The New & Improved Say It I Dare You - Page 252

Jo Somebody · 02-12-2012, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by greenjumper

Ehhh, was that insensitive??? Sorry guys, I hadn't realized that we were talking about deceased parents...

Sometimes I post stuff and then go back and read a few post and so on...

Noooo! Well, it made me smile through tears... and then cry some more, but that's ok! Crying is healthy!

Jo Somebody · 02-12-2012, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

Wow are you guys reading TMZ? They are saying that Whitney may have mixed alcohol with Xanax, then drowned in the tub. I hope that isn't true, that's terrible.

This story is just getting worse and worse for me. No wonder they wouldn't let Bobbi see her body. I think it's good for closure, but I don't think drowned bodies are something a young lady should look at. Poor Bobbi!

*Marah* · 02-12-2012, 05:59 PM

Wow.. they said that Bobby Kristina was at the hospital last night as well. She went to the hotel room her mom was staying in and demanded to go in and the police forbid it. They said Bobby Kristina went to cursing, screaming, and crying!

This morning they said she was just hysterical and inconsolable. And had to be taken out on a stretcher..I saw the pics on TMZ like I guess some of yall have already. Dang...I feel horrible for this young lady.

Jo Somebody · 02-12-2012, 05:59 PM

I've had hair dreams before! Lol! Embarrassing...

vegas_curls · 02-12-2012, 06:10 PM

((((((((((((((((soleil)))))))))))))))))

Hey lady, I wish I could give you real hug. I'm glad that you wrote, b/c although you may feel desperate, thank God you haven't acted on those feelings.

You said you broke things off b/c didn't trust your ex (among other things). That in and of itself should be at the forefront of your mind when you start feeling like you want him back. You need TRUST as much as you do LOVE in a relationship, and without it you'll be miserable.

If you need to, concentrate on what was wrong with that relationship so that you can remind yourself that you're better off without him.

In addition to the good advice that has already been given, this is what worked for me when I was in a somewhat similar situation...

Many years ago I was in a relationship where I thought dude was "thee one". I was pretty hurt by the split and had a lot of raw emotions that I didn't know how to deal with. I simply started journaling. I wrote down all my feelings and wow, it was so cathartic. I kept the journal with me wherever I went, so that if something triggered me feeling lonely, betrayed, hurt or angry, I simply wrote it down.

At the time it seemed like my hurt would never go away, but admittedly month by month things got better for me. I would periodically look back at earlier entries and reward myself over my progress in getting better.

Eventually I was completely and totally over it. In celebration of symbolically threw away the journal as an official closing of that chapter in my life.

Please don't give into society's pressures of "ya just gotta have somebody". Most of the people that give into that mindset are miserable because they settled and got into a relationship w/ someone they're not fully compatible with. Continue to DO YOU and see the world.

I wish I had a fool-proof magical formula to tell you "if you do this and that, you'll find that perfect mate", but it doesn't work that way. I can tell you that eventually it WILL happen, we just never know when. I didn't start dating my husband until I was 35, and yes, I got funny looks and crazy questions, but I gotta tell you - I'm SOOOOOO glad I waited!

We instantly both knew we were "the one" for each other, and got married after 6 months of courting. It's been the best 6 years of my life.

Hang in there, kiddo - really, things WILL get better!!!

((((prayers and hugs))))

adthomas · 02-12-2012, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

Wow are you guys reading TMZ? They are saying that Whitney may have mixed alcohol with Xanax, then drowned in the tub. I hope that isn't true, that's terrible.

