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After further inspection, it looks like he was at least trying to get a caramel macchiato before he fell out cold. He was trying to sober up, I'll cut him some slack.
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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
I have a feeling earlier he was in there acting a dayum fool and decided to fake pass out and the other patrons weren't going for his dumbness..so that dude just kindly step over him to place his order as the others looked on.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
Marah tell the truth...you took this picture didn't you? I see you...got ALL the details to the siti-ation.

LOL But for real that's what I imagine too. I would've given him a wide berth on my way to get my coffee. Acted like I couldn't see his fool Patrick the starfish asz.

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Originally Posted by AmberBrown
No, I didn't take it..but I'm all to familiar with the fact that certain kneegrows like to go into a bidness establishment and act a dayum fool putting on an act in an episode of KneeGrowDumb. And all I had to do was look at that pic and know what probably occurred..as these white folks looked on in Starbucks.

I betcha if someone would have stepped on that damn big azz belly of his..his azz would have come out of whatever coma or hypnotic state he was in..betcha dat skhit!
Okay...I went and read the "Childfree not by choice", or whatever it's called. GF got ripped and while I think she deserved some it, I think folks clowned on her.

First off, I reject ANY notion that says you have to be a parent to have any say on parenting. That's simply not the case, and that's a lousy way of reasoning. If you're a "bad parent", that's just what you are. Doesn't matter if a childless person recognizes it, or the Woman Who Lived In A Shoe recognizes it. The "What do YOU know, childless one?" responses are just as haughty and out of touch as her comments. People scratch, when they itch. If the OP had commented on what a "good parent" she was/is, nobody would have fired back with, "How do you know? YOU don't have any kids". That's stupid. Now, it's also stupid to see a kid with a Pop Tart in their mouth a few times, and think momma is a failure. I get that. But just because you bake doesn't make you a good baker. It makes you a baker for sure. Wisdom is wisdom, and foolishness is foolishness. All day long, 24/7.

When I told my married cousin that he was a lousy husband for cheating on his wife, he fired back with the dumb stuff, "You don't know. You're not married. Marriage is hard". Okay...and you're still a lousy excuse for a husband. Make it about me being "single" and not "knowing what it takes to stay married", but that doesn't take anything away from me. You're an adulterer. Change your behavior, and stop whining about being "judged". Work on your marriage, and if you don't want it, let your wife go and move on. Common sense is all that is.

Secondly, while the OP does not know all of what the other woman does with her children, neither do the women at NC. She's closer to the situation than I am, so....why so much venom?

My problem with her is that her focus is off. She does need to mind her own business, and if she thought the mom was a bad mother, she should have kept it to herself. I knew it was goin' down, after I read her breakdown of the momma. She seems to want motherhood for the wrong reasons.

Thirdly, ANYBODY can get married, if that's all they want. I wish people would stop acting like finding a body to marry is SO hard. It's really not. The OP has erected roadblocks, preventing access to where she claims she wants to go. That's way more important than her assessment of her ex man's wife's parenting skills.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
If I recall correctly, she's posted before about her ex's baby mama. Every instance that I recall was her making herself this awesome parental figure and woman a clown. I call it suspect. Her ex also liked to spend more time with this woman even though bananashakes objected and eventually he choose his ex over her. She's jealous and bitter, IMO.
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Okay...I went and read the "Childfree not by choice", or whatever it's called. GF got ripped and while I think she deserved some it, I think folks clowned on her.

First off, I reject ANY notion that says you have to be a parent to have any say on parenting. That's simply not the case, and that's a lousy way of reasoning. If you're a "bad parent", that's just what you are. Doesn't matter if a childless person recognizes it, or the Woman Who Lived In A Shoe recognizes it. The "What do YOU know, childless one?" responses are just as haughty and out of touch as her comments. People scratch, when they itch. If the OP had commented on what a "good parent" she was/is, nobody would have fired back with, "How do you know? YOU don't have any kids". That's stupid. Now, it's also stupid to see a kid with a Pop Tart in their mouth a few times, and think momma is a failure. I get that. But just because you bake doesn't make you a good baker. It makes you a baker for sure. Wisdom is wisdom, and foolishness is foolishness. All day long, 24/7.

