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Old 01-11-2012, 07:45 AM   #981
 
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Liking can be awkward/ambiguous. Tbabyy I "like" that you got some support and encouragement from someone's post (not that you have to struggle through this) I think it's seriously cool how helpful members of this board can be.
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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
Highland Park, CA. And if I wasn't married I'd go there..convert him to Judaism and marry him. Totally crushing on him. Can you say stalker much...
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lol, I'm actually doing the exact opposite. I'm giving up, not getting.
I'm a birth mom. My daughter is 24 now. If you ever need perspective from someone who's been through it, feel free to PM.

Mine was closed, as many were then. I wish there were the options then that there are now.

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Wow really? I wanted mine to be open but now I'm not so sure. I feel like that might make it harder to deal with.

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No biggie. with the wording it could have been taken either way.



I can say it is extremely difficult for me now. But I know its about what the baby needs and wants and having someone be able to provide for it properly. Unfortunately, I cannot. So it's okay.
I can respect what you are doing. It takes way more to see things as they are and give up a child that you don't want/can't take care of/are not ready for than to abort it or keep it and get into something you can't handle. Hopefully things work out for you.
Thanks, I really appreciate it. I definitely needed those words of encouragement.
The hard part about closed was the not knowing. Was her family treating her well? Was she even alive? What if she needed bone marrow or something? Was she right down the street or far away? Did she resent me for what I did, or was she happy? Did she have abandonment issues, or was she well adjusted? On and on.

I got to meet her when she was 21, but it was pure luck. My dad used to work with her dad, so he knew right away who he was adopting when he adopted. I grew up in a small town, and how many redheaded girls were being put up for adoption that week? He never told him then because he was worried that she'd be taken away because of that. Hell, he only told mother for the longest time.

He talked to her father after she graduated high school, and she decided to start searching while she was in college.

It worked out well in the end, and we have a relationship now, but all that time of not knowing much was difficult.


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Liking can be awkward/ambiguous. Tbabyy I "like" that you got some support and encouragement from someone's post (not that you have to struggle through this) I think it's seriously cool how helpful members of this board can be.
lol. Yes, me too!! I really appreciate it a LOT!
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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...

Highland Park, CA. And if I wasn't married I'd go there..convert him to Judaism and marry him. Totally crushing on him. Can you say stalker much...
Very strange...the way he was talking you'd think he was from the OC. LOL.

And yes you are a stalker. It's okay though. I need to go stalk Common and give him a pat on the back for that Drake verse.

"Catch a body like dat..." Rotfl....oh Common, you slay me.
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Well that's just great...

The announcement on QB's homepage as changed "January" to "until further notice".

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The hard part about closed was the not knowing. Was her family treating her well? Was she even alive? What if she needed bone marrow or something? Was she right down the street or far away? Did she resent me for what I did, or was she happy? Did she have abandonment issues, or was she well adjusted? On and on.

I got to meet her when she was 21, but it was pure luck. My dad used to work with her dad, so he knew right away who he was adopting when he adopted. I grew up in a small town, and how many redheaded girls were being put up for adoption that week? He never told him then because he was worried that she'd be taken away because of that. Hell, he only told mother for the longest time.

He talked to her father after she graduated high school, and she decided to start searching while she was in college.

It worked out well in the end, and we have a relationship now, but all that time of not knowing much was difficult.


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Yes, that's a big thing for me to. Like I don't him/her to think that I am completely abandoning her/him. I feel like if I am able to still be apart of its life in some way, then it won't be so difficult in the long run. But then again I feel like a lot can change in 18 years, I will be 38 and hopefully a doctor and in that time, I feel like once I got stable enough I would want her to come be with me...but that's wouldn't be fair. I don't know, it's a lot to think about.
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Christina A (in the pics) is what many black men would call "thick". White men and women would probably call her "fat", because white men/women OFTEN (not always) have a thinner body ideal than other cultures. My white brides OFTEN refer to themselves as "fat", or "a cow", and I just roll my eyes and shake my head.

