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LadyV69 · 03-09-2012, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

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Originally Posted by curlyberry

Wow, disgusting.

U.S. News - When rumor, the Internet and school violence fears collide

It's like so many kids today have little to no foresight....they have very poor judgement and they never see the consequences of their actions, before stuff gets out of hand. No critical thinking skills. They get an impulse, and they go with it...knee jerk reaction. They never see the train wreck coming.

Seems like these beings are gettin' more cruel and insensitive, with each generation....just mean-spirited and hateful. Don't claim that's just "being a kid", because it's not. I wasn't like that when I was a kid (and none of my friends were either). How do you "teach" compassion and kindness, and when do the lessons start? I'm curious, cuz I saw a 4-year old swingin' at a PUPPY, with a rake, just a few days ago. I intervened, and took a moment to teach a child how to handle a creature, smaller and more fragile. Many folks would have laughed, shook their heads...and kept movin', which is a problem.

I'm so sick of "Facebook"...period. Too many dummies (adults and their offspring) being irresponsible, at someone else's expense.

I have to take issue with this. Stuff like bullying and kids gossiping, slam books and the like have existed for decades. It only seems like the problem is getting worse because cable TV and the Internet have a 24 hour news cycle and sensational things like the Chardon shooting are spread through these channels in a matter of minutes. 30 or 40 years ago, it's unlikely you would have heard about that shooting outside of Ohio. Also, in a number of states, it's ridiculously easy to get a gun. I don't have a "good old days" mentality, because I don't believe the "good old days" were always so great. It's human nature to think the past was better when we're dealing with rapid change and challenges.

LadyV69 · 03-09-2012, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks

My 14yr old nephew's classmate tried to commit suicide yesterday. Thankfully it didn't work and physically he will be fine.

My sister is real good friends with the boys parents....they are nice people, hard working and have always been supportive and involved in his life. To my knowledge there is no physical or mental abuse. He gets good grades, plays sports, is involved at school, pretty well rounded kid.

I couldn't for the life of me understand why this boy would attempt something like this. I'm a firm believer that suicide is the most selfish and cowardly act an individual can do. There are certain circumstances that I can possibly grasp why the thought would even be entertained but this situation is not one of those situations...this is only my opinion.

My question is what could be sooo bad that a child of 14/15 would even attempt suicide? At his age he does not have a family to provide for, no mortgage, not even old enough to work....his only job is to go to school, get good grades and take out the trash.

As he now begins to get the help he needs and hopefully he is able to move past this, he will have the scars that "he can't deal with the burdens of life" and he will be judged accordingly.

vIa tHiS rAgEdY aSs pHoNe

Society views adolescence as this carefree, joyous time of life, but for me personally, it was hell. I also comtemplated suicide at that age. Even more so now than when I was that age, kids are under tremendous pressure to do well academically and to continue their education beyond high school, because it's no longer possible to earn a living wage with just a high school diploma. Also people view outgoing kids more positively (same as for adults, really) since extroversion is more highly valued in our society. I went to one of the top high school in my city, which was very competitive. Kids would literally cry or blow or fuse if they got a 99 or merely an A. That kind of environment overwhelmed me. Also, I wasn't (and still am not) very outgoing. I was shy, socially awkward and socially anxious. By the time I graduated high school, I added depression to the list as my other issues made it hard for me to connect with others. I didn't have a lot of friends during that time and felt that no one gave a damn if I lived or died because throughout much of that time, I felt invisible. As a result, I lagged behind socially. Some of the social nuances that kids that age learn, I didn't learn until my late 20's. I thought something had to be wrong with me because I wasn't as happy as I thought I should be. Throw in emotionally distant parents and I was a real mess. Yet anyone looking from the outside wouldn't have thought anything was amiss.

I pray that this young man gets the help he needs. He could have been bullied, fallen behind academically, any number of things.

