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i only had one person on ignore, and that was only b/c they were deliberately trying to provoke me into arguing w/ them so that they would have "proof" that ppl were "attacking" them. i still ended up seeing their posts b/c almost everything they said was inflammatory, and other ppl quoted and argued w/ them.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious


aight y'all she gonna be up in here...
Originally Posted by murrrcat
Don't do it...
People should be willing to stand by the things they say. Or they shouldn't say them. If your opinion can't stand in the light of day...maybe it should stay in the dark...in your head?
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idk... if you find yourself writing 1,000 word responses to a sentence. you're probably the one who's pressed in that situation.
i only had one person on ignore, and that was only b/c they were deliberately trying to provoke me into arguing w/ them so that they would have "proof" that ppl were "attacking" them. i still ended up seeing their posts b/c almost everything they said was inflammatory, and other ppl quoted and argued w/ them.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious


aight y'all she gonna be up in here...
Originally Posted by murrrcat
i actually wasn't talking about her. i was talking about the poster that cali chik cussed that one time.
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I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...
Originally Posted by cocodej
Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
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I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...
Originally Posted by cocodej
Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris

Wow. I missed all this. Where was I? I don't hang out at OT much.

....and no, I don't think you're a grudge holder, nor do I disagree with you. I'm talking about much more benign stuff.
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I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...
Originally Posted by cocodej
Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris

Wow. I missed all this. Where was I? I don't hang out at OT much.

....and no, I don't think you're a grudge holder, nor do I disagree with you. I'm talking about much more benign stuff.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
You joined in '09 - this stuff happened before my first son was born and he was born in '07. Katrina was 2005, right? A lot of it was around there - 2005, 2006. Many of the women of colour formed our own board to accommodate all the refugees who were leaving here in protest - we did that in '06 I think. There were 2 other boards started along with ours.
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Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris

Wow. I missed all this. Where was I? I don't hang out at OT much.

....and no, I don't think you're a grudge holder, nor do I disagree with you. I'm talking about much more benign stuff.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
You joined in '09 - this stuff happened before my first son was born and he was born in '07. Katrina was 2005, right? A lot of it was around there - 2005, 2006. Many of the women of colour formed our own board to accommodate all the refugees who were leaving here in protest - we did that in '06 I think. There were 2 other boards started along with ours.
Originally Posted by Amneris
I remember one exodus in 2006 shortly after I joined. I missed the background since I was pretty new, but I remember it was ugly.


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I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...
Originally Posted by cocodej
Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris
The bolded is how I feel. I want to know where I stand with people. On and offline. I don't like to be blindsided...If I know someone feels a certain way, I know to go into certain conversations with them with my guard up. I mean, I think we're having a light-hearted conversation and then BAM an -ism all in my face? lol No thank you ma'am. Let me know where you stand upfront.
I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...
Originally Posted by cocodej
Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris
The bolded is how I feel. I want to know where I stand with people. On and offline. I don't like to be blindsided...If I know someone feels a certain way, I know to go into certain conversations with them with my guard up. I mean, I think we're having a light-hearted conversation and then BAM an -ism all in my face? lol No thank you ma'am. Let me know where you stand upfront.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
+1

and i never get why ppl act like it's abnormal for someone to remember what a poster said in the past. it seems like having a good memory is only a bad thing on message boards. if you said or did something in the recent past that is in line w/ you current behavior, or has an effect on how i view and interact with you font now, i'm going to bring it up. idk why ppl like waving off things that they said/did like a few weeks ago like it happened several years ago and it's irrelevant.

and i don't buy for a minute that ppl just completely wipe the slate clean w/ every new interaction they have w/ ppl on the board. it's not possible and it doesn't make any sense to do so. if i think a poster tends to read too deeply into my posts/ takes my jokes seriously, i just don't direct those kinds of posts to them. or if i know a poster likes to debate even the most frivolous of subjects, i just wont engage them if i'm not in the mood. there are some topics that i don't even participate in b/c i already know which side most of you will fall on, and for some of you i can guess (correctly) exactly how you will respond to certain things and what you will say. i don't see how you can possibly interact w/ ppl w/o developing some kind of perception (not harboring a grudge, not making in depth analyses about their real lives) of them. i don't know why anyone would WANT to do that. and really, half the time, the ppl who claim this will at some point end up reaching back a few months for some quote that will prove their point against whoever their talking to.

