The New & Improved Say It I Dare You - Page 55

aishasoleil · 01-11-2012, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetmx85

my job just fired me. ibe never been fired. before I was pregnant they said I was the type of person who moves up. just two weeks ago my boss Said I'm a hard worker because even though I'm sick and throwing up I work my hardest. then last week apparently she emailed HER boss saying my productivity was low. the sickest day ive had yet. yet still ingot everything done just like I been have. I've never needed help from another department. I have a drs note for a chair and I've only used that twice in the begining. this doesn't seem right at all. I know it's because I'm pregnant. they cut my hours back from 24 to 15 and he sad we just don't have enough hours that an I got an email saying last Saturday your productivity was low. one day!?! when I've busted my back when I've been so sick yet made sure everything was done and right??! I'm calling a lawyer tomorrow.

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Wow. I sincerely hope things get better for you. You do not need this stress. Good call on calling a lawyer. Hopefully they can help you with this crazy situation.

Amazinnatural · 01-11-2012, 04:34 PM

Kudos to the new thread, it took of like a rocket! Lol

I hope anybody in North Carolina stay safe, there's been tornados rolling through. Especially around the I-77 area.

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AmberBrown · 01-11-2012, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

Can someone explain to me what it means to not spank your kid with anger cause I've heard this before and it makes no sense. I mean if you're not angry wtf you hitting them for in the first place?

Anywho you know what I hate? People who constantly correct how people say things. Like you do realize people come from different places, have different accents, so they're not going to say things like you say them. Like why are you worried about what comes out
my mouth? I know I pronounce stuff differently and I'm stillgonna say it The way I say it because that's who I am.

the way I say it

It's not cause you are angry. I'm disappointed when my kids mess up, but not angry. That word is not appropiate for the emotion I feel. I spank them as a punishment or consequence, for their actions to teach them self control. It has nothing to do with my feelings and everything to do with my child's. It's not just hitting cause you're mad at them. That's what I think anti-spanking people don't get. My child needs to understand fully that what they did is unacceptable the spanking is the outcome. Most people, if they get angry, try not to spank while they are. I have to have control over my emotions to parent effectively. So I don't spank while I'm upset.

Thank you. Your explanation seems kind of obvious to me, but...

When I was younger, sometimes the only way to get that disappointment in my wrongdoing across to me was a spanking. People have made a big deal about how children should be treated like mini adults but uh...I don't know what kind of kids y'all knew. Sometimes (many times) talking to your child like an 18 year old who can vote just doesn't work. Like I said earlier in another context, kids can be hella irrational. Once I yanked my hand out of my mom's and ran out into the street because I I thought I saw someone I knew. When I saw how upset my mom was I rolled my eyes. Like woman why are you trippin?! When I got home, my dad tore that asz up. Best believe--even though I didn't yet understand that I wasn't invincible and could get run the hell over by a car...I never ran into the street again.

CurlyElectra · 01-11-2012, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetmx85

Ty it's not right. my dad thinks its because I am a liability, I'm constantly having to lift boxes out of a freezer each night and prep for the bakers in the morning. I've never not done a good job. I've even been nervous about lifting them it never complained. I worked at sams club so basically a Walmart store. what they just did was beyond shady. he kept saying the good news is you are rehirable. so then why are you firing me in the first place??

he didn't say straight up because your pregnant but saying my productivity was his way around it when NEVER not even in my sickest day did I need help I got my job done with time to spare. so how is that my productivity?

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I am truly sorry this happened to you, but I agree with your dad. If you are pregnant (whether you complain or not), you really shouldn't be lifting heavy materials, especially if you've been as sick as you've told us and have been losing weight (which is also losing strength). I wish they had let you take leave, but I don't know what their policies are. From what you have described, it doesn't seem like a good environment for your health right now.

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 04:41 PM

well I never got a spanking, and I never did anything stupid.

You know what sucks...sitting in a corner. Or saying sorry and having to hug your brother after you got in a fisticuffs with him, or having your parents lecture you. I wish i got a spanking...that seems like the easy route to me. IMO

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 04:47 PM

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AmberBrown · 01-11-2012, 04:48 PM

Welp, I wasn't an easy child and I didn't have much common sense. And I thought I could out-rationalize any adult so reasoning didn't work too well. LOL

And yeah, my sister and I had to hug it out many a times after a fight. I've perfected the 2 second hug. Time outs never bothered me though. I like "me" time. 'twas peaceful.

cheveuxbouclés · 01-11-2012, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

well I never got a spanking, and I never did anything stupid.

You know what sucks...sitting in a corner. Or saying sorry and having to hug your brother after you got in a fisticuffs with him, or having your parents lecture you. I wish i got a spanking...that seems like the easy route to me. IMO

But see, clearly your parents knew that... or maybe they didn't.
To be honest, my mother could have taken my books away and I would have been devastated. But perhaps she figured no matter what I do, it's still important that I read.