If it is true then it shows how a lot of people jumped to conclusions that she fell off the wagon and od'ed. I think this could be a lapse in judgement that anyone could make whether they had a drug addiction or not. I have seen plenty of people mix alcohol and prescription drugs. I think some people think because they come from a doctor and are legal they can't hurt you. There is a sleeping pill that I can't remember the name right now that a lot of people have died after using it with alcohol. I know a couple of years ago I had four wisdom teeth taken out and was given some pain medicine. It said "DO NOT DRIVE OR OPERATE HEAVY MACHINERY." I hate to say it but in my stupidy of thinking I could "handle it" a few days after the operation I drove to work after taking it. I've never had to concentrate so hard in my life. I deeply regret doing that. I remember thinking "green, that means go. right? red. that's stop." Then at work people would talk to me and I would look right at them and nod my head but had no idea what they were talking about. So I'm asking everyone to please follow the directions on these meds. Don't double up dossages. Eat if it says eat. Don't drive if it says don't drive and please avoid alcohol if the warning says so.

AmberBrown · 02-12-2012, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by adthomas

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

Wow are you guys reading TMZ? They are saying that Whitney may have mixed alcohol with Xanax, then drowned in the tub. I hope that isn't true, that's terrible.

If it is true then it shows how a lot of people jumped to conclusions that she fell off the wagon and od'ed. I think this could be a lapse in judgement that anyone could make whether they had a drug addiction or not. I have seen plenty of people mix alcohol and prescription drugs. I think some people think because they come from a doctor and are legal they can't hurt you. There is a sleeping pill that I can't remember the name right now that a lot of people have died after using it with alcohol. I know a couple of years ago I had four wisdom teeth taken out and was given some pain medicine. It said "DO NOT DRIVE OR OPERATE HEAVY MACHINERY." I hate to say it but in my stupidy of thinking I could "handle it" a few days after the operation I drove to work after taking it. I've never had to concentrate so hard in my life. I deeply regret doing that. I remember thinking "green, that means go. right? red. that's stop." Then at work people would talk to me and I would look right at them and nod my head but had no idea what they were talking about. So I'm asking everyone to please follow the directions on these meds. Don't double up dossages. Eat if it says eat. Don't drive if it says don't drive and please avoid alcohol if the warning says so.

I'll admit to to taking prescription meds with alcohol once. I was already drunk and I thought it would be funny???

ugh stupid. Luckily I suffered no ill-effects.

But even admitting to that, I have no understanding for why anyone would do something so stupid. There is NO excuse other than sheer stupidity. I would've gotten just what I deserved if something bad had happened to me. And as much respect as I have for Whitney's talent and...if she knowingly took her prescription meds with alcohol...it's still sheer stupidity. No one is so ignorant as to think that's a good idea. If you do it, you're playing with fire. A grown asz woman playing with fire. Now some people do it because they know the combo can result in death. *shrug* I have more respect for that than sheer stupidity.

CocoT · 02-12-2012, 07:25 PM

Ambien

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murrrcat · 02-12-2012, 07:44 PM

thanks to this grown ass man's non driving a55 I had to stay late at work...why do I always have to stay late the night before major exams?! Is it my fate or something?

Keenylicious · 02-12-2012, 09:06 PM

ummm... i'm not watching the grammy awards, but i can hear it on the tv in my brother's room... what the f*ck is nicki minaj in there doing?!

cocodej · 02-12-2012, 09:12 PM

I sometimes wonder if the ads in the other hair forums are the same as in 4a...

tbabyy · 02-12-2012, 09:14 PM

I don't know why I haven't felt sad about Whitney Houston dying. It's like it hasn't hit me. I looooved Whitney!!! But it did take me until the airing of the MJ funeral for it to hit me that he died. I still can't believe it sometimes.

ETA: okay, I guess I just had to watch the "I wanna dance with somebody" video...over here damn near in tears...smh. It seems we have lost sooooooooo many big people in our black community over the last year. Craziness.

applesandafros · 02-12-2012, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by applesandafros

Is the aussie moist line being discontinued? I haven't seen in any of my regular store I go to. If it is, I will shave my hair of because there will be no hope.

Hmm..I've seen it. That's my son's favorite shampoo and conditioner. I saw it at Walmart and Walgrees that's for sure..just a few days ago.

