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@adthomas wait until she shows she is serious about going natural then send her over here. (By that I mean she doesn't run back to a relaxer in 6 months or moans continually to everyone how hard it is.)

If someone can recognise you from what you post and doesn't understand how forums work i.e. you don't comment on written things in real life, then until you know they understand and are serious with going natural there are sites I wouldn't recommend.

Btw I wouldn't send your cousin to blackgirllonghair site yet either unless you already know she is interested in politics, sociology and history. If she comments she could easily be negatively repped which could help destroy self-confidence which is often fragile in new naturals.
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Last edited by Blueblood; 08-11-2014 at 03:38 AM.
And here I sit waiting to see another stylist to finish/fix this wannabe pixie cut....great first sew in experience, not.

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Ok went to a shop and they fixed the botched alleged pixie cut. I am a happy camper. I actually look my age again.
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@adthomas wait until she shows she is serious about going natural then send her over here. (By that I mean she doesn't run back to a relaxer in 6 months or moans continually to everyone how hard it is.)

If someone can recognise you from what you post and doesn't understand how forums work i.e. you don't comment on written things in real life, then until you know they understand and are serious with going natural there are sites I wouldn't recommend.

Btw I wouldn't send your cousin to blackgirllonghair site yet either unless you already know she is interested in politics, sociology and history. If she comments she could easily be negatively repped which could help destroy self-confidence which is often fragile in new naturals.
Originally Posted by Blueblood
ok. thanks. I don't think I can't chat it up on line with someone I generally avoid talking to in real life.
I didn't know that about Bglh but I rarely go there.
Oh god the crown of my head is soooooo sore. My edges feel fine,go figure. However my crown is sore tender. It is better than yesterday. So long since I had my hair cornrowed, misery.
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It'll be 8 years soon that I've been living here, and it STILL amazes me at how bad the drivers are.
Home sweet home Taiwan...and Benji!!!
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Home sweet home Taiwan...and Benji!!!
Originally Posted by gagirl09
How is he?
It'll be 8 years soon that I've been living here, and it STILL amazes me at how bad the drivers are.
Originally Posted by vegas_curls
Vegas?

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Home sweet home Taiwan...and Benji!!!
Originally Posted by gagirl09
How is he?
Originally Posted by Blueblood
Great! He is fatter and except for one small spot all his hair had grown back. Still sweet as ever he is curled up against me right now. ^.^
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It'll be 8 years soon that I've been living here, and it STILL amazes me at how bad the drivers are.
Originally Posted by vegas_curls
Vegas?

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Originally Posted by multicultcurly
Yes. Even the most basic trip can turn into a white-knuckle experience. You kind of expect bad drivers near the Strip, but even in the regular part of the city you have to keep your eyes peeled. Simple things such as obeying right-of-way rules and using common sense don't get much thought by many drivers here.
My aunt walked into a dollar store the other day and she was on the phone. Later she realized someone calling "ma'am" was talking to her. The clerk told her she could not come in with a purse and had to leave it in the car or at the front desk. She left. I would have too. Who is going to leave their purse at a front desk? like employees can't have sticky fingers like customers. If shop lifting is that bad they should hire a guatd or close. Truth is this chain is already closing stores and not for shoplifters but bad business practices. These stores also create problems IMO by being so cheap with their staffing. I had a friend working part time for another dollar store chain and had to work at two locations to get a decent amount of hours. One store is a good 20 minute drive one way which eats up gas so eventually she quit. the turnover is so high in these stores. And lots of times when I would go into the store once I wanted to check out I would have to go look for someone. Line would have 10 people and no one at register. That's because they would staff two people on a shift for a entire store. Let one person be at break or in bathroom or dealing with stocking or inventory or delivery ect and it is one person.

Also there have been times I have seen elementary children and preteen age children in these stores at night unaccompanied. At first I thought an adult was outside waiting in the car but then I would see them leave walking on on a bike. I saw what had to be an 8 year old pay with a cc and ride off on her bike at night. I also saw some 11, 12 year old siblings buying some potted meat and I could tell by the way they were paying they had scraped the money together. When it was my turn I asked the clerk about it and she said they came in all the time alone at night buying food and she had seen them walking from a fast food place at 9 pm.If I had known their situation I would have paid for it.Not saying stealing is right but I can't imagine being a hungry child fending for myself.
Places with bad customer service suck.

I'm so tired. We're doing construction at work and I think all of that dust is flaring up my allergies and making me tired.

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I knew it would happen because I had had straight hair since these people have known me, but sometimes I get tired of people oggling about what I am doing to my hair *today*, like a sideshow or that they're somehow experiencing unprocessed kinky hair through me (maybe they are?).
There's a girl at work who is white who has straight hair and does an updo one day, a side fishtail another, or just down on her shoulders the next--nothing. If I have the slightest bit of difference in my fro, people are asking me what I did. God forbid I use bobby pins or a clip--I'll be getting someone all close like they're about to put a petri dish under a microscope and pointing to another coworker to see what I've done (when I did the bobby-pinned tapered look).

I get tired of being polite sometimes, but I suppose they don't think they can be so candidly questioning to the other black woman in the office w/ type 4 hair (who wears buns 90% of the time). The other black woman has type 3a-3b, so I suppose it's not as interesting for some reason. ??