So. who's right? Nobody. Everybody has a different standard, and that will never change. Be who you are, and be happy with it. If you're not happy with it, change it, if you can.

I also agree that Christina A will be the "white Jennifer Hudson", when she loses the fat/weight/extra junk/whatever you wanna call it. Why? Because she's an entertainer, and her career depends on her body. Nothing more, nothing less.
i've seen black ppl call a white girl fat, but call a black girl who is the same size or bigger (and carries the weight the same way thick. it seems like everyone just gives black women passes to be as big as the want (until the muffin tops and cellulite comes out), but white girls get sh*t one by the same ppl for being the same size.

i don't recall anyone going in on mariah carey a few years ago when she gained weight and was walking around looking like some stuffed sausage in those tight ass dresses.


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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...

Highland Park, CA. And if I wasn't married I'd go there..convert him to Judaism and marry him. Totally crushing on him. Can you say stalker much...
Very strange...the way he was talking you'd think he was from the OC. LOL.

And yes you are a stalker. It's okay though. I need to go stalk Common and give him a pat on the back for that Drake verse.

"Catch a body like dat..." Rotfl....oh Common, you slay me.
He may not have grown up in Highland Park though..anyway I couldn't care less. He's hot...everything about him is hot except for his height (bummer). I've watched a gillion episodes of The Online Gamer just so I can stare at him and see him scowl..which is totally sex-ay.

Gurl..Common is a distant memory for me now..given he was not my type in the first place...just think he's cool and nice looking. But this guy..oh em gee..he's soooo my type..if he was 6 ft or taller..swoon. He cracks me up in every episode. I get a kick out of the way he says..."BEEEEEEATCH!"

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The hard part about closed was the not knowing. Was her family treating her well? Was she even alive? What if she needed bone marrow or something? Was she right down the street or far away? Did she resent me for what I did, or was she happy? Did she have abandonment issues, or was she well adjusted? On and on.

I got to meet her when she was 21, but it was pure luck. My dad used to work with her dad, so he knew right away who he was adopting when he adopted. I grew up in a small town, and how many redheaded girls were being put up for adoption that week? He never told him then because he was worried that she'd be taken away because of that. Hell, he only told mother for the longest time.

He talked to her father after she graduated high school, and she decided to start searching while she was in college.

It worked out well in the end, and we have a relationship now, but all that time of not knowing much was difficult.


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Yes, that's a big thing for me to. Like I don't him/her to think that I am completely abandoning her/him. I feel like if I am able to still be apart of its life in some way, then it won't be so difficult in the long run. But then again I feel like a lot can change in 18 years, I will be 38 and hopefully a doctor and in that time, I feel like once I got stable enough I would want her to come be with me...but that's wouldn't be fair. I don't know, it's a lot to think about.
It is. If I had gone open, there would have been other challenges, just as difficult. But, at least there's a choice now, thank goodness. I do wonder if getting on with my own life would've been harder if it were open.

Many parents and children look alike, but to meet someone who looks so much like you when she's 21 is an experience. I miss seeing what she was like as a child, but that comes with the territory.


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Oooooh, the Reckless Tortuga guy! He *is* a cutie pie. But I had to stop watching Online Gamer because it was starting to just get ridiculous. *sigh* It was hella hilarious for a while... then the joke got stale. But ol' boy is super cute. Definitely fits into my "type".


Of course, I totally prefer my hubby... LOL!
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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
Yep, black people seem to be the most interested in someone's racial makeup.
Lots of folks think that black people have a pretty standard "look", and if we stray from that, we must be something other than "just black". The young (early twenties), white women on my job ANNOY me, with that. I wanna say so bad, "Do you get out much?"

This YouTube vlogger, who is as cute as a button with his 17-year old self, is half black/half Japanese, and lives in Japan. People seem to be so fascinated with that. "You SURE you half black????" What? Take a look at his videos, and note how many times it comes up, in some form.

Elle (Quest For The Perfect Curl) has gotten numerous inquiries about "what" she is...and most of those questions have come from black folks, which is downright pitiful. I'm like, "You think ALL black people are dark, with 4b hair?" We got some slow ponies in the race.

