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I've been thinking a lot about my career options for the future. The other day I gave myself a headache from stressing about it so much.

I'm debating between clinical psychologist or nurse practitioner... Currently I'm on the clinical psych path.

Sigh. I just don't know. I'll continue to think about it.

If anyone has any experiences please feel free to share.
Originally Posted by Saila
Do you have a specialty focus in mind w/in each field? If so, what are they? Like, as an NP, do you imagine yourself working strictly or mostly w/in the mental health sector (given your psych trajectory), or do you imagine working in general medicine, or in some specialty therein?

So many potential spiritual, intellectual and emotional rewards for either profession, but with either of those fields you'll have to guard your personal boundaries like a hawk at times IMO (especially as a female), unless your psych focus is chiefly research and/or teaching. Mid-level care and clinical psych professionals tend to suffer high demands from employers that foster and even demand co-dependent behavior on their part - esp. abusively long work hours. You would just need to put your foot down, and do so early on.
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I've been thinking a lot about my career options for the future. The other day I gave myself a headache from stressing about it so much.

I'm debating between clinical psychologist or nurse practitioner... Currently I'm on the clinical psych path.

Sigh. I just don't know. I'll continue to think about it.

If anyone has any experiences please feel free to share.
Originally Posted by Saila
I think about this a lot too, especially having just graduated from college for the third time. I guess I should know where I'm headed, but the world is so vast and exciting!

I currently work for clinical psychologists in a Children's Advocacy Center. It is amazing work and definitely rewarding, but also really hard at times. They are salaried and can sometimes work 60 hours a week. However, the work they do is simply amazing and I've seen some really amazing things happen here (they specialize in traumatized children). Are you thinking about working as a clinical psychologist for children or adults?

In what setting would you purse being a nurse practitioner?


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I'm addicted to Moroccan tea but I'm also caffeine sensitive so it sometimes sends me right over the edge. I'll never neverever settle for the decaf version because decaf tea never tastes as good as caffeinated. Doesn't have that rich, bitter goodness.
3b/c?

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I'm addicted to Moroccan tea but I'm also caffeine sensitive so it sometimes sends me right over the edge. I'll never neverever settle for the decaf version because decaf tea never tastes as good as caffeinated. Doesn't have that rich, bitter goodness.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
I love tea but if I drink it too late I can't sleep. I started drinking Trader Joe decaf green tea and I love it. Sometimes I make a ice green tea cranberry drink I sweeten with honey or agave. I remember when I went to Morroco the people in the shops were always offering mint tea and it was good. They would tell us it was free. But then I realized they were like you drank our tea so yo butt needs to buy something. We couldn't even ask a person on the street directions without tbem wanting money from us. Overall the people were nice. I would go back..
I have been hesitant to make this post because I know a lot of us sistahs struggle to be able to wear our natural hair to work. So I feel a little bad/ guilty about this. At the height of my hair loss I only wore wigs to work. Now I'm down to oe bald spot I usually bounce between wigs and my natural hair at work. Long story short my bosses recently told me they prefer my natural hair. They don't dislike the wigs. They're cute but even I can't deny I look better curly. I did rollersets and curling irons when relaxed. The thing is they want me to do one or the other. No back and forth. But I don't want to stop wearing wigs entirely for several reasons. But I feel wearing my curls this could make it easier for the next natural to work. Am I being selfish?
I have been hesitant to make this post because I know a lot of us sistahs struggle to be able to wear our natural hair to work. So I feel a little bad/ guilty about this. At the height of my hair loss I only wore wigs to work. Now I'm down to oe bald spot I usually bounce between wigs and my natural hair at work. Long story short my bosses recently told me they prefer my natural hair. They don't dislike the wigs. They're cute but even I can't deny I look better curly. I did rollersets and curling irons when relaxed. The thing is they want me to do one or the other. No back and forth. But I don't want to stop wearing wigs entirely for several reasons. But I feel wearing my curls this could make it easier for the next natural to work. Am I being selfish?
Originally Posted by adthomas
I don't think so.
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Is your hair important to your job? Why do they care how you wear your hair if it is a natural color and doesn't distract others? I admit that I always found it weird that when I lived in a city with a lot of black women that their hairstyles changed so frequently and drastically, but it didn't prevent them or me from doing our jobs, so I left it alone. But then I feel the same way about curlies of any ethnicity that go from curly to straight regularly. My point is why is this even an issue at your job? Sorry about the hair loss. I had bald spots along my hairline before and it sucked.