When I told my married cousin that he was a lousy husband for cheating on his wife, he fired back with the dumb stuff, "You don't know. You're not married. Marriage is hard". Okay...and you're still a lousy excuse for a husband. Make it about me being "single" and not "knowing what it takes to stay married", but that doesn't take anything away from me. You're an adulterer. Change your behavior, and stop whining about being "judged". Work on your marriage, and if you don't want it, let your wife go and move on. Common sense is all that is.

Secondly, while the OP does not know all of what the other woman does with her children, neither do the women at NC. She's closer to the situation than I am, so....why so much venom?

My problem with her is that her focus is off. She does need to mind her own business, and if she thought the mom was a bad mother, she should have kept it to herself. I knew it was goin' down, after I read her breakdown of the momma. She seems to want motherhood for the wrong reasons.

Thirdly, ANYBODY can get married, if that's all they want. I wish people would stop acting like finding a body to marry is SO hard. It's really not. The OP has erected roadblocks, preventing access to where she claims she wants to go. That's way more important than her assessment of her ex man's wife's parenting skills.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
If I recall correctly, she's posted before about her ex's baby mama. Every instance that I recall was her making herself this awesome parental figure and woman a clown. I call it suspect. Her ex also liked to spend more time with this woman even though bananashakes objected and eventually he choose his ex over her. She's jealous and bitter, IMO.
Originally Posted by afrosheenqueen
I totally agree...100+
If that woman hadn't been her ex's baby mama, and she was happy and content in her own life, that woman's "lack" of whatever would not have been an issue.

Her one sentence summed it up, where she said she felt like she was a "failure" or something like that, because she had produced any offspring. That's troubling...and most telling of her mental state. It ain't about the baby mama givin' the kids Fruit Rollups for dinner. Trust me. She's mad, because the other woman "won". That is all.

My issue was all the mommas started "defending" themselves, when it was clear what was really going on.
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Last edited by Kinky DaySha; 01-11-2012 at 12:21 AM. Reason: not really the same thing..
Kinda wondering if this head cold I have that came out of left field is legit or my body getting gunk out of my system. Also I feel like my pug is judging me when I am sneezing like crazy and blowing my nose. Like beech what is ur issue? Get it together I am trying to sleep.

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Christina A (in the pics) is what many black men would call "thick". White men and women would probably call her "fat", because white men/women OFTEN (not always) have a thinner body ideal than other cultures. My white brides OFTEN refer to themselves as "fat", or "a cow", and I just roll my eyes and shake my head.

So. who's right? Nobody. Everybody has a different standard, and that will never change. Be who you are, and be happy with it. If you're not happy with it, change it, if you can.

I also agree that Christina A will be the "white Jennifer Hudson", when she loses the fat/weight/extra junk/whatever you wanna call it. Why? Because she's an entertainer, and her career depends on her body. Nothing more, nothing less.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
i've seen black ppl call a white girl fat, but call a black girl who is the same size or bigger (and carries the weight the same way thick. it seems like everyone just gives black women passes to be as big as the want (until the muffin tops and cellulite comes out), but white girls get sh*t one by the same ppl for being the same size.

i don't recall anyone going in on mariah carey a few years ago when she gained weight and was walking around looking like some stuffed sausage in those tight ass dresses.

Last edited by Keenylicious; 01-11-2012 at 01:08 AM.
Christina A (in the pics) is what many black men would call "thick". White men and women would probably call her "fat", because white men/women OFTEN (not always) have a thinner body ideal than other cultures. My white brides OFTEN refer to themselves as "fat", or "a cow", and I just roll my eyes and shake my head.

So. who's right? Nobody. Everybody has a different standard, and that will never change. Be who you are, and be happy with it. If you're not happy with it, change it, if you can.

I also agree that Christina A will be the "white Jennifer Hudson", when she loses the fat/weight/extra junk/whatever you wanna call it. Why? Because she's an entertainer, and her career depends on her body. Nothing more, nothing less.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
i've seen black ppl call a white girl fat, but call a black girl who is the same size or bigger (and carries the weight the same way thick. it seems like everyone just gives black women passes to be as big as the want (until the muffin tops and cellulite comes out), but white girls get sh*t one by the same ppl for being the same size.

i don't recall anyone going in on mariah carey a few years ago when she gained wait and was walking around looking like some stuffed sausage in those tight ass dresses.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious
Yep...I totally agree.
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Okay...I went and read the "Childfree not by choice", or whatever it's called. GF got ripped and while I think she deserved some it, I think folks clowned on her.