CurlyElectra · 03-09-2012, 08:44 AM

Meh

Nappy_curly_crown · 03-09-2012, 09:14 AM

Vacation is calling me. I can feel the warm sun rays, hear the music, and taste my fruity cocktail.

*Sigh* Have passport will travel.

cheveuxbouclés · 03-09-2012, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

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Originally Posted by curlyberry

Wow, disgusting.

U.S. News - When rumor, the Internet and school violence fears collide

It's like so many kids today have little to no foresight....they have very poor judgement and they never see the consequences of their actions, before stuff gets out of hand. No critical thinking skills. They get an impulse, and they go with it...knee jerk reaction. They never see the train wreck coming.

Seems like these beings are gettin' more cruel and insensitive, with each generation....just mean-spirited and hateful. Don't claim that's just "being a kid", because it's not. I wasn't like that when I was a kid (and none of my friends were either). How do you "teach" compassion and kindness, and when do the lessons start? I'm curious, cuz I saw a 4-year old swingin' at a PUPPY, with a rake, just a few days ago. I intervened, and took a moment to teach a child how to handle a creature, smaller and more fragile. Many folks would have laughed, shook their heads...and kept movin', which is a problem.

I'm so sick of "Facebook"...period. Too many dummies (adults and their offspring) being irresponsible, at someone else's expense.

I have to take issue with this. Stuff like bullying and kids gossiping, slam books and the like have existed for decades. It only seems like the problem is getting worse because cable TV and the Internet have a 24 hour news cycle and sensational things like the Chardon shooting are spread through these channels in a matter of minutes. 30 or 40 years ago, it's unlikely you would have heard about that shooting outside of Ohio. Also, in a number of states, it's ridiculously easy to get a gun. I don't have a "good old days" mentality, because I don't believe the "good old days" were always so great. It's human nature to think the past was better when we're dealing with rapid change and challenges.

You know what I heard yesterday? Two sisters in elementary school almost got arrested, because they were trying to jump somebody's MAMA! WHERE DA HELL PEOPLE DO DAT AT? In the 5th grade, I sassed the hell out of a teacher every so often-- but plotting to jump somebody's mother? Hell no. So yeah, there is no amount of " oh things like this happened all the time when we were little" to convince me that these kids are not becoming more aggressive, entitled, violent, and downright disrespectful. I've worked in some sort of capacity with children for over 15 years and I can say unequivocally that children are INDEED different from what most generations were 15 years ago.

It's not that bullying or violence didn't happen during those times, but more of the fact that it was not the norm like it is now. Yes, the media plays a role in broadcasting these situations, but um, do you really think that there would have been a mass shooting like that in the 70's or 80's in the first place? Easy access to guns or not, the world has become a vastly different place. Back in those days, a kid could bully you to some extent in the school or neighborhood, perhaps. Now, a bully can find you on FB or twitter and taunt you. Make a page dedicated to calling you a slut. Send you 40 texts messages a day calling you a ***got. It's relentless.That is why I don't question or judge how a teenager can commit suicide. Because the bullying may seem like it's never going to end. The message for those teens needs to be that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Not that they are selfish or don't understand how worse life can be, because in their mind, life is as bad as it gets.

IAmJordanNicole · 03-09-2012, 10:10 AM

I had the best kiss of my life yesterday and I cannot stop smiling!

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soleilmoncur · 03-09-2012, 10:17 AM

I'm supposed to go to Paris tomorrow for an exam and I can't get a break from all the **** that's happening.

Jo Somebody · 03-09-2012, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks

My 14yr old nephew's classmate tried to commit suicide yesterday. Thankfully it didn't work and physically he will be fine.

My sister is real good friends with the boys parents....they are nice people, hard working and have always been supportive and involved in his life. To my knowledge there is no physical or mental abuse. He gets good grades, plays sports, is involved at school, pretty well rounded kid.

