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Whenever a man has really liked me, he pulled out all the stops - I'm not talking about crazy, stalker, psychotic behavior. I'm talking about him making sure I knew, without a doubt, that he was interested in spending time with me. I got telephone CALLS (not a bunch of text messages all the time), and I got his time/attention. He took me out. He made plans to take me out - I wasn't some after thought, or "Plan B". I never had to be anybody other than myself, and I never felt pressure to look/be perfect. His behavior was consistent and dependable. I never caught him in a lie. That's my starting point, before even considering something serious.

There have been men who weren't as enthusiastic, and I took that behavior for what it really was....a lack of ENOUGH interest to keep me willing to invest my time/emotions. Guys have degrees of "like". They may like you, but they don't like you as much as they need to - for you to be thinking relationship. Know what you want, and don't spend time on guys who can't/won't give it to you.

You have to give a guy time to prove himself, if you want a serious relationship You need to see if all that "nice" is for real, or if it's a means to an end.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
Amen.

Why is that so hard for some people to understand?
Originally Posted by Saila
Right? I don't know. But it definitely is hard for folks to understand.
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1. Common need to leave Drake alone. What is the point? Drake is easy prey to me. Still love you though Common
2. Okay the whole story now. So I am on the train and this girl gets on and leaves one of those big rolling suitcases at the front of the train because others had left theirs too. Okay so she goes toward the back of the train a good distance away from it. She does not have enough stuff in it so it starts rolling everywhere. She doesn't get it. Finally it almost hits someone and so I take my headphones off and say "Whoever's suitcase this is, you need to get it before it hits someone." She takes like 5 minutes getting up there like our cart is not big. You should have got it the first damn time. Stupid azz. At one point a lady was holding on to it I was like hell naw I would let the mess hit the door and when it opened let that beech roll out.


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@Chi-Town Kinks.. RICK ROSS... RICK ROSS.. dude scares me. I gotta stick to rappers like Common..ROFL!

@Soleilmoncur... I know right. I mean Drake trying to act like he's oh so gangster. Man puleassse. I remember when you was looking like dis hur kneegrow:






So can Aubrey "Drake" Graham cut the BS. Drake is a darn biracial Jewish boy who went to a Hebrew Day School. How hard this kneegrow think he is..what he do pull kids kippot off and run if they got outta pocket ? Oh oh..maybe he would steal people's matzah during Pesach. Man please! He was raised in Forest Hill for pete's sake..do you know how affluent that neighborhood is ? Rich Jews all up and through there and he was raised right with them. So can he cut all this hard streets act. Drizzy another one guilty as hell of creating a fictious ancestry! I gotta laugh!
Originally Posted by *Marah*
Speaking of Aubrey Graham being a kitten cuddling fake thug and Common going IN on him...I present for your listening pleasure exibit A: The remix to Stay Schemin....
Common Stay Schemin Remix Drake Diss! (Audio Common Goes in!) Verse 3 - YouTube

Common just flexed on Aubrey Graham on a track Aubrey Graham's soft ass was already on????!!! And left Aubrey Graham on the track just to add taunts to the whole thing!!!

"you aint wetting nobody you Canada dry" I'm HOLLERN!!!!!
Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown
NOOOOOOOOOO COMMON!!!!! Omg, lol! Oh wow, and he even said, "I'm talkin to Drake!" I CAN'T!
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Whenever a man has really liked me, he pulled out all the stops - I'm not talking about crazy, stalker, psychotic behavior. I'm talking about him making sure I knew, without a doubt, that he was interested in spending time with me. I got telephone CALLS (not a bunch of text messages all the time), and I got his time/attention. He took me out. He made plans to take me out - I wasn't some after thought, or "Plan B". I never had to be anybody other than myself, and I never felt pressure to look/be perfect. His behavior was consistent and dependable. I never caught him in a lie. That's my starting point, before even considering something serious.