And don't say you will shave your head.. people here can help you find other products if it is continued!

Jokes all jokes. I guess I need to search a little better because my hair is crying right now.

my phone wears the pants in this relationship.

Kinky DaySha · 02-12-2012, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by tbabyy

I don't know why I haven't felt sad about Whitney Houston dying. It's like it hasn't hit me. I looooved Whitney!!! But it did take me until the airing of the MJ funeral for it to hit me that he died. I still can't believe it sometimes.

ETA: okay, I guess I just had to watch the "I wanna dance with somebody" video...over here damn near in tears...smh. It seems we have lost sooooooooo many big people in our black community over the last year. Craziness.

Yeah I had a Whitney music marathon going over here too. I don't deal with grief well. I don't know what's wrong with me. It took me a whole month to cry over my g-ma, and we were super close, we lived together for 2 years. One day it just hit me all of a sudden, then I cried like a baby for 2 days. It took 6 months after MJ, my husband thought I was curazzzy in the corner surrounded by tissues with beat it on replay. Now Whitney.....just so much talent...what a loss for the world of music, her family and fans.

It's been a heavy weekend, a friend of the family had a heart attack on Friday. 99% occlusion of a main artery. And he was in church this morning like nothing ever happened. But I was scared for him and his family. Close call.....

And once again yall heffas move fast as hell. I usually spend Mondays tryin to catch up from the weekend, guess I have a head start.

CurlyElectra · 02-12-2012, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by adthomas

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

Wow are you guys reading TMZ? They are saying that Whitney may have mixed alcohol with Xanax, then drowned in the tub. I hope that isn't true, that's terrible.

If it is true then it shows how a lot of people jumped to conclusions that she fell off the wagon and od'ed. I think this could be a lapse in judgement that anyone could make whether they had a drug addiction or not. I have seen plenty of people mix alcohol and prescription drugs. I think some people think because they come from a doctor and are legal they can't hurt you. There is a sleeping pill that I can't remember the name right now that a lot of people have died after using it with alcohol. I know a couple of years ago I had four wisdom teeth taken out and was given some pain medicine. It said "DO NOT DRIVE OR OPERATE HEAVY MACHINERY." I hate to say it but in my stupidy of thinking I could "handle it" a few days after the operation I drove to work after taking it. I've never had to concentrate so hard in my life. I deeply regret doing that. I remember thinking "green, that means go. right? red. that's stop." Then at work people would talk to me and I would look right at them and nod my head but had no idea what they were talking about. So I'm asking everyone to please follow the directions on these meds. Don't double up dossages. Eat if it says eat. Don't drive if it says don't drive and please avoid alcohol if the warning says so.

Yes but...you have to take a lot of drugs with alcohol in order to actually pass out to the point where you can't wake up when you're drowning. Like...a LOT. Even doubling the dosage (especially if you are used to taking those drugs and have built up a tolerance), for most people, would not make you sedated to the point where you become submerged in water and that does not wake you. When people try to commit suicide in the bathtub they often drug themselves heavily because the body's natural reaction is to fight and thrash in the water. No, I'm not saying that Whitney committed suicide - I'm just saying that she had to have been heavily sedated. It's more than a lapse in judgment.

murrrcat · 02-12-2012, 09:58 PM

I really wanna shave my head.

This is not a complaint but I want to just shave it and see what it's like. I've been day dreaming about it all day.

midgi · 02-12-2012, 10:00 PM

Dont doo it!

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02-12-2012, 10:20 PM

I'm not sure if I like this dress or if I just like the color of it.

02-12-2012, 10:23 PM

She looks like an extra from a Tim Burton movie.

adthomas · 02-12-2012, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by FoxyCleopatraGuide

I'm not sure if I like this dress or if I just like the color of it.

I love the style of the dress. But I don't think it's the right color for her skin tone.This color would probably work for me because I look best in bright colors.