I couldn't for the life of me understand why this boy would attempt something like this. I'm a firm believer that suicide is the most selfish and cowardly act an individual can do. There are certain circumstances that I can possibly grasp why the thought would even be entertained but this situation is not one of those situations...this is only my opinion.

My question is what could be sooo bad that a child of 14/15 would even attempt suicide? At his age he does not have a family to provide for, no mortgage, not even old enough to work....his only job is to go to school, get good grades and take out the trash.

As he now begins to get the help he needs and hopefully he is able to move past this, he will have the scars that "he can't deal with the burdens of life" and he will be judged accordingly.

vIa tHiS rAgEdY aSs pHoNe

Society views adolescence as this carefree, joyous time of life, but for me personally, it was hell. I also comtemplated suicide at that age. Even more so now than when I was that age, kids are under tremendous pressure to do well academically and to continue their education beyond high school, because it's no longer possible to earn a living wage with just a high school diploma. Also people view outgoing kids more positively (same as for adults, really) since extroversion is more highly valued in our society. I went to one of the top high school in my city, which was very competitive. Kids would literally cry or blow or fuse if they got a 99 or merely an A. That kind of environment overwhelmed me. Also, I wasn't (and still am not) very outgoing. I was shy, socially awkward and socially anxious. By the time I graduated high school, I added depression to the list as my other issues made it hard for me to connect with others. I didn't have a lot of friends during that time and felt that no one gave a damn if I lived or died because throughout much of that time, I felt invisible. As a result, I lagged behind socially. Some of the social nuances that kids that age learn, I didn't learn until my late 20's. I thought something had to be wrong with me because I wasn't as happy as I thought I should be. Throw in emotionally distant parents and I was a real mess. Yet anyone looking from the outside wouldn't have thought anything was amiss.

I pray that this young man gets the help he needs. He could have been bullied, fallen behind academically, any number of things.

My life in print.
I never could understand the confusion that comes when teenage/adolescent suicide or attempts. It's not care free at all, unless you don't care and it's not the ones that don't care or think about the future that are choosing to stop now (in my experience). It seems the teenage years can easily be a horrible time. You're under ridiculous social pressure, you're constantly being told that every action you do is laying permanent foundation for your future (they never tell you not to fret too much because even if you mess things up or don't follow the normal sequence in life, things can still end up brilliantly), so yes, you're under incredible academic pressure too, you're in some horrible limbo between being an adult and still being a child, encouraged to think for yourself (or not in some cases) but you'd better not do what you want to do, your body is doing strange things and there is peer pressure related to drugs, sex or alcohol, or even worse, no peer pressure at all because you're invisible and no one you want to give a damn actually gives a damn about what you do, you have no money, you're bullied or under the pressure to be a bully or watching your actions all the time to maintain your status as neither one of the two, and even though they have most likely lived through what you're going through, your parents have no idea of the greater details of your life, let alone one of their friend's sister or whatever.

I hated the vast majority of my teenage years. The start of Uni was soooo much better, until my mum died of course and threw me for a loop, destroying the few things I thought I was sure about. My parents loved me/all of us, were attentive, kept us all safe in a area in the dregs of London, tried to instill the fear/love of God in us (I'm not even going to start on that one), made the most of the little we had and they still got it completely wrong with me in many ways and had no idea how empty I was.

Yeah, you're carefree in that you don't have children depending on you or a job to try and keep. I'll put that fact to you in another way, you're not needed and will take away the burden of having you depend on them from your parents.

Maybe that was just me.

CocoT · 03-09-2012, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by IAmJordanNicole

I had the best kiss of my life yesterday and I cannot stop smiling!

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Yay! Did you go in for it or did he?

Jo Somebody · 03-09-2012, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by IAmJordanNicole

I had the best kiss of my life yesterday and I cannot stop smiling!

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Was it upside-down in the rain?? Did you initiate?

Chicago Kinks · 03-09-2012, 10:25 AM

I miss 1996 Lil' Kim...that Hardcore CD was my isht. Too bad a crackhead stole it out my car, good news is he "sold" it back to me.