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I'm addicted to Moroccan tea but I'm also caffeine sensitive so it sometimes sends me right over the edge. I'll never neverever settle for the decaf version because decaf tea never tastes as good as caffeinated. Doesn't have that rich, bitter goodness.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
I love tea but if I drink it too late I can't sleep. I started drinking Trader Joe decaf green tea and I love it. Sometimes I make a ice green tea cranberry drink I sweeten with honey or agave. I remember when I went to Morroco the people in the shops were always offering mint tea and it was good. They would tell us it was free. But then I realized they were like you drank our tea so yo butt needs to buy something. We couldn't even ask a person on the street directions without tbem wanting money from us. Overall the people were nice. I would go back..
Originally Posted by adthomas
I just put good old fashioned sucrose in my brew :P But I love the taste of agave. I will go to Morocco (the culture fascinates me), plus other parts of Africa. I'm also strongly drawn to Kenya.


I have been hesitant to make this post because I know a lot of us sistahs struggle to be able to wear our natural hair to work. So I feel a little bad/ guilty about this. At the height of my hair loss I only wore wigs to work. Now I'm down to oe bald spot I usually bounce between wigs and my natural hair at work. Long story short my bosses recently told me they prefer my natural hair. They don't dislike the wigs. They're cute but even I can't deny I look better curly. I did rollersets and curling irons when relaxed. The thing is they want me to do one or the other. No back and forth. But I don't want to stop wearing wigs entirely for several reasons. But I feel wearing my curls this could make it easier for the next natural to work. Am I being selfish?
Originally Posted by adthomas
I admit my first reaction to this was Scheisse! ... Would any employer ask a male (of any background) to adjust his hairstyle [leaving out Sikhs, who unfairly get asked to remove their pagri]? But then, I don't know what your job description is and what the terms of your employment are, like if it's a job where that would actually make that an appropriate request (?).
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3b/c?

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Last edited by Korkscrew; 01-24-2014 at 02:37 AM.
Yes I have that kind of a job so I know it comes with the territory. Very long hair is a no no and most women are told to get a cut but there are people who go between curly and straight. I feel like I'm so limited with styling because of my missing patch. I saw a lady who hid hers using a temporary hair dye on her scalp area so I may try that. You couldn't see her bald spot after she used it.
Oh ok. I am glad to know that your employer isn't unfairly targeting you. Can you find a wig similar to your hair, so that no one would know when you're wearing a wig?

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Oh ok. I am glad to know that your employer isn't unfairly targeting you. Can you find a wig similar to your hair, so that no one would know when you're wearing a wig?

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Originally Posted by multicultcurly
That is a good idea. Also I saw a YT video where a lady bobby pinned a curly track between her hair. You couldn't tell. It look great and taking it out was easy. I had been wearing straight wig to make sure it was long enough in the back to cover my own hair underneath in a low ponytail of twists. My bald patch in nape.
About to get a haircut at a ouidad approved salon, and I am nervous as h*ll. Wish me luck. my hair isn't that long so I need to be cautious.

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Last edited by adthomas; 01-25-2014 at 12:22 PM.

Do you have a specialty focus in mind w/in each field? If so, what are they? Like, as an NP, do you imagine yourself working strictly or mostly w/in the mental health sector (given your psych trajectory), or do you imagine working in general medicine, or in some specialty therein?

So many potential spiritual, intellectual and emotional rewards for either profession, but with either of those fields you'll have to guard your personal boundaries like a hawk at times IMO (especially as a female), unless your psych focus is chiefly research and/or teaching. Mid-level care and clinical psych professionals tend to suffer high demands from employers that foster and even demand co-dependent behavior on their part - esp. abusively long work hours. You would just need to put your foot down, and do so early on.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew



I think about this a lot too, especially having just graduated from college for the third time. I guess I should know where I'm headed, but the world is so vast and exciting!

I currently work for clinical psychologists in a Children's Advocacy Center. It is amazing work and definitely rewarding, but also really hard at times. They are salaried and can sometimes work 60 hours a week. However, the work they do is simply amazing and I've seen some really amazing things happen here (they specialize in traumatized children). Are you thinking about working as a clinical psychologist for children or adults?

In what setting would you purse being a nurse practitioner?
Originally Posted by DaniGirl88

Thank you both for your input.

I have since then dropped the idea of nursing all together... I don't think it's for me. I am currently interested in pediatrics for Clinical Psychology.

To be honest, what made me think about nursing at first was the money. From what I understand, nurses are strong politically with unions etc. Some research on nursing forums revealed that some (not all) receive many "perks" for their jobs, e.g., stipends for education/continuing education credits, malpractice insurance, among others that I can't remember.

Dependent on experience, location, and specialty, a NP can easily hit the 6-figure mark while working 35-45 hours/week.

Grad school on the other hand is 70+ hours a week with no pay. Then internship, then post doc. Post docs (after 5-7 hears of graduate training) make about half of what nurses with similar levels of experience.

The money and jobs security are what really are getting to me.

I want my independence, financial security... I want to own my own home one day. I don't want to spend my entire 20s laboring away academically for mediocre financial compensation

I value education, I really do... But learning for the sake of learning ain't gonna pay the bills...
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