There have been men who weren't as enthusiastic, and I took that behavior for what it really was....a lack of ENOUGH interest to keep me willing to invest my time/emotions. Guys have degrees of "like". They may like you, but they don't like you as much as they need to - for you to be thinking relationship. Know what you want, and don't spend time on guys who can't/won't give it to you.

You have to give a guy time to prove himself, if you want a serious relationship You need to see if all that "nice" is for real, or if it's a means to an end.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
This x1000. I'm not exactly sure who gave men the idea that they could act half a$$ed and we're supposed to swoon and fall in love with them. Naw mayne, I'm good...moving on...
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
Other women, I know because I'm currently rooming with one of said women.

One minute her boyfriend is all lovey-dovey and the next he's barely even acknowledging that she exists. And it goes way beyond just that.

At first her complaints made me really concerned for her. I felt bad that a guy was putting her through all this. Then I moved to frustration because she'd give him chance after chance after chance and then waste my time complaining about him just to be head over heels in love a day later. Now I've moved to apathy.

I think guys act like that because with some women it works!
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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
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Whenever a man has really liked me, he pulled out all the stops - I'm not talking about crazy, stalker, psychotic behavior. I'm talking about him making sure I knew, without a doubt, that he was interested in spending time with me. I got telephone CALLS (not a bunch of text messages all the time), and I got his time/attention. He took me out. He made plans to take me out - I wasn't some after thought, or "Plan B". I never had to be anybody other than myself, and I never felt pressure to look/be perfect. His behavior was consistent and dependable. I never caught him in a lie. That's my starting point, before even considering something serious.

There have been men who weren't as enthusiastic, and I took that behavior for what it really was....a lack of ENOUGH interest to keep me willing to invest my time/emotions. Guys have degrees of "like". They may like you, but they don't like you as much as they need to - for you to be thinking relationship. Know what you want, and don't spend time on guys who can't/won't give it to you.

You have to give a guy time to prove himself, if you want a serious relationship You need to see if all that "nice" is for real, or if it's a means to an end.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
This x1000. I'm not exactly sure who gave men the idea that they could act half a$$ed and we're supposed to swoon and fall in love with them. Naw mayne, I'm good...moving on...
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
Other women, I know because I'm currently rooming with one of said women.

One minute her boyfriend is all lovey-dovey and the next he's barely even acknowledging that she exists. And it goes way beyond just that.

At first her complaints made me really concerned for her. I felt bad that a guy was putting her through all this. Then I moved to frustration because she'd give him chance after chance after chance and then waste my time complaining about him just to be head over heels in love a day later. Now I've moved to apathy.

I think guys act like that because with some women it works!
Originally Posted by greenjumper
For some reason I think that men are passive aggressive towards women a lot because they think that being openly aggressive makes them scary. However, psychologists consider passive aggressive behavior a form of domestic abuse. I just don't understand why people can't express their issues in a mature manner.
People should be willing to stand by the things they say. Or they shouldn't say them. If your opinion can't stand in the light of day...maybe it should stay in the dark...in your head?
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I'm dreading going back to school. I used to be one of those people that loved school and now it's just a necessary evil. Blahhh. I've heard of this happening to people so much. How does an institution built on education systematically beat the love for learning out of so many people?

Actually, I don't hate learning. I still love learning and reading books, reading new articles, and having intelligent discussions with people. I just dislike school with a fierce passion.
Originally Posted by greenjumper
By Christ! This is exactly me at the moment. I loooooved school when young and now it's such a struggle to maintain an interest in the things I'm being assessed on, or, I should say, maintain an interest in a manner that will pass me exams/essays. Oh, I could go off and read up on a topic, find it very interesting and discover that hours have passed, but somehow, this no longer translates to doing well in school, which makes me less likely to enjoy reading up on those things that I'm being assessed on. Heck, I could be trying to write an essay on respiratory diseases and end up reading about the Roman Empire. This is more likely to happen now.
I always linked it to my depression, which seemed to go hand-in-hand with me not doing as well in school and me no enjoying school (the order that these occurred in can be argued to be reversed or inverted, there's no real way to tell), but the fact remains, like you said, I do still enjoy learning and reading, so does the problem come from me or the system? But then again, others seem to enjoy it and do well, so maybe the blame does lie with me as I first thought? Who knows? Thinking/worrying about it certainly doesn't help. *sigh*

Sorry for the mini-essay! *procrastination expert here*
Originally Posted by Jo Somebody
I don't think it's you. I know a ton of people that feel this way.

