This made me laugh!!!uhhh... i still stand by my original advice, just for different reasons now:I forgot to add that I KNOW she still has feelings for him. They talk every now and again but he's no longer interested. She came to visit a month or so ago (she did not make an effort to see me) and when she was here she called him begging him to have sex with her. He said no and she got mad. She did call me and tell me about that but I was glad that he said no because I was eyeing him up! lolif it's been 4 years, AND she lives far away, i doubt she'd even care. i would hope she'd have moved on by now.
if you guys don't talk regularly, i wouldn't make a point of telling her. she'll find out when she finds out.
1) she must not value your friendship if she came in town to see some dude that doesn't want her, and made no effort to see her actual friend... wait, did she only remember your name after he rejected her, or did she at least tell you she was coming to town?
2)umm... anyone that shameless and desperate is NOT gonna take the news well. i'd wait til y'all officially have a thing going before letting her know. she might try to plant seeds of doubt in his ind about you or something.
but like... she called him and begged him for sex? and he said no? and she got upset about it? AND she told a third party about it?! now, i've never even had the first three things happen to me, but if it ever did, i DEF wouldn't tell anyone else about it. i'd take that w/ me to the grave, and if he ever told anyone, i'd deny it to the death. i do NOT want folks knowing i was ever that desperate. too much paynus out here for all that.
In her defense, I did know that she was coming and she didn't come to town just to see him. She actually didn't end up seeing either of us.
I think she's been getting suspicious of our relationship because of social networks. Like he'll check in and tag me with him, or I'll tweet pics of us. She has called me and said, "so I see you and L have been hanging out a lot" I just say yeah and move on. He says she's called and said the same.
She has NO filter and will tell ALL of her business, so I wasn't surprised when she told me that. He actually wasn't going to mention it, I brought it up to him. I think the fact that he turned her down attracted me to him more because I felt it was very gentlemen like. Most men, I feel would have used her.
I want to avoid drama if I can...but out of respect I'd hate for her to find out from anywhere but me, ya know?
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