The New & Improved Say It I Dare You - Page 503

Chicago Kinks · 04-12-2012, 06:48 PM

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Coco, you are very cool people so imma keep it 100 with you....you are a twin and im jealous so yep there you have it.

Keenylicious · 04-12-2012, 06:52 PM

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I haven't.

Yeahhhhhboi, Im on my smartphone!!!

i haven't either. but i know of it happening, and it's the biggest mule i've been sitting on for MONTHS.

CocoT · 04-12-2012, 06:53 PM

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Coco, you are very cool people so imma keep it 100 with you....you are a twin and im jealous so yep there you have it.

I can't help who I am so you can take it or leave it

Keenylicious · 04-12-2012, 06:53 PM

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Coco, you are very cool people so imma keep it 100 with you....you are a twin and im jealous so yep there you have it.

i be hating on coco's twiness too.

i think i'd be sickening if i had someone that looked just like me. it'd be epic.

CocoT · 04-12-2012, 06:56 PM

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Coco, you are very cool people so imma keep it 100 with you....you are a twin and im jealous so yep there you have it.

i be hating on coco's twiness too.

i think i'd be sickening if i had someone that looked just like me. it'd be epic.

Chicago Kinks · 04-12-2012, 06:56 PM

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I haven't.

Yeahhhhhboi, Im on my smartphone!!!

Me neither.

Me either, I just log off if someone is talking about something I don't give a isht about. Very rarely will I comment on something that upsets me. There was one on-going topic recently I didn't and still do not agree with...it hits too close to home so instead of hurting folks feelings and pissing others off, I just logged off.

cheveuxbouclés · 04-12-2012, 06:56 PM

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I haven't.

Yeahhhhhboi, Im on my smartphone!!!

i haven't either. but i know of it happening, and it's the biggest mule i've been sitting on for MONTHS.

I know your mule better have a bangin' retirement plan, because that po' thing has been worked to death for the past 40 pages of this thread

And this also makes my point about refraining from saying something... because I feel a certain way about being butt hurt by people on the internet...

CocoT · 04-12-2012, 07:01 PM

I haven't (re: CurlyE's post) and I rarely ever get PM's anyway...because OBVIOUSLY nobody likes me for reasons beyond my control. It's cool though...

Keenylicious · 04-12-2012, 07:02 PM

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I haven't.

Yeahhhhhboi, Im on my smartphone!!!

i haven't either. but i know of it happening, and it's the biggest mule i've been sitting on for MONTHS.

I know your mule better have a bangin' retirement plan, because that po' thing has been worked to death for the past 40 pages of this thread

And this also makes my point about refraining from saying something... because I feel a certain way about being butt hurt by people on the internet...

lol my mule is so tired. it just wants to run off into the sunset.

but contrary to popular belief, i don't like to make a habit of hurting ppl's feelings, arguing about pettiness, or "ganging up" on ppl.

i'm actually quite nice IRL.

cocodej · 04-12-2012, 07:05 PM

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I am beginning to see why there was a mass exodus before...

Ladies, this is NOTHING compared to how it was then. I wish I could bump up some of those old threads... like the one where one of my dear poster-friends talked about a bank teller being racist to her... and white posters defended the banks, got personally offended because they work in banks, called her a liar and hounded her and anyone who defended her.... or some of the post-Katrina threads, or the one where Blacks were called "lazy" and "welfare bums", or the one where a white male poster defended his use of the n-word...

I know it sounds like I'm holding grudges. I'm not, or I don't think I am, since I can't actually remember who posted what - it's just something to note and be aware of when moving on.

Amneris, thank you for the background. And, to be honest, I am thinking about how much of the hypocrisy I can tolerate. In 2005 and 2006, up to today, NC advertizes that it maintains a certain type of online community. What has changed since 2005 and 2006 is that NC is now capitalizing on the investment it made all those years ago in establishing NC.com. NC is now not only an online community, but a business that markets its expertise in textured hair care research, market to consumer products, etc. In essence, by the simple fact of being a board member, one contributes to the earnings of NC.com. The personal question for me is why would I continue to support, in ultimately some financial form by my very existence as a board member (and in other ways by purchasing from Curlmart, taking surveys, and submitting product reviews) to a community that does not practice what it preaches. Healthy relationships are a two way street, mutually reinforcing...

murrrcat · 04-12-2012, 07:08 PM

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I haven't (re: CurlyE's post) and I rarely ever get PM's anyway...because OBVIOUSLY nobody likes me for reasons beyond my control. It's cool though...

