The New & Improved Say It I Dare You - Page 51

soleilmoncur · 01-11-2012, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks

*sips tea* uhh ohhh this is getting good....my MIL has lawyered up since my FIL moved out and filed for divorce yesterday.
I called him this morning to make sure he ain't found some young tenda and he assured me no there is no one else "just yet", he says they haven't been happy in a very long time.

vIa mY cURl TaLk ApP

Uh huh. Sounds suspect.

Nappy_curly_crown · 01-11-2012, 09:22 AM

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Originally Posted by *Marah*

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Let me exit stage right while all this fat talk is going on before I say some dumb **** .......

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LAWD! Well I personally would have loved to read your opinion...even if it's the direct opposite of mine. I like when you post because to me it's not dumb *** whether I agree or not. It gives another perspective for people (including myself) to ponder.

But if you don't wish to share..understood.

No I exited because I was on my phone and couldn't fully articulate what I was thinking/feeling and I knew it wouldn't come out right (most likely it still won't but I'll give it the ole college try).

*warning....it's about to get real*

I think what strikes me most about what’s fat/what's not convo is that NONE of the people mentioned are overweight or have weight issues. I mean Christina A gained weight...so what she's a size 4-6 instead of a size 0-2? Mariah Carey even at her heaviest was what maybe a size 6-8? And while lord knows I'm not a Bey fan...I'm looking at her body and trying to see the "fat thighs" that folks are talking about. The other thing that struck me as odd was that some of the most critical folks about Bey, Mariah, and Christina in the next breath were talking about they themselves were “overweight” (but only by a few pounds *insert side-eye here*). I’ve always found it interesting that some of the most critical folks when talking about body image/weight and the like usually fall into the category of being “slightly” over-weight. Not big enough to be big/plus-sized but not small enough to be “skinny”. It’s like the no man’s land of body weight/size and some of the **** that comes outta these folks mouths often times makes me wonder if they are subliminally trying to take the “attention” off of their weight issues and place them on others.

I know that part of the package deal when you are a "celebrity" is public scrutiny of everything from clothing choice, hair, makeup, and weight. But something about the weight scrutiny has always rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe it’s because the scrutiny always seems to set the bar a bit extra high for celebrities…higher that most regular folks could ever achieve…which sets this totally unrealistic view of what a woman should look like…which affects us regular folks and leads to unhealthy body image and a whole bunch of other things. Now…please don’t read into this something I’m not saying…I’m not saying it’s the media’s fault that people have negative body images, but I think the media and this “image” plays a huge part in it and fuels it…and I think we (the consumer) continue to fuel the media and the cycle repeats itself.

As far as the words fat/overweight/plus-sized ect….I cringe at the word fat because it’s usually used as an insult. I know that there are some people that refer to themselves that way and it’s their prerogative, but me…I’m good on the reclamation of that one.

Now granted, I’m coming from a completely different end of the spectrum than most of you so my thoughts are peppered with my own experiences. I’ve struggled with my weight and weight issues my whole life, and that’s not an exaggeration. It took a LOT of head work and couch time to get to a place where I accepted myself as is and stopped letting others influence how I felt about myself and the body I live in.

That's just a snap shot of what was running though my head last night. There's more but I'll stop here for now.

Chicago Kinks · 01-11-2012, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by JessicazFro

Well that's just great...

The announcement on QB's homepage as changed "January" to "until further notice".

Muthasucka...

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I saw this crap yesterday and just rolled my eyes cause they up to this baldheaded bullsh*t again.

vIa mY cURl TaLk ApP

Ninjarette · 01-11-2012, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown

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Originally Posted by *Marah*

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Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown

Let me exit stage right while all this fat talk is going on before I say some dumb **** .......

Sent from my iPhone using CurlTalk

LAWD! Well I personally would have loved to read your opinion...even if it's the direct opposite of mine. I like when you post because to me it's not dumb *** whether I agree or not. It gives another perspective for people (including myself) to ponder.

But if you don't wish to share..understood.

No I exited because I was on my phone and couldn't fully articulate what I was thinking/feeling and I knew it wouldn't come out right (most likely it still won't but I'll give it the ole college try).