Gotta love Chi-town!

vIa tHiS rAgEdY aSs pHoNe

Nappy_curly_crown · 03-09-2012, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

It's like so many kids today have little to no foresight....they have very poor judgement and they never see the consequences of their actions, before stuff gets out of hand. No critical thinking skills. They get an impulse, and they go with it...knee jerk reaction. They never see the train wreck coming.

Seems like these beings are gettin' more cruel and insensitive, with each generation....just mean-spirited and hateful. Don't claim that's just "being a kid", because it's not. I wasn't like that when I was a kid (and none of my friends were either). How do you "teach" compassion and kindness, and when do the lessons start? I'm curious, cuz I saw a 4-year old swingin' at a PUPPY, with a rake, just a few days ago. I intervened, and took a moment to teach a child how to handle a creature, smaller and more fragile. Many folks would have laughed, shook their heads...and kept movin', which is a problem.

I'm so sick of "Facebook"...period. Too many dummies (adults and their offspring) being irresponsible, at someone else's expense.

I have to take issue with this. Stuff like bullying and kids gossiping, slam books and the like have existed for decades. It only seems like the problem is getting worse because cable TV and the Internet have a 24 hour news cycle and sensational things like the Chardon shooting are spread through these channels in a matter of minutes. 30 or 40 years ago, it's unlikely you would have heard about that shooting outside of Ohio. Also, in a number of states, it's ridiculously easy to get a gun. I don't have a "good old days" mentality, because I don't believe the "good old days" were always so great. It's human nature to think the past was better when we're dealing with rapid change and challenges.

You know what I heard yesterday? Two sisters in elementary school almost got arrested, because they were trying to jump somebody's MAMA! WHERE DA HELL PEOPLE DO DAT AT? In the 5th grade, I sassed the hell out of a teacher every so often-- but plotting to jump somebody's mother? Hell no. So yeah, there is no amount of " oh things like this happened all the time when we were little" to convince me that these kids are not becoming more aggressive, entitled, violent, and downright disrespectful. I've worked in some sort of capacity with children for over 15 years and I can say unequivocally that children are INDEED different from what most generations were 15 years ago.

It's not that bullying or violence didn't happen during those times, but more of the fact that it was not the norm like it is now. Yes, the media plays a role in broadcasting these situations, but um, do you really think that there would have been a mass shooting like that in the 70's or 80's in the first place? Easy access to guns or not, the world has become a vastly different place. Back in those days, a kid could bully you to some extent in the school or neighborhood, perhaps. Now, a bully can find you on FB or twitter and taunt you. Make a page dedicated to calling you a slut. Send you 40 texts messages a day calling you a ***got. It's relentless.That is why I don't question or judge how a teenager can commit suicide. Because the bullying may seem like it's never going to end. The message for those teens needs to be that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Not that they are selfish or don't understand how worse life can be, because in their mind, life is as bad as it gets.

This is what I keep trying to explain to people. I was bullied as a kid. At school it was manageable because there were always people to interceed...teachers, admin, and my friends. It mostly was bad on the bus or when adults were not around. But one thing was that when I went home and closed that front door, it was OVER for the day. I got some reprieve and got a chance to get my **** together to face it the next day. I also had parents, church folks, and friends that reinforced that I was a great person and not what the bullies tried to make me feel. For kids that are bullied now, that mess is 24/7. I could not imagine what they are going through, how it must make them feel, and how it must reek havioc on thier self-esteem.

I know even back then there were days where I skipped school just to get away from it or stayed home. I was depressed and frustrated and I know I used to think about hurting the folks that bullied me...and my bullying wasn't 24/7 nor was it the worst of what I know other folks experienced back in the day. I think had I been subjected to this bullying these kids are getting now a days....Columbine wouldn't have had ish on my meltdown.

CurlyElectra · 03-09-2012, 10:41 AM

I've watched this twice today...