If you google certain entertainers/actors, too many inquiries are about "what" they are:

"Is Paula Patton mixed?"
"Is Jesse Williams biracial?"
"What ethnicity is Zoe Saldana?"

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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
Highland Park, CA. And if I wasn't married I'd go there..convert him to Judaism and marry him. Totally crushing on him. Can you say stalker much...
I'm runnin' off to tell my brother!
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When people see my son the first thing I get is, "He looks nothing like you." When people see my mother, " you look nothing like her."

I don't understand how we as a people do not realize, there isn't a "black mold".
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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
Yep, black people seem to be the most interested in someone's racial makeup.
Lots of folks think that black people have a pretty standard "look", and if we stray from that, we must be something other than "just black". The young (early twenties), white women on my job ANNOY me, with that. I wanna say so bad, "Do you get out much?"

This YouTube vlogger, who is as cute as a button with his 17-year old self, is half black/half Japanese, and lives in Japan. People seem to be so fascinated with that. "You SURE you half black????" What? Take a look at his videos, and note how many times it comes up, in some form.

Elle (Quest For The Perfect Curl) has gotten numerous inquiries about "what" she is...and most of those questions have come from black folks, which is downright pitiful. I'm like, "You think ALL black people are dark, with 4b hair?" We got some slow ponies in the race.

If you google certain entertainers/actors, too many inquiries are about "what" they are:

"Is Paula Patton mixed?"
"Is Jesse Williams biracial?"
"What ethnicity is Zoe Saldana?"

Why is that such an issue?
That boy with the locs is TOOO cute and I feel all dirty and ashamed when I watch his videos.

And yea, I really don't get it. Unless I am having a conversation about history, culture, or ethnicity, the inquiry doesn't cross my mind. Well, I generally think that people are too nosy overall...but that's an entirely different conversation.
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That's interesting...I wonder where he is from. Obviously this video isn't totally wrong, but ime I have more black people asking me "what I am" than white people...
Yep, black people seem to be the most interested in someone's racial makeup.
Lots of folks think that black people have a pretty standard "look", and if we stray from that, we must be something other than "just black". The young (early twenties), white women on my job ANNOY me, with that. I wanna say so bad, "Do you get out much?"

This YouTube vlogger, who is as cute as a button with his 17-year old self, is half black/half Japanese, and lives in Japan. People seem to be so fascinated with that. "You SURE you half black????" What? Take a look at his videos, and note how many times it comes up, in some form.

Elle (Quest For The Perfect Curl) has gotten numerous inquiries about "what" she is...and most of those questions have come from black folks, which is downright pitiful. I'm like, "You think ALL black people are dark, with 4b hair?" We got some slow ponies in the race.

If you google certain entertainers/actors, too many inquiries are about "what" they are:

"Is Paula Patton mixed?"
"Is Jesse Williams biracial?"
"What ethnicity is Zoe Saldana?"

Why is that such an issue?
That boy with the locs is TOOO cute and I feel all dirty and ashamed when I watch his videos.

And yea, I really don't get it. Unless I am having a conversation about history, culture, or ethnicity, the inquiry doesn't cross my mind. Well, I generally think that people are too nosy overall...but that's an entirely different conversation.
He's so precious. You know what? I went to his Tumblr to see the rest of his pics. He mentioned how difficult it is for him, socially, living in Japan....because of his skin color and hair. Folks don't wanna "sit" next to him? Really. That's fascinating...and sad. He seems like a really nice young man.

I said to myself, "Precious one, if you lived in the States, you would get no rest. Between the girls comin' at you, the boys comin' at you, the grown-behind-old--enough-to-be-your-momma-but-wantin'-to-be-your-Mrs. Robinson women comin' at you....there'd be no problem finding folks to sit next to.
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*sips tea* uhh ohhh this is getting good....my MIL has lawyered up since my FIL moved out and filed for divorce yesterday.
I called him this morning to make sure he ain't found some young tenda and he assured me no there is no one else "just yet", he says they haven't been happy in a very long time.

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