CurlyElectra · 04-12-2012, 07:08 PM

Like @Amber said, I want to know where I stand with people. I can take a$$holes, ESPECIALLY over the damn internet, but there are people who act big and tough in "public," then cop out or break down in private. I can't get with that. If you want to throw down on the net (which honestly I don't see the point of), don't renege on it privately, or act like everything on the internet is trivial then be concerned with whether certain posters are upset with you. I cannot stand two faced people.

cheveuxbouclés · 04-12-2012, 07:11 PM

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i haven't either. but i know of it happening, and it's the biggest mule i've been sitting on for MONTHS.

I know your mule better have a bangin' retirement plan, because that po' thing has been worked to death for the past 40 pages of this thread

And this also makes my point about refraining from saying something... because I feel a certain way about being butt hurt by people on the internet...

lol my mule is so tired. it just wants to run off into the sunset.

but contrary to popular belief, i don't like to make a habit of hurting ppl's feelings, arguing about pettiness, or "ganging up" on ppl.

i'm actually quite nice IRL.

I think there are very few people who seem to like being mean to people, and I think that is what annoys me a little about people getting so hurt by remarks. A lot of time people read an e-tone of a comment and run with it. I know I am guilty of it. Now if someone made a personal comment--not a generalized racist/sexist etc. remark, but something that pertains directly to personal information you shared... maybe I can be a little more understanding of sending a pm, but even then I can only imagine that being acceptable if you considered someone your friend. I don't know...

*Marah* · 04-12-2012, 07:12 PM

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+1

and i never get why ppl act like it's abnormal for someone to remember what a poster said in the past. it seems like having a good memory is only a bad thing on message boards. if you said or did something in the recent past that is in line w/ you current behavior, or has an effect on how i view and interact with you font now, i'm going to bring it up. idk why ppl like waving off things that they said/did like a few weeks ago like it happened several years ago and it's irrelevant.

and i don't buy for a minute that ppl just completely wipe the slate clean w/ every new interaction they have w/ ppl on the board. it's not possible and it doesn't make any sense to do so. if i think a poster tends to read too deeply into my posts/ takes my jokes seriously, i just don't direct those kinds of posts to them. or if i know a poster likes to debate even the most frivolous of subjects, i just wont engage them if i'm not in the mood. there are some topics that i don't even participate in b/c i already know which side most of you will fall on, and for some of you i can guess (correctly) exactly how you will respond to certain things and what you will say. i don't see how you can possibly interact w/ ppl w/o developing some kind of perception (not harboring a grudge, not making in depth analyses about their real lives) of them. i don't know why anyone would WANT to do that. and really, half the time, the ppl who claim this will at some point end up reaching back a few months for some quote that will prove their point against whoever their talking to.

i'm rambling now, so i'll stop.

I don't forget what people say for the most part on here because I just have a habit of remembering things that people say.. but to keep holding on to something waiting for the day to use it against someone is ridiculous to me.

And that's where I don't get the big deal because to me.. yeah it's just the damn internet and it's not earth shattering serious. We don't really "know" eachother (except for a few that have opted to meet offline) and nothing I say should really affect a person that damn bad considering they will probably never see me in life and if they did they'd have no clue it was me anyway. I don't agree with plenty that's said here and there are many members here that I know I wouldn't get along with in RL or even consider being friends with at all.. but on the net. It's not a big deal. I'm certainly not going to go out of my way to throw some bs in their face over some past stuff that I thought was inappropriate, offensive, or stupid unless they try to come for me all wrong. If they treat me decently after we've hashed out whatever.. okay fine. I will keep chatting with them, joking with them, etc.