#KonyMania - YouTube

sweetmx85 · 03-09-2012, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown

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Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

I have to take issue with this. Stuff like bullying and kids gossiping, slam books and the like have existed for decades. It only seems like the problem is getting worse because cable TV and the Internet have a 24 hour news cycle and sensational things like the Chardon shooting are spread through these channels in a matter of minutes. 30 or 40 years ago, it's unlikely you would have heard about that shooting outside of Ohio. Also, in a number of states, it's ridiculously easy to get a gun. I don't have a "good old days" mentality, because I don't believe the "good old days" were always so great. It's human nature to think the past was better when we're dealing with rapid change and challenges.

You know what I heard yesterday? Two sisters in elementary school almost got arrested, because they were trying to jump somebody's MAMA! WHERE DA HELL PEOPLE DO DAT AT? In the 5th grade, I sassed the hell out of a teacher every so often-- but plotting to jump somebody's mother? Hell no. So yeah, there is no amount of " oh things like this happened all the time when we were little" to convince me that these kids are not becoming more aggressive, entitled, violent, and downright disrespectful. I've worked in some sort of capacity with children for over 15 years and I can say unequivocally that children are INDEED different from what most generations were 15 years ago.

It's not that bullying or violence didn't happen during those times, but more of the fact that it was not the norm like it is now. Yes, the media plays a role in broadcasting these situations, but um, do you really think that there would have been a mass shooting like that in the 70's or 80's in the first place? Easy access to guns or not, the world has become a vastly different place. Back in those days, a kid could bully you to some extent in the school or neighborhood, perhaps. Now, a bully can find you on FB or twitter and taunt you. Make a page dedicated to calling you a slut. Send you 40 texts messages a day calling you a ***got. It's relentless.That is why I don't question or judge how a teenager can commit suicide. Because the bullying may seem like it's never going to end. The message for those teens needs to be that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Not that they are selfish or don't understand how worse life can be, because in their mind, life is as bad as it gets.

This is what I keep trying to explain to people. I was bullied as a kid. At school it was manageable because there were always people to interceed...teachers, admin, and my friends. It mostly was bad on the bus or when adults were not around. But one thing was that when I went home and closed that front door, it was OVER for the day. I got some reprieve and got a chance to get my **** together to face it the next day. I also had parents, church folks, and friends that reinforced that I was a great person and not what the bullies tried to make me feel. For kids that are bullied now, that mess is 24/7. I could not imagine what they are going through, how it must make them feel, and how it must reek havioc on thier self-esteem.

I know even back then there were days where I skipped school just to get away from it or stayed home. I was depressed and frustrated and I know I used to think about hurting the folks that bullied me...and my bullying wasn't 24/7 nor was it the worst of what I know other folks experienced back in the day. I think had I been subjected to this bullying these kids are getting now a days....Columbine wouldn't have had ish on my meltdown.

when I was in middle school that movie clueless had just come out, I wanted to be popular so bad, the girls I hung with we're " the cool girls and football players" they were really mean to everyone else, very stuck up. so I did that for a little while till one day I made fun of a girl for what she was wearing and I saw her crying later. I felt so bad I wrote her a letter apologizing, I didn't make fun of anyone after that, I sort of switched teams and started sticking up for the ppl getting made fun of. I remember I started sitting w the kids who got it the worse at lunch instead my old table and still to this day when I run into those kids ( adults now) they're nice. I hate seeing people get picked on. when I was in elementary school I was picked on for being mixed and a Tom boy so I was always fighting. that's why when I switched schools for middle school I wasike I'm not going through this here. high school I was home schooled though. there's one teacher I had in middle school who was very soft spoken and too nice and I ran all over her, I wish I could find her now and apologize for all I put her through when I was in her class. nothing crazy started happening though with kids acting too far out of control till I started homeschool. so high school years I heard stories of this boy getting beat up etc for being gay.