First off, I reject ANY notion that says you have to be a parent to have any say on parenting. That's simply not the case, and that's a lousy way of reasoning. If you're a "bad parent", that's just what you are. Doesn't matter if a childless person recognizes it, or the Woman Who Lived In A Shoe recognizes it. The "What do YOU know, childless one?" responses are just as haughty and out of touch as her comments. People scratch, when they itch. If the OP had commented on what a "good parent" she was/is, nobody would have fired back with, "How do you know? YOU don't have any kids". That's stupid. Now, it's also stupid to see a kid with a Pop Tart in their mouth a few times, and think momma is a failure. I get that. But just because you bake doesn't make you a good baker. It makes you a baker for sure. Wisdom is wisdom, and foolishness is foolishness. All day long, 24/7.

When I told my married cousin that he was a lousy husband for cheating on his wife, he fired back with the dumb stuff, "You don't know. You're not married. Marriage is hard". Okay...and you're still a lousy excuse for a husband. Make it about me being "single" and not "knowing what it takes to stay married", but that doesn't take anything away from me. You're an adulterer. Change your behavior, and stop whining about being "judged". Work on your marriage, and if you don't want it, let your wife go and move on. Common sense is all that is.

Secondly, while the OP does not know all of what the other woman does with her children, neither do the women at NC. She's closer to the situation than I am, so....why so much venom?

My problem with her is that her focus is off. She does need to mind her own business, and if she thought the mom was a bad mother, she should have kept it to herself. I knew it was goin' down, after I read her breakdown of the momma. She seems to want motherhood for the wrong reasons.

Thirdly, ANYBODY can get married, if that's all they want. I wish people would stop acting like finding a body to marry is SO hard. It's really not. The OP has erected roadblocks, preventing access to where she claims she wants to go. That's way more important than her assessment of her ex man's wife's parenting skills.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
If I recall correctly, she's posted before about her ex's baby mama. Every instance that I recall was her making herself this awesome parental figure and woman a clown. I call it suspect. Her ex also liked to spend more time with this woman even though bananashakes objected and eventually he choose his ex over her. She's jealous and bitter, IMO.
Originally Posted by afrosheenqueen
I totally agree...100+
If that woman hadn't been her ex's baby mama, and she was happy and content in her own life, that woman's "lack" of whatever would not have been an issue.

Her one sentence summed it up, where she said she felt like she was a "failure" or something like that, because she had produced any offspring. That's troubling...and most telling of her mental state. It ain't about the baby mama givin' the kids Fruit Rollups for dinner. Trust me. She's mad, because the other woman "won". That is all.

My issue was all the mommas started "defending" themselves, when it was clear what was really going on.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
Yeah, parenting threads are worse than religion threads around non-hair.
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Christina A (in the pics) is what many black men would call "thick". White men and women would probably call her "fat", because white men/women OFTEN (not always) have a thinner body ideal than other cultures. My white brides OFTEN refer to themselves as "fat", or "a cow", and I just roll my eyes and shake my head.

So. who's right? Nobody. Everybody has a different standard, and that will never change. Be who you are, and be happy with it. If you're not happy with it, change it, if you can.

I also agree that Christina A will be the "white Jennifer Hudson", when she loses the fat/weight/extra junk/whatever you wanna call it. Why? Because she's an entertainer, and her career depends on her body. Nothing more, nothing less.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
i've seen black ppl call a white girl fat, but call a black girl who is the same size or bigger (and carries the weight the same way thick. it seems like everyone just gives black women passes to be as big as the want (until the muffin tops and cellulite comes out), but white girls get sh*t one by the same ppl for being the same size.

i don't recall anyone going in on mariah carey a few years ago when she gained weight and was walking around looking like some stuffed sausage in those tight ass dresses.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious
Hmmm I remember quite few articles going in on Mariah because she gained weight. Then it was well is she pregnant. Then it was back to her being to heavy. And I know this is debated back and forth but I just don't think the masses see Mariah as "black" though I think they are aware she has some black heritage. So I seriously doubt she's getting a fat black girl pass. I'd say people like Oprah, Mo'Nique, that black girl from Glee, Jennifer Hudson when she was heavier, etc. But Mariah Carey..um I'm thinking no.