I have SOME classes that I enjoy but I think this gives even more support that the problem is the system. These classes are all very similar not in subject matter but in the way they are set up.
  • The teacher is very accommodating and considerate (not letting people turn in stuff 4 weeks late and never coming to class but just realizing that people have 3-4-5 other classes and acting/lecturing/testing/scheduling with that in mind).
  • The teacher knows that he/she is talking about and is skilled in relaying that information to the students
  • There is a component other than lecture done in the classroom such as experiments, demonstrations, guest speakers, discussions
  • Students know what is expected (don't ask random questions on tests or take off random points with no indication of why the point was removed)
  • and that goal (A or B) is attainable. Not saying that you don't have to work hard for it, but it should not be next to impossible. Meaning if you attend class, do all the reading, do all of the homework, and understand the material you shouldn't get blindsided on the tests. (Last semester I had a professor with an exam average of 43% with the highest grade ever being a 67%, obviously he had to curve at the end but why put people through all the stress???)
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Whenever a man has really liked me, he pulled out all the stops - I'm not talking about crazy, stalker, psychotic behavior. I'm talking about him making sure I knew, without a doubt, that he was interested in spending time with me. I got telephone CALLS (not a bunch of text messages all the time), and I got his time/attention. He took me out. He made plans to take me out - I wasn't some after thought, or "Plan B". I never had to be anybody other than myself, and I never felt pressure to look/be perfect. His behavior was consistent and dependable. I never caught him in a lie. That's my starting point, before even considering something serious.

There have been men who weren't as enthusiastic, and I took that behavior for what it really was....a lack of ENOUGH interest to keep me willing to invest my time/emotions. Guys have degrees of "like". They may like you, but they don't like you as much as they need to - for you to be thinking relationship. Know what you want, and don't spend time on guys who can't/won't give it to you.

You have to give a guy time to prove himself, if you want a serious relationship You need to see if all that "nice" is for real, or if it's a means to an end.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
This x1000. I'm not exactly sure who gave men the idea that they could act half a$$ed and we're supposed to swoon and fall in love with them. Naw mayne, I'm good...moving on...
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
Other women, I know because I'm currently rooming with one of said women.

One minute her boyfriend is all lovey-dovey and the next he's barely even acknowledging that she exists. And it goes way beyond just that.

At first her complaints made me really concerned for her. I felt bad that a guy was putting her through all this. Then I moved to frustration because she'd give him chance after chance after chance and then waste my time complaining about him just to be head over heels in love a day later. Now I've moved to apathy.

I think guys act like that because with some women it works!
Originally Posted by greenjumper

,,,and another thing (btw, my commentary is based on an OT thread), I wonder why women think a man can be "scared away" so easily? I get tired of the, "some guys get scared if they think you like them too much" mentality. Man tha hell up!

Really? Hmmmm. I have never been able to "scare" a man off....not one who was really interested. Lord knows, I've tried. All it did was make him MORE persistent.

When a man really digs a woman, she has favor with him (he's not easily turned off by her shortcomings)...and as long as she's not some fatal attraction/stalker nut, she doesn't have to worry about him being scared off by her attraction to him....her wanting to spend time with him should not cause him to take flight.

When a man "runs" from/avoids/ignores a woman, it's because he doesn't want to be in her space. He's not feelin' her. She's not a priority. I wish a guy would disappear on me, for days/weeks, and then "come back" with a....text message. Get outta here!

We often spend so much time tryna to get a guy to get on board (or wondering why he's not on board), that we totally miss that he ain't interested in the journey, AND often we don't even like him all that much...we just like that initial attention that he's spreadin' on heavy, cuz he wants something.