My mother and father divorced when I was young. My mother always hit me , my dad never did. I was daddy's girl and I knew that I could do whatever I wanted, but at least my mother was there to rear me back. My dad has other children from other marriages, all of whom didn't really have him in the household, until he finally stayed with the last women. His last child came from a woman who spoiled him rotten and of course, daddy never did nothing to him either. Guess where he is right now? Jail. Me, my brother, and the rest of my half siblings who got that tail taxed are record free. My dad always question why this last one ended up so badly. I have my theories...

cheveuxbouclés · 01-11-2012, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by AmberBrown

Welp, I wasn't an easy child and I didn't have much common sense. And I thought I could out-rationalize any adult so reasoning didn't work too well. LOL

And yeah, my sister and I had to hug it out many a times after a fight. I've perfected the 2 second hug. Time outs never bothered me though. I like "me" time. 'twas peaceful.

Me. All day everyday.

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 04:57 PM

well my brother is/was the baddest kid on the planet. talking' bad as hell.
never got a spanking. is a captain in the army. Turned out perfectly fine. but if he did something out of line and my dad got mad or dissapointed, he'd probably cry.

and thats the thing, if i disappointed my father I would be very very sad.

AmberBrown · 01-11-2012, 05:02 PM

*shrugs* for some kids that's all it takes. Excellent. For others it takes more. To remove a tool from one parent's toolbox because another parent doesn't need it is asz-backwards.

It comes back to letting responsible parents decide what's best for their kids.

aishasoleil · 01-11-2012, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by AmberBrown

Welp, I wasn't an easy child and I didn't have much common sense. And I thought I could out-rationalize any adult so reasoning didn't work too well. LOL

And yeah, my sister and I had to hug it out many a times after a fight. I've perfected the 2 second hug. Time outs never bothered me though. I like "me" time. 'twas peaceful.

LOL! I hated having to hug my brothers after a fight. We'd give eachother the stank eye as we exchanged awkwardly stiff hugs. SMH. We didn't fight often though. Those two boys are my best friends.

cheveuxbouclés · 01-11-2012, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by foreverturtles

well my brother is/was the baddest kid on the planet. talking' bad as hell.
never got a spanking. is a captain in the army. Turned out perfectly fine. but if he did something out of line and my dad got mad or dissapointed, he'd probably cry.

and thats the thing, if i disappointed my father I would be very very sad.

it is definitely different strokes for different folks. I had an aunt where she never laid a hand on nobody, but she had the whole family shook--even adults. And when she said she was disappointed in you, you wanted to crawl under a rock. She has since passed away, but I like to think that I took her crown for that disposition

I just feel that some anti-spanking people want to prove that you can handle every child without doing so, and you are a horrible person if you consider it.Where as the people who talk about spanking here are acknowledging that spanking is not the only way to deal with children.

cheveuxbouclés · 01-11-2012, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by AmberBrown

*shrugs* for some kids that's all it takes. Excellent. For others it takes more. To remove a tool from one parent's toolbox because another parent doesn't need it is asz-backwards.

It comes back to letting responsible parents decide what's best for their kids.

I feel like I keep parrot-keeting your words lol. Perhaps I should wait a second before responding...

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 05:04 PM

well, you can do whatever, but I don't understand how hitting a child is okay but not an adult.

anywho, just don't say you hit your pets to discipline them cause i will hack yo computer and straight up report yo ass to the aspca

hit ya kids, fine, do whatever you want.

But if theres one thing I will stop people from doing it is hitting animals.

and thats why it seems like people care more about pets than they do children but what can we do?! nothing.

AmberBrown · 01-11-2012, 05:09 PM

I bop my cat in her nose when she does isht she knows she shouldn't.

Who gon check me boo!? I got McAfee anti-virus AND a semester's worth of computer science under my belt. Lmfao

CurlyElectra · 01-11-2012, 05:10 PM

I spank my dog. Not hard, of course, but I tap his little butt or nose when he does things he is not supposed to. My dog KNOWS when he is bad - anytime I come home and he doesn't run up to greet me, I know his sneaky self did something. He's like a kid to me, and I'd spank my kids too.

murrrcat · 01-11-2012, 05:14 PM

AmberBrown · 01-11-2012, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés

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Originally Posted by AmberBrown

*shrugs* for some kids that's all it takes. Excellent. For others it takes more. To remove a tool from one parent's toolbox because another parent doesn't need it is asz-backwards.

It comes back to letting responsible parents decide what's best for their kids.

I feel like I keep parrot-keeting your words lol. Perhaps I should wait a second before responding...

Psht no! I'm thoroughly enjoying your posts

cheveuxbouclés · 01-11-2012, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyElectra

I spank my dog. Not hard, of course, but I tap his little butt or nose when he does things he is not supposed to. My dog KNOWS when he is bad - anytime I come home and he doesn't run up to greet me, I know his sneaky self did something. He's like a kid to me, and I'd spank my kids too.

My old roomate's dog used to do that. Whenever I came home and he wasn't there, I would begin to tiptoe cuz I knew there was a pile of sh*t somewhere.

I am not sure what animals comprehension skills are though. I would imagine while they don't like being hit, they also don't really understand why they are being hit, so it is kind of null and void. But I don't have pets either...