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I spank my dog. Not hard, of course, but I tap his little butt or nose when he does things he is not supposed to. My dog KNOWS when he is bad - anytime I come home and he doesn't run up to greet me, I know his sneaky self did something. He's like a kid to me, and I'd spank my kids too.
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
My old roomate's dog used to do that. Whenever I came home and he wasn't there, I would begin to tiptoe cuz I knew there was a pile of sh*t somewhere.

I am not sure what animals comprehension skills are though. I would imagine while they don't like being hit, they also don't really understand why they are being hit, so it is kind of null and void. But I don't have pets either...
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
ROFL!!! well...not rolling on your floor
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Ty it's not right. my dad thinks its because I am a liability, I'm constantly having to lift boxes out of a freezer each night and prep for the bakers in the morning. I've never not done a good job. I've even been nervous about lifting them it never complained. I worked at sams club so basically a Walmart store. what they just did was beyond shady. he kept saying the good news is you are rehirable. so then why are you firing me in the first place??

he didn't say straight up because your pregnant but saying my productivity was his way around it when NEVER not even in my sickest day did I need help I got my job done with time to spare. so how is that my productivity?

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Originally Posted by sweetmx85

I am truly sorry this happened to you, but I agree with your dad. If you are pregnant (whether you complain or not), you really shouldn't be lifting heavy materials, especially if you've been as sick as you've told us and have been losing weight (which is also losing strength). I wish they had let you take leave, but I don't know what their policies are. From what you have described, it doesn't seem like a good environment for your health right now.
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
my dr said nothing over 25 lbs, well, the biggest box I had was 25 lbs :/ I still didn't like lifting it though just because it wasn't one it was tons and I had to put them on a cart when before I was preg I'd just carry them out. I think being there has def added to how sick I've been and having to stand the whole time but we couldnt afford for me to not be there right now so I was just toughing it out. the last day I was there I asked my boss what I'd be doing once I got bigger and he seemed stumped at the question so idk if that's what got him thinking or what. it just makes me angry that I worked my butt off being super sick for ppl who could of cared less. like I feel like I pushed myself harder than I should of at times and it went completely un noticed or not appreciated. it's opened my eyes for sure. I've always given 100 % every job ive had. every other job I've moved up, so to be fired. I was shocked. literally all the stuff that's come to my mind as to why this was shady and not right at the time I was just dead silent. except for when he said I could stay for the rest of the shift then I said no. I'm leaving.
all along I've wanted to quit since I've been sick but I was too prideful along w too broke to actually do it.


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I spank my dog. Not hard, of course, but I tap his little butt or nose when he does things he is not supposed to. My dog KNOWS when he is bad - anytime I come home and he doesn't run up to greet me, I know his sneaky self did something. He's like a kid to me, and I'd spank my kids too.
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
My old roomate's dog used to do that. Whenever I came home and he wasn't there, I would begin to tiptoe cuz I knew there was a pile of sh*t somewhere.

I am not sure what animals comprehension skills are though. I would imagine while they don't like being hit, they also don't really understand why they are being hit, so it is kind of null and void. But I don't have pets either...
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
ROFL!!! well...not rolling on your floor
Originally Posted by AmberBrown

I read somewhere once that a dog's comprehenshion skills are on par with a 18mth-2 year old so makes pefect sense.
well I never got a spanking, and I never did anything stupid.

You know what sucks...sitting in a corner. Or saying sorry and having to hug your brother after you got in a fisticuffs with him, or having your parents lecture you. I wish i got a spanking...that seems like the easy route to me. IMO
Originally Posted by foreverturtles
But see, clearly your parents knew that... or maybe they didn't.
To be honest, my mother could have taken my books away and I would have been devastated. But perhaps she figured no matter what I do, it's still important that I read.
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
This was me and my sister. My mom would send us to our room, and we would just read. Taking our books away hurt like hell, lol.