i'm rambling now, so i'll stop.
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Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris
The bolded is how I feel. I want to know where I stand with people. On and offline. I don't like to be blindsided...If I know someone feels a certain way, I know to go into certain conversations with them with my guard up. I mean, I think we're having a light-hearted conversation and then BAM an -ism all in my face? lol No thank you ma'am. Let me know where you stand upfront.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
+1

and i never get why ppl act like it's abnormal for someone to remember what a poster said in the past. it seems like having a good memory is only a bad thing on message boards. if you said or did something in the recent past that is in line w/ you current behavior, or has an effect on how i view and interact with you font now, i'm going to bring it up. idk why ppl like waving off things that they said/did like a few weeks ago like it happened several years ago and it's irrelevant.

and i don't buy for a minute that ppl just completely wipe the slate clean w/ every new interaction they have w/ ppl on the board. it's not possible and it doesn't make any sense to do so. if i think a poster tends to read too deeply into my posts/ takes my jokes seriously, i just don't direct those kinds of posts to them. or if i know a poster likes to debate even the most frivolous of subjects, i just wont engage them if i'm not in the mood. there are some topics that i don't even participate in b/c i already know which side most of you will fall on, and for some of you i can guess (correctly) exactly how you will respond to certain things and what you will say. i don't see how you can possibly interact w/ ppl w/o developing some kind of perception (not harboring a grudge, not making in depth analyses about their real lives) of them. i don't know why anyone would WANT to do that. and really, half the time, the ppl who claim this will at some point end up reaching back a few months for some quote that will prove their point against whoever their talking to.

i'm rambling now, so i'll stop.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious
Well, keens - you forget that we're all just people on the net and it's not that serious.
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Originally Posted by murrrcat
You made chia seed pancakes?!

Mail me one.....
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People should be willing to stand by the things they say. Or they shouldn't say them. If your opinion can't stand in the light of day...maybe it should stay in the dark...in your head?
- AmberBrown

Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.
Originally Posted by Amneris
The bolded is how I feel. I want to know where I stand with people. On and offline. I don't like to be blindsided...If I know someone feels a certain way, I know to go into certain conversations with them with my guard up. I mean, I think we're having a light-hearted conversation and then BAM an -ism all in my face? lol No thank you ma'am. Let me know where you stand upfront.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
+1

and i never get why ppl act like it's abnormal for someone to remember what a poster said in the past. it seems like having a good memory is only a bad thing on message boards. if you said or did something in the recent past that is in line w/ you current behavior, or has an effect on how i view and interact with you font now, i'm going to bring it up. idk why ppl like waving off things that they said/did like a few weeks ago like it happened several years ago and it's irrelevant.

and i don't buy for a minute that ppl just completely wipe the slate clean w/ every new interaction they have w/ ppl on the board. it's not possible and it doesn't make any sense to do so. if i think a poster tends to read too deeply into my posts/ takes my jokes seriously, i just don't direct those kinds of posts to them. or if i know a poster likes to debate even the most frivolous of subjects, i just wont engage them if i'm not in the mood. there are some topics that i don't even participate in b/c i already know which side most of you will fall on, and for some of you i can guess (correctly) exactly how you will respond to certain things and what you will say. i don't see how you can possibly interact w/ ppl w/o developing some kind of perception (not harboring a grudge, not making in depth analyses about their real lives) of them. i don't know why anyone would WANT to do that. and really, half the time, the ppl who claim this will at some point end up reaching back a few months for some quote that will prove their point against whoever their talking to.

i'm rambling now, so i'll stop.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious
Yea you're right.




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