I just don't hold grudges like that.. I honestly don't. In real life and on the internet once I've hashed something out with a person. Sure.. I remember stuff and act accordingly..but I'm not worried about some stuff we hashed out. If we are cool..we are cool. But I can't stand the two faced-back stabbing high school skhit that goes on in situations like this.. if you gotta damn problem just say so. And I think a lot of folks are just as sneaky and slithery as damn snakes and remember stuff JUST so they can be snarky and start shkit with no justification.

I feel more or less like if you have an issue with someone..then hash it the hell out like a grown person don't sit there acting like all is well and then bam you toss out some stupid bs grudge stuff you've been just WAITING to say as soon as you can "catch" a person. GTFOWDBS.

idk if you're just speaking generally (i know it's not about me lol), but i haven't really seen that around here. usually when i see ppl bring up something from the past, i assume it's b/c they just happened to remember it and applied it to the current situation (like me). that's partly why i've been holding my mule so much around her; b/c sometimes i see ppl directly contradict something theyve said in the past (whether it be something they said publicly or in my inbox), and i really don't feel like being accused of being some grudgful petty chick just b/c i happen to have a good memory. so i just sit here w/ my mule and watch all the f*ckery.

I have seen it several times around here.. not neccessarily in this section as much in others but it's definitely a normative with a few constants here too. But of course it's about perception. People see what they want to see and judge people how they want regardless of what the real deal is...

I do understand "the hole my mule" concept..I think in a lot of cases it's the appropriate thing to do.

Frankly, I don't think there is enough open dialogue when there is an issue. Everybody wants everyone else to just STFU unless they in the Amen corner big upping what they say. I guess it's just not something I relate to very well. If I have a problem with something someone said.. I just say it and my ultimate desire is to hash it out so that we can be civil and not hostile to eachother.

But I notice it's difficult to do that here because a lot of people do hold grudges and have to throw constant snark at that person and then play dumb when confronted. Knowing damn well they are on swoll because they dropped the ball and punked out in the first place when they should have said something when the mess was going on but they stood by watched it ain't do shkit and now they mad. Then all late and wrong they wanna come balls to the wall cause they done built up some strength or decided "they just ain't holding their mule no more".. and I feel like.. no I can't get with that sort of dumb stuff. Sit your punk ass down some where..shoulda handled that shkit like grown folk long time ago.

Saria · 04-12-2012, 07:16 PM

I don't think I've ever sent a PM because someone offended me.

I have to disagree with the idea that it doesn't matter what someone you don't know thinks. Of course for certain things that's true, but it does have an effect on me, even indirect as it may be, that someone holds racist/sexist/etc. views. Those things affect everyone. Now I get that the odds of changing anyone are slim, but then there are people who will tell you that they did change, and it was because there were people who were willing to question and contest their views.

CocoT · 04-12-2012, 07:19 PM

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I haven't (re: CurlyE's post) and I rarely ever get PM's anyway...because OBVIOUSLY nobody likes me for reasons beyond my control. It's cool though...

cheveuxbouclés · 04-12-2012, 07:24 PM

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I don't think I've ever sent a PM because someone offended me.

I have to disagree with the idea that it doesn't matter what someone you don't know thinks. Of course for certain things that's true, but it does have an effect on me, even indirect as it may be, that someone holds racist/sexist/etc. views. Those things affect everyone. Now I get that the odds of changing anyone are slim, but then there are people who will tell you that they did change, and it was because there were people who were willing to question and contest their views.

I didn't say it doesn't matter. If that was the case, we would never talk about anything here-- but hair lol. My words were butt hurt ( SN-- I pick up too much of the vernacular around these parts and it sounds so out of place IRL sometimes) and I think sometimes getting that invested in what an anonymous person thinks is too much IMO.

Saria · 04-12-2012, 07:26 PM

Oh, I wasn't referring to what you were saying, more so something Marah alluded to in her post.

cheveuxbouclés · 04-12-2012, 07:32 PM

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Oh, I wasn't referring to what you were saying, more so something Marah alluded to in her post.

My bad, was assuming

CocoT · 04-12-2012, 07:37 PM

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