CocoT · 03-09-2012, 10:48 AM

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IAmJordanNicole · 03-09-2012, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Jo Somebody

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Originally Posted by IAmJordanNicole

I had the best kiss of my life yesterday and I cannot stop smiling!

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Was it upside-down in the rain?? Did you initiate?

Well, our first kiss on Wednesday he initiated and it sucked. Then yesterday I initiated one and it was okay. But last night the good bye kiss that was mutually initiated I guess was incredible!!!!! I'm so happy!

But it wasn't upside down, and it was inside, but it was raining outside...does that count for anything??

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greenjumper · 03-09-2012, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks

My 14yr old nephew's classmate tried to commit suicide yesterday. Thankfully it didn't work and physically he will be fine.

My sister is real good friends with the boys parents....they are nice people, hard working and have always been supportive and involved in his life. To my knowledge there is no physical or mental abuse. He gets good grades, plays sports, is involved at school, pretty well rounded kid.

I couldn't for the life of me understand why this boy would attempt something like this. I'm a firm believer that suicide is the most selfish and cowardly act an individual can do. There are certain circumstances that I can possibly grasp why the thought would even be entertained but this situation is not one of those situations...this is only my opinion.

My question is what could be sooo bad that a child of 14/15 would even attempt suicide? At his age he does not have a family to provide for, no mortgage, not even old enough to work....his only job is to go to school, get good grades and take out the trash.

As he now begins to get the help he needs and hopefully he is able to move past this, he will have the scars that "he can't deal with the burdens of life" and he will be judged accordingly.

vIa tHiS rAgEdY aSs pHoNe

Society views adolescence as this carefree, joyous time of life, but for me personally, it was hell. I also comtemplated suicide at that age. Even more so now than when I was that age, kids are under tremendous pressure to do well academically and to continue their education beyond high school, because it's no longer possible to earn a living wage with just a high school diploma. Also people view outgoing kids more positively (same as for adults, really) since extroversion is more highly valued in our society. I went to one of the top high school in my city, which was very competitive. Kids would literally cry or blow or fuse if they got a 99 or merely an A. That kind of environment overwhelmed me. Also, I wasn't (and still am not) very outgoing. I was shy, socially awkward and socially anxious. By the time I graduated high school, I added depression to the list as my other issues made it hard for me to connect with others. I didn't have a lot of friends during that time and felt that no one gave a damn if I lived or died because throughout much of that time, I felt invisible. As a result, I lagged behind socially. Some of the social nuances that kids that age learn, I didn't learn until my late 20's. I thought something had to be wrong with me because I wasn't as happy as I thought I should be. Throw in emotionally distant parents and I was a real mess. Yet anyone looking from the outside wouldn't have thought anything was amiss.

I pray that this young man gets the help he needs. He could have been bullied, fallen behind academically, any number of things.

Yep, yep, yep.

Cerendipity · 03-09-2012, 11:12 AM

I was just hit on by an 8th grader.

I took that darn bow off as soon as I hit my house!

vegas_curls · 03-09-2012, 11:18 AM

My curiosity got the best of me - All of Keeny's talk of SpongeBob twins and Jay Leno piqued my interest, so I youtubed a random episode of Bad Girls Club Las Vegas because I'd never seen it.

First off, those are 14 minutes of my life I want back.

Second, what's the purpose of the show? Are those, uh, females (can't call 'em ladies) living, eating, partying, mayhem creating, etc., free of charge for just the heck of it? To out bad each other??? Or are they living in a mansion with the purpose of eventually being reformed? I don't get it, nor will I, b/c I won't bother ever watching to find out.

Third - what a bunch of disgustingly nasty, triflin', stanknasty heffas. Cova up yo cooch son!

tbabyy · 03-09-2012, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Cerendipity

I was just hit on by an 8th grader.

I took that darn bow off as soon as I hit my house!

Lmfao!!!!!!!!!

*My smartphone is too uppity to fix typos