*warning....it's about to get real*

I think what strikes me most about what’s fat/what's not convo is that NONE of the people mentioned are overweight or have weight issues. I mean Christina A gained weight...so what she's a size 4-6 instead of a size 0-2? Mariah Carey even at her heaviest was what maybe a size 6-8? And while lord knows I'm not a Bey fan...I'm looking at her body and trying to see the "fat thighs" that folks are talking about. The other thing that struck me as odd was that some of the most critical folks about Bey, Mariah, and Christina in the next breath were talking about they themselves were “overweight” (but only by a few pounds *insert side-eye here*). I’ve always found it interesting that some of the most critical folks when talking about body image/weight and the like usually fall into the category of being “slightly” over-weight. Not big enough to be big/plus-sized but not small enough to be “skinny”. It’s like the no man’s land of body weight/size and some of the **** that comes outta these folks mouths often times makes me wonder if they are subliminally trying to take the “attention” off of their weight issues and place them on others.

I know that part of the package deal when you are a "celebrity" is public scrutiny of everything from clothing choice, hair, makeup, and weight. But something about the weight scrutiny has always rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe it’s because the scrutiny always seems to set the bar a bit extra high for celebrities…higher that most regular folks could ever achieve…which sets this totally unrealistic view of what a woman should look like…which affects us regular folks and leads to unhealthy body image and a whole bunch of other things. Now…please don’t read into this something I’m not saying…I’m not saying it’s the media’s fault that people have negative body images, but I think the media and this “image” plays a huge part in it and fuels it…and I think we (the consumer) continue to fuel the media and the cycle repeats itself.

As far as the words fat/overweight/plus-sized ect….I cringe at the word fat because it’s usually used as an insult. I know that there are some people that refer to themselves that way and it’s their prerogative, but me…I’m good on the reclamation of that one.

Now granted, I’m coming from a completely different end of the spectrum than most of you so my thoughts are peppered with my own experiences. I’ve struggled with my weight and weight issues my whole life, and that’s not an exaggeration. It took a LOT of head work and couch time to get to a place where I accepted myself as is and stopped letting others influence how I felt about myself and the body I live in.

That's just a snap shot of what was running though my head last night. There's more but I'll stop here for now.

You know what? You deserve a bow for this ENTIRE post.

Chicago Kinks · 01-11-2012, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur

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Originally Posted by Chicago Kinks

*sips tea* uhh ohhh this is getting good....my MIL has lawyered up since my FIL moved out and filed for divorce yesterday.
I called him this morning to make sure he ain't found some young tenda and he assured me no there is no one else "just yet", he says they haven't been happy in a very long time.

vIa mY cURl TaLk ApP

Uh huh. Sounds suspect.

Nawl I would not say suspect, he needs to date and have fun but he said not until this door is closed, which I commend him on

vIa mY cURl TaLk ApP

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 09:39 AM

The new mcbites from McDonald are the mcbomb

CurlyElectra · 01-11-2012, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

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Yep, black people seem to be the most interested in someone's racial makeup.
Lots of folks think that black people have a pretty standard "look", and if we stray from that, we must be something other than "just black". The young (early twenties), white women on my job ANNOY me, with that. I wanna say so bad, "Do you get out much?"

This YouTube vlogger, who is as cute as a button with his 17-year old self, is half black/half Japanese, and lives in Japan. People seem to be so fascinated with that. "You SURE you half black????" What? Take a look at his videos, and note how many times it comes up, in some form.

Elle (Quest For The Perfect Curl) has gotten numerous inquiries about "what" she is...and most of those questions have come from black folks, which is downright pitiful. I'm like, "You think ALL black people are dark, with 4b hair?" We got some slow ponies in the race.

If you google certain entertainers/actors, too many inquiries are about "what" they are:

"Is Paula Patton mixed?"
"Is Jesse Williams biracial?"
"What ethnicity is Zoe Saldana?"

Why is that such an issue?

That boy with the locs is TOOO cute and I feel all dirty and ashamed when I watch his videos.

And yea, I really don't get it. Unless I am having a conversation about history, culture, or ethnicity, the inquiry doesn't cross my mind. Well, I generally think that people are too nosy overall...but that's an entirely different conversation.

