Excellent points. I need to respond to what you just said after I come back from picking up my DH's Pho soup (he's sick as a dog today ).
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Excellent points. I need to respond to what you just said after I come back from picking up my DH's Pho soup (he's sick as a dog today ).
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I have not made of my mind about this chick. She says she wrote an article about how she hates being mixed because of her hair.
OK, this was so obvious I'm not sure why I overlooked it. Yes, her opening comments suggest the one part of her that looks obviously black is the one part she hates, which is insulting to blacks and to herself.

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As far as "struggle" I don't think it is as neatly packaged. You don't have to be mixed to be rejected by the "black community". I identify as black but I often feel like I'm on the outskirts because I don't act, look, talk in a way some black people feel I should. I was called a "house n" recently.
I agree that different things can get a person rejected (from any community). I just think it's universally true that ppl w/mostly white phenotypes (liked that mixed chick) tend to get met w/resistance by a portion of the black community (accepted by others though). That said, there are some biracial people who reject people in the black community also w/out any provocation. It can work both ways.

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I think in this day and age what people get away with has to do with who you know. Where I live the "good ole boy system" rules. People who have money and connections get away with most stuff. I have been pulled over but knock on wood only received a ticket once and that got fixed. It is a better advantage to be a minority with connections than be white, poor and know no one in authority. One of my friend's is half white and half Asian but looks more white and she never gets off without a ticket. One more and she will lose her license. But I think she argues with the cop. She doesn't know how to be "sweet", look very pitiful and apologize.
Couldn't agree more. Each case is different and circumstances can be complex. That said, w/or without connections, certain people are more likely to get away w/more things on average based on a certain phenotype and/or skin color IMO. Or that's been my observation.

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I'm also willing to admit that being a minority woman is easier than being a minority male because people are less threatend. I think if you looked pretty much the same but were a guy you likely would have received a ticket. Two of my mom's brothers are light to the point of being at times mistaken for white. I don't think it gave them advantage when they were young and broke. But now having money does. Both of them are or have used their influence to get their kids out of trouble.
I think you're right, in terms of the criminal justice system, males tend to get targeted more. That said, I think minority women have their own disadvantages; I think we women in general have certain disadvantages too. In terms of light skin advantage, you make a good point: if someone isn't in a certain income bracket (or speaks with nonstop ebonics, etc.), it results in a political loss.
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Old 11-18-2013, 07:38 PM   #20490
 
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Idk about this article too. I felt like the opening paragraph was somewhat contradictory:
"These last few months, I realized that I didn’t embrace the natural hair life because of others and not me. I liked my curls and had already transitioned not knowing it. I still didn’t accept the fact that my curls were acceptable. In my mind, straight hair was the ideal." Soooo which is it??
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Excellent points. I need to respond to what you just said after I come back from picking up my DH's Pho soup (he's sick as a dog today ).
Hope he feels better.
Thanks Right now he's got a full belly and I keep telling him to drink more fluids. I can hear him blowing his nose and watching "Man of Steel" lol.
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I think I'm about to get friend zoned tonight by this guy I had a little crush on for about 2 years but never nourished it because he was in a different country. However we had increased communication the last several months because I am now in the same hemisphere so the crush was secretly growing bigger. What sucks is I never get the typical friend zoned. I get the I love another girl give me relationship advice all the time now friend zone...... Which is why I typically cease all communication once the friend zone situation has occurred.
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Her hair doesn't really look "black", especially considering that she brushed it to make it look that way. But I guess it depends where you live and who you are around. It seems that the problem is with her family. I guess her hair reminds them of their African ancestry, which I find strange since it is obvious most Dominicans and Puerto Ricans are mixed with African, Spanish and sometimes Native American. And many who are predominantly white do have the same type of hair as she does.

ADThomas - I do agree with you about it is easier to be a minority woman than man when it comes to being stopped by the police. I also agree about money gaining you respect with the police, regardless of race.

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His latest brush with the law is making him look shadier than ever. Anything's possible but yeah I think he is shady as all Hell.
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His latest brush with the law is making him look shadier than ever. Anything's possible but yeah I think he is shady as all Hell.
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Her hair doesn't really look "black", especially considering that she brushed it to make it look that way. But I guess it depends where you live and who you are around. It seems that the problem is with her family. I guess her hair reminds them of their African ancestry, which I find strange since it is obvious most Dominicans and Puerto Ricans are mixed with African, Spanish and sometimes Native American. And many who are predominantly white do have the same type of hair as she does.

ADThomas - I do agree with you about it is easier to be a minority woman than man when it comes to being stopped by the police. I also agree about money gaining you respect with the police, regardless of race.

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I suspect she may be a drama queen. There is a range of people in PR and DR. If there weren't people would always ask me if I'm from there. Honestly I can tell she has some West African ancestry even if she was bald. She looks like a lot of people I see in New Orleans.

In my job I sometimes have to knock on doors. White people open for me all smiles but my black male coworker told me not for him. One lady opened without checking then saw him, screamed. Slammed the door and threatened to call cops.
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For those of us who actually come from multigenerationally mixed race families, it is easy to tell who is mixed with what.

People are crazy. I can't believe that lady felt her behavior was ok to tell your co-worker.

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His latest brush with the law is making him look shadier than ever. Anything's possible but yeah I think he is shady as all Hell.
He can't stay out of trouble. And with the publicity of the Trayvon Martin case, his father won't be able to wipe away his crimii behavior anymore. It is karmic justice coming to bite him in the azz.

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This dude totally backed out if the convo last night. It was like all day I'm waiting for execution and then it gets delayed, wtf?!?
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