I've had my hair this way for over a year now. It's not long enough to bun up, so I rolled and tucked it this week to avoid questions (and protect my ends!), but that still got a comment. On the one hand, I guess I should just wear my hair the same way all the time, but on the other hand, I know that my hair doesn't like that (especially if we're talking bobby pins to roll and tuck--my scalp becomes tender where the pins lay).
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KCKT
Grapeseed Oil
my hair is normal-ish porosity / dense / fine+medium strands
I knew it would happen because I had had straight hair since these people have known me, but sometimes I get tired of people oggling about what I am doing to my hair *today*, like a sideshow or that they're somehow experiencing unprocessed kinky hair through me (maybe they are?).
There's a girl at work who is white who has straight hair and does an updo one day, a side fishtail another, or just down on her shoulders the next--nothing. If I have the slightest bit of difference in my fro, people are asking me what I did. God forbid I use bobby pins or a clip--I'll be getting someone all close like they're about to put a petri dish under a microscope and pointing to another coworker to see what I've done (when I did the bobby-pinned tapered look).

I get tired of being polite sometimes, but I suppose they don't think they can be so candidly questioning to the other black woman in the office w/ type 4 hair (who wears buns 90% of the time). The other black woman has type 3a-3b, so I suppose it's not as interesting for some reason. ??

I've had my hair this way for over a year now. It's not long enough to bun up, so I rolled and tucked it this week to avoid questions (and protect my ends!), but that still got a comment. On the one hand, I guess I should just wear my hair the same way all the time, but on the other hand, I know that my hair doesn't like that (especially if we're talking bobby pins to roll and tuck--my scalp becomes tender where the pins lay).
Originally Posted by pinkpostitheart
I feel you. I don't mind a few questions but I don't like anything beyond that especially at work when I'm busy. I had a white older male coworker come up to me every time he saw me with a new hair question. And every response was another question never mind I'm on deadline.

did you cut your hair?
no
looks shorter.
I washed it.
washing makes your hair shorter.
It's shrinkage.
what's shrinkage? How do you make it curl like that?
I don't. it's natural.
Really. how do you comb it?
A denman brush
What a denman brush?
uggghhhh Don't you have work to do? I sure do.


He never did this to the other black women who are relaxed, weaved or who live by the flat iron. Finally I got fed up and sent an email "everything about black people and their hair so you will stop asking me questions" He got the idea. Left me alone.
@pinkpostitheart @adthomas difference is interesting. The weaved, flat-ironed, relaxed and 3a-3b curls are all what they are use to.

Unfortunately some people haven't learnt manners and don't know not to ask continuous questions.
@Blueblood,
Yes. At least it's innocuous questions from a few people and not everyone.

I suppose the good thing is my industry is more science-engineer-y creative and the adjoining offices & depts in the building have people with much larger/longer type 4 hair in afros, locs and twists; many of the men (type 1 - type 4) have gorgeous shoulder length or longer hair.

Perhaps 1 more year and the questions to me will stop. My concern is my hair will be seen as faddish (sp?), when that's not the case.

Side note: When the other type 4 women started in my office, she had only met me for 3 hours before she mentioned how long she had been natural and how long had I been? She didn't ask the other woman w/ type 3 hair that same question (I later asked her about it and she shrugged it off that she hadn't been asked and pointed at her skin exasperatedly, which is sad in a way. She got 1 relaxer and stopped after she realized she had to wrap her hair at night to get it to curl at the ends lol); so I suppose there is something to be said for what we ourselves (w/ type 4) perceive as a "major difference" and what others perceive, too, that overlaps.



Last Relaxer: 12/24/2012
Weekly Products I'm Using:
VO5 Silky Experiences Coconut Milk Conditioner
KCKT
Grapeseed Oil
my hair is normal-ish porosity / dense / fine+medium strands

Last edited by pinkpostitheart; 08-20-2014 at 07:24 AM. Reason: clarification
It sometimes suck being unique. Type 4 hair seems to be primarily found among black people so most people don't understand it. Type 3 hair is pretty common among white people and in most places not something seen as unique to black people.

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Went to the doctor this morning. Does anyone else have trouble peeing on demand? Lol
I knew it would happen because I had had straight hair since these people have known me, but sometimes I get tired of people oggling about what I am doing to my hair *today*, like a sideshow or that they're somehow experiencing unprocessed kinky hair through me (maybe they are?).
There's a girl at work who is white who has straight hair and does an updo one day, a side fishtail another, or just down on her shoulders the next--nothing. If I have the slightest bit of difference in my fro, people are asking me what I did. God forbid I use bobby pins or a clip--I'll be getting someone all close like they're about to put a petri dish under a microscope and pointing to another coworker to see what I've done (when I did the bobby-pinned tapered look).

I get tired of being polite sometimes, but I suppose they don't think they can be so candidly questioning to the other black woman in the office w/ type 4 hair (who wears buns 90% of the time). The other black woman has type 3a-3b, so I suppose it's not as interesting for some reason. ??

I've had my hair this way for over a year now. It's not long enough to bun up, so I rolled and tucked it this week to avoid questions (and protect my ends!), but that still got a comment. On the one hand, I guess I should just wear my hair the same way all the time, but on the other hand, I know that my hair doesn't like that (especially if we're talking bobby pins to roll and tuck--my scalp becomes tender where the pins lay).
Originally Posted by pinkpostitheart
I remember reading an article which basically stated that natural hair (meaning type 4 hair ) is not for the faint of heart. The author basically stated what you've said here and suggested that the ladies who did not want to experience all of this delay their transition until the braver souls had done the work of the social movement for them. The author suggested that a generation or 2 later, their natural hair would still be there if they were brave enough to take it on once the work of opening minds was done by the braver of the ladies.
I will look for the link. It might be helpful to you to read it and hear her message directly.
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