Welp, I wasn't an easy child and I didn't have much common sense. And I thought I could out-rationalize any adult so reasoning didn't work too well. LOL

And yeah, my sister and I had to hug it out many a times after a fight. I've perfected the 2 second hug. Time outs never bothered me though. I like "me" time. 'twas peaceful.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
Me. All day everyday.
Originally Posted by cheveuxbouclés
This is my younger son. He thinks (at 4) he can out maneuver anyone mentally. He always has a reason why he should be allowed, or it was only the one time. I always have to be a step in front of him like "don't you even think about it". At 4 he could care less about a timeout, when he gets out, he'll just figure out how to do it without getting caught or do something else while he waits to get ___ toy back, even weeks later. No two kids are exactly alike.
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Ty it's not right. my dad thinks its because I am a liability, I'm constantly having to lift boxes out of a freezer each night and prep for the bakers in the morning. I've never not done a good job. I've even been nervous about lifting them it never complained. I worked at sams club so basically a Walmart store. what they just did was beyond shady. he kept saying the good news is you are rehirable. so then why are you firing me in the first place??

he didn't say straight up because your pregnant but saying my productivity was his way around it when NEVER not even in my sickest day did I need help I got my job done with time to spare. so how is that my productivity?

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Originally Posted by sweetmx85

I am truly sorry this happened to you, but I agree with your dad. If you are pregnant (whether you complain or not), you really shouldn't be lifting heavy materials, especially if you've been as sick as you've told us and have been losing weight (which is also losing strength). I wish they had let you take leave, but I don't know what their policies are. From what you have described, it doesn't seem like a good environment for your health right now.
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
my dr said nothing over 25 lbs, well, the biggest box I had was 25 lbs :/ I still didn't like lifting it though just because it wasn't one it was tons and I had to put them on a cart when before I was preg I'd just carry them out. I think being there has def added to how sick I've been and having to stand the whole time but we couldnt afford for me to not be there right now so I was just toughing it out. the last day I was there I asked my boss what I'd be doing once I got bigger and he seemed stumped at the question so idk if that's what got him thinking or what. it just makes me angry that I worked my butt off being super sick for ppl who could of cared less. like I feel like I pushed myself harder than I should of at times and it went completely un noticed or not appreciated. it's opened my eyes for sure. I've always given 100 % every job ive had. every other job I've moved up, so to be fired. I was shocked. literally all the stuff that's come to my mind as to why this was shady and not right at the time I was just dead silent. except for when he said I could stay for the rest of the shift then I said no. I'm leaving.
all along I've wanted to quit since I've been sick but I was too prideful along w too broke to actually do it.


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Originally Posted by sweetmx85
I'm so sorry Sweet. Most employersdon't give a damn about their employees. You could slave your whole life and still just be a tool to them. I hope you have a case and make them pay. I hope your family is getting by okay without that check. Are you eligible for unemployment since you were fired?
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I'm sure someone will want to jump on me for this but since this is the SIIDY thread Ima just say my opinion:

Black people have been tapping their kids tail for centuries. It's worked for them for centuries. Matter of fact, there didn't seem to be so many black kids running around trying to act like they don't know any better before white people tried to insert themselves into the equation talking about, "child abuse....physical punishment is cruel...OhMyGawd....you're teaching a child to hit....call the po po and remove the child" when really, my spankings never led me to believe that it was anything but a punishment, since it was always began with the list of reasons why i was getting and how i could avoid it in the future. And avoid it i did. Sure there are some kids that are being beaten, but that was a far cry from the rare spankings I got as a kid. So I will definitely go right on along with having an ass-whooping in my little nifty child-rearing tool kit. It's very rare for me, and it was rather rare in my family because we usually followed the rules. Some of these kids do need a good old-fashioned ass-whooping. It woulda cleared them right on up and they wouldn't be acting a fool now.

Plus....we was po. Not poor. Po. The kinda po where my momma would go without food for days or a week and we were eating pots of beans, or peanut butter bread. What you gone do sit us in the bare corner with nothing to do? That wasn't punishment we learned to entertain ourselves in our head at a very young age. Take our phones, games, toys, other luxury items away from us? We didn't have those anyway so we didn't care. Ground us? We stayed in the home with family, we didn't stay on the phone talking to friends, we didn't go out with friends. We didn't want or need to have all these friends. We kept the outside friends at school and usually left them there. We were each other's closest friends.