I have to say I never recall any photos of Mariah looking as bad as Christina though when she gained weight some years back..but she definitely needed some larger dresses. So I think again like someone said..what do you consider overweight and fat, etc.
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late as usual...

On the fat thing, I prefer the word be used as a noun (body fat percentage) than as an adjective. At my heaviest I was 164 pounds which is obese for my height (4'9). I stayed in loose fitting clothes because I was ashamed and self-conscious about my weight. I also didn't want to offend anybody by having my rolls all hanging out. I started my weight loss "journey" back in 06 and I'm still struggling with body image issues. I'm around 113 now but still squishy and when I say I need to lose weight I really mean "fat" (and replace it with muscle weight). To people on the outside I look fine but as long as I have rolls I'll still see myself as a doughball. "Extra" fat just doesn't look good on me because of my height. On the other hand, I see "skinny fat" people (chicks) all the time who are not overweight but still have rolls and jiggle. It looks a hot mess when they wear small baby tees and lowrise skinny jeans. A roll is a roll, sloppy is sloppy. Dressing for your size/shape is ummm...reasonable. Xtina may have put on some weight but it won't hurt her to dress in a more flattering way. Its foolish of her to let her weight gain show then get mad when people point it out.
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Wow..I can't get over Eminem's daughter Halie..she's 16 now and she's very cute!

That's her in the black dress..she looks a lot like Em if you look at her in the face real hard.

This fat topic has me sensitive. I've struggled with my weight for years and right now I'm trying to accept it. I've called myself fat for a long time but my bf and friends say I'm thick or a little plus sized. I don't know if I can even comment on this...

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Originally Posted by Keenylicious
Holy smokes..I'm in love.

ETA..I've now watched several of his other videos..and yeah I'm in love. I think I'd forgo my no short dudes rule for him..plus I'm only 5'4 anyway..he's gotta be taller than that..right.

My husband is gonna kill me. Totally.

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Darn..I wonder if Anna's date is still going on..it's getting a little late. Mr. Law-ya must got her nose wide open..well..well..well.. LOL!

And what did she end up wearing...dying to know.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
Heyyy Marah! I just got in bed like ten minutes ago.

I'll totally go into detail tomorrow. But, tonight was wonderful. *sigh*

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Darn..I wonder if Anna's date is still going on..it's getting a little late. Mr. Law-ya must got her nose wide open..well..well..well.. LOL!

And what did she end up wearing...dying to know.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
Heyyy Marah! I just got in bed like ten minutes ago.

I'll totally go into detail tomorrow. But, tonight was wonderful. *sigh*

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!
Originally Posted by annabananalise
Oh Em Gee...I cannot WAIT to hear all the deets!

*Squeals*....*Jumps up and Down* *Squeals again*


I hope that bed has one person in it...LOL!
Well that's just great...

The announcement on QB's homepage as changed "January" to "until further notice".

Muthasucka...

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Originally Posted by Keenylicious
That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks
lol, I'm actually doing the exact opposite. I'm giving up, not getting.
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I'm a birth mom. My daughter is 24 now. If you ever need perspective from someone who's been through it, feel free to PM.

Mine was closed, as many were then. I wish there were the options then that there are now.

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Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
Wow really? I wanted mine to be open but now I'm not so sure. I feel like that might make it harder to deal with.


oh wow, my bad, I guess I shouldn't of assumed. Im sorry.
Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks
No biggie. with the wording it could have been taken either way.


Sometimes I can't tell if things like this are a good thing or a bad thing because different people have different responses to giving a baby up for adoption. So whichever feeling you have decided is for you, I am in agreement with you!
Originally Posted by demsdata
I can say it is extremely difficult for me now. But I know its about what the baby needs and wants and having someone be able to provide for it properly. Unfortunately, I cannot. So it's okay.
Originally Posted by tbabyy
I can respect what you are doing. It takes way more to see things as they are and give up a child that you don't want/can't take care of/are not ready for than to abort it or keep it and get into something you can't handle. Hopefully things work out for you.
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Thanks, I really appreciate it. I definitely needed those words of encouragement.
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