He's so precious. You know what? I went to his Tumblr to see the rest of his pics. He mentioned how difficult it is for him, socially, living in Japan....because of his skin color and hair. Folks don't wanna "sit" next to him? Really. That's fascinating...and sad. He seems like a really nice young man.

I said to myself, "Precious one, if you lived in the States, you would get no rest. Between the girls comin' at you, the boys comin' at you, the grown-behind-old--enough-to-be-your-momma-but-wantin'-to-be-your-Mrs. Robinson women comin' at you....there'd be no problem finding folks to sit next to.

Oh my goodness your second paragraph is HILARIOUS because when I read the first part, before I even got to the second, I was like, "Shoooo, I'll sit next to him, and then some."

annabananalise · 01-11-2012, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

The new mcbites from McDonald are the mcbomb

Mcbites? What are those?

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

Ninjarette · 01-11-2012, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

Oh my goodness your second paragraph is HILARIOUS because when I read the first part, before I even got to the second, I was like, "Shoooo, I'll sit next to him, and then some."

Ha!

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

The new mcbites from McDonald are the mcbomb

Mcbites? What are those?

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

little popcorn chicken bites!

Cerendipity · 01-11-2012, 10:23 AM

Outrage over Indian islands 'human zoo' video - Yahoo! News

Ninjarette · 01-11-2012, 10:24 AM

I thought Halle swore up and down she wasn't going to marry again?

I don't know, but I think she's a troubled soul - very, very attractive, but missing a few screws (like many in Hollywood). I think men are taken with her looks, and after they get up close and personal, they discover there's a raging drama queen underneath that gorgeous body.

Now, I don't get wrapped up in the lives of celebrities, so my thoughts are pure speculation. But just looking at what I've seen in the media, and what I've heard her say in interviews, there's something not quite right about her.

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 10:25 AM

pleas tell me why I got teary eyed watching this?!

The Dark Knight Rises Official Movie Trailer Christian Bale, Batman Movie (2012) HD - YouTube

everything I love ends!!!

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

I thought Halle swore up and down she wasn't going to marry again?

I don't know, but I think she's a troubled soul - very, very attractive, but missing a few screws (like many in Hollywood). I think men are taken with her looks, and after they get up close and personal, they discover there's a raging drama queen underneath that gorgeous body.

Now, I don't get wrapped up in the lives of celebrities, so my thoughts are pure speculation. But just looking at what I've seen in the media, and what I've heard her say in interviews, there's something not quite right about her.

i think so too. like with jennifer anniston. I mean maybe they're crazy thats why they get dumped so much.

JessicazFro · 01-11-2012, 10:30 AM

Crazy or too needy...

And in other news...I feel like buying something.

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Nappy_curly_crown · 01-11-2012, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

I thought Halle swore up and down she wasn't going to marry again?

I don't know, but I think she's a troubled soul - very, very attractive, but missing a few screws (like many in Hollywood). I think men are taken with her looks, and after they get up close and personal, they discover there's a raging drama queen underneath that gorgeous body.

Now, I don't get wrapped up in the lives of celebrities, so my thoughts are pure speculation. But just looking at what I've seen in the media, and what I've heard her say in interviews, there's something not quite right about her.

I've always thought the same thing. I hope this marriage works out for her.

annabananalise · 01-11-2012, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

The new mcbites from McDonald are the mcbomb

Mcbites? What are those?

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

little popcorn chicken bites!

Shut up! I'm going to McDonald's today.

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

Mcbites? What are those?

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

little popcorn chicken bites!

Shut up! I'm going to McDonald's today.

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

they're limited time only!

CurleeLadeeTee · 01-11-2012, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown

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Originally Posted by Ninjarette

I thought Halle swore up and down she wasn't going to marry again?

I don't know, but I think she's a troubled soul - very, very attractive, but missing a few screws (like many in Hollywood). I think men are taken with her looks, and after they get up close and personal, they discover there's a raging drama queen underneath that gorgeous body.

Now, I don't get wrapped up in the lives of celebrities, so my thoughts are pure speculation. But just looking at what I've seen in the media, and what I've heard her say in interviews, there's something not quite right about her.

I've always thought the same thing. I hope this marriage works out for her.

It would be nice if she could be happy in love for a change. Hopefully she really weighed the pros and cons and thought about what was best for her and her daughter.