I don't know...maybe I'm just too old for the games.
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Nea - No, I think you make perfect sense. It's really not that complicated. My friend that's into games etc. had a lot of self-esteem and insecurity issues. Now that college boys give her ANY attention, it completes her life or something. It's bizarre. She is definitely more into material things and status symbols though. She likes diamonds and gets impressed if boys buy their gfs Coach bags or something. I personally could not care less. She also dates guys for their looks/status and adheres strongly to strict gender roles. To each their own. But yeah, she gets excited if dudes text her... Like really? They're probably just bored. Lol
I am not sure how I would feel about my hubby telling the world in a rap about my miscarriage... but blessings for this little one making it.

Beyonce Baby Blue Ivy Cry Sampled on Jay-Z Song : People.com
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
I know! I'd be horrified, and you know folks are going to start judging her and how much she works. The song was sweet though.

-on this phone that makes it too hard to capitalize letters.
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I am not sure how I would feel about my hubby telling the world in a rap about my miscarriage... but blessings for this little one making it.

Beyonce Baby Blue Ivy Cry Sampled on Jay-Z Song : People.com
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
I know! I'd be horrified, and you know folks are going to start judging her and how much she works. The song was sweet though.

-on this phone that makes it too hard to capitalize letters.
Originally Posted by NaturallyCJ
I'm sorry. I used to say that I was one of those people that could never comment on a visually unfortunate infant/ child......but I've seen the light. So I'm just gonna keep on truckin . However people are going to judge her regardless, just becuase her mother is who she is. And the fact that her father resembles a Camel and she may or may not have those features....that is just something that lil Blue is going to have to deal with. I am sure B and J can afford a good therapist.
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I am not sure how I would feel about my hubby telling the world in a rap about my miscarriage... but blessings for this little one making it.

Beyonce Baby Blue Ivy Cry Sampled on Jay-Z Song : People.com
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
I know! I'd be horrified, and you know folks are going to start judging her and how much she works. The song was sweet though.

-on this phone that makes it too hard to capitalize letters.
Originally Posted by NaturallyCJ
I am positive that Bey knew Jay-Z was doing that..they seem to be very guarded about their relationship so I SERIOUSLY doubt she didn't know he was going to tell that..frankly..it seems they planned it cause he had this stuff ready.

I tried to post here earlier but ended up posting in the Non-Hair section cause I was on my silly phone and I don't know how to work it right. Anyway, they all over there tripping out about how Beyonce faked her pregnancy, how they shut the hospitial down, and these rumors that folks couldn't see their babies.

I call BS! Bey had a miscarriage..she and Jay and super big time celebrities and a miscarriage for any couple is devastating..and I triple guarantee you that baby was planned just like this one was..cause neither of them strike me as just doing ish without a plan. I think what they did was waited very late to tell the public in their own way so they could control things. Like they ALWAYS have in their relationship. And then skewed the time line so it could toss folks off. Frankly, I don't blame them.

White celebrities do CRAZY ISH all the time..shutting down whole business and what not. I am not going to hate on this BLACK MARRIED couple that have not made a mockery of marriage or their relationship because they chose to do what they felt neccessary to protect their privacy like other celebs and rich ass people do.

So what..they had high security and what not at a hospital...the hospital and security gladly took their million to facilitate all of this..and I don't believe for one second others couldn't see their babies..I believe they simply had to go through high security measures different than what they expected or were used to and felt a certain way about it.

We been allowing the rich and famous in society to get special privledges..we all know this ish so no need to front about it now cause it's Bey and Jay. SO WHAT.

They got hundreds of millions..you know business, hospitals, resturants, resorts, etc gonna push the average joe out the way to give them what they want..and if any of us had millions about 99% of us would take full advantage of all that our money can bring us too. So I say GTFODBS about them shutting a hospital down!

Last edited by *Marah*; 01-09-2012 at 03:46 PM.
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that song is corny.

idc if its about a baby its lame.
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