And no I am not my child's friend. Not my job. That shouldn't be taken to mean that I am not a nurturing and loving mother, I'm just not her friend. Friendship invites people to over-step the boundaries and ignore the usual operating rules in place. Friends do it to other friends all the time.
Originally Posted by demsdata
i'm sorry, but i see plenty of these little hood children getting spanked, and theyre STILL bad. spanking just doesn't work for every child.

i never get when something happens w/ some kids doing ratchet sh*t in the news, and ppl jump up like "well their parents shouldve spanked them!" and i'm like... i'd bet every penny i have that that kid gets beat like every week.

and honestly, i think the population of ppl who believe that kids shouldnt be beat under any circumstance is VERY small. i don't even know any white ppl who weren't spanked as kids. i just think that most ppl believe you shouldnt automatically resort to spanking when the child acts up. it's kind of lazy, b/c you're not even taking the time to figure pout what kind f punishments your child actually responds to.

a punishment means nothing if it isn't executed properly.
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I am truly sorry this happened to you, but I agree with your dad. If you are pregnant (whether you complain or not), you really shouldn't be lifting heavy materials, especially if you've been as sick as you've told us and have been losing weight (which is also losing strength). I wish they had let you take leave, but I don't know what their policies are. From what you have described, it doesn't seem like a good environment for your health right now.
Originally Posted by CurlyElectra
my dr said nothing over 25 lbs, well, the biggest box I had was 25 lbs :/ I still didn't like lifting it though just because it wasn't one it was tons and I had to put them on a cart when before I was preg I'd just carry them out. I think being there has def added to how sick I've been and having to stand the whole time but we couldnt afford for me to not be there right now so I was just toughing it out. the last day I was there I asked my boss what I'd be doing once I got bigger and he seemed stumped at the question so idk if that's what got him thinking or what. it just makes me angry that I worked my butt off being super sick for ppl who could of cared less. like I feel like I pushed myself harder than I should of at times and it went completely un noticed or not appreciated. it's opened my eyes for sure. I've always given 100 % every job ive had. every other job I've moved up, so to be fired. I was shocked. literally all the stuff that's come to my mind as to why this was shady and not right at the time I was just dead silent. except for when he said I could stay for the rest of the shift then I said no. I'm leaving.
all along I've wanted to quit since I've been sick but I was too prideful along w too broke to actually do it.


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Originally Posted by sweetmx85
I'm so sorry Sweet. Most employersdon't give a damn about their employees. You could slave your whole life and still just be a tool to them. I hope you have a case and make them pay. I hope your family is getting by okay without that check. Are you eligible for unemployment since you were fired?
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
Especially Sams which I think is owned by the same people as Walmart. I'm not sure....but you know Wallyworld got some bad employer practices. I've seen plenty of people get fired if they get sick, or pregnant, or hell...even old. They figure they can just replace you with the next eager beaver and save some money. Da sh*t ain't right.

I'm so sorry, you really have been having a rough time so far. Maybe a better job is around the corner. You said yourself you weren't happy, and sometimes you have to get pushed out of a bad situation to land into a better one. Just focus now on feeling better so you can be ready when it comes.
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Welp, I wasn't an easy child and I didn't have much common sense. And I thought I could out-rationalize any adult so reasoning didn't work too well. LOL

And yeah, my sister and I had to hug it out many a times after a fight. I've perfected the 2 second hug. Time outs never bothered me though. I like "me" time. 'twas peaceful.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
My parents would make my sisters and I sit nose to nose when we were fighting. We'd end up cracking up because it's really, really hard to be mad at someone when you're sitting like that.
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Originally Posted by JessicazFro
I find that a lot of people (usually black folk) who come out strong against the "spare the rod, spoil the child" mentality were abused as children. I'm not insinuating anything about you or your upbringing Jessica. This is just a relevant observation. It's not a hard and fast rule, everybody that disagrees with whippings doesn't have to be an abuse survivor. But a lot of folks are.

To THOSE folks: just because YOUR parents went coocoo for cocoa puffs when you were a kid doesn't mean that's everyone's experience. I'll put myself out there and say that I got spankings--and even as a kid I knew that nary a one of them was out of anger. If someone has problems with the way S/HE was raised s/he should take that up with a therapist instead of projecting their issues onto everyone else.

Speaking of issues. I've got them. Can't lie there either. Pretty sure I've outed myself in a couple of posts in this very thread lol. Despite those issues, I'm a fairly well adjusted young adult. And none of my issues can be traced back to my parents whipping me as a child. I've got plenty of triggers, but spanking isn't one. Meanwhile I know PLENTY of people that never saw a switch or a belt, or a wet towel, or a purse strap, or a...lemme stop LOL. And those chicks is EFFFFFFFFED UP. Seriously, just some maladjusted crazy face, no discipline having mofos. So lets not act like some spankings are the make or break in the grand scheme of how a kid will grow up. We've got lost souls on both sides of the row.

Spanking isn't the only way my parents disciplined me. Because they KNEW me as a child, they were able to craft an appropriate regimen to raise me right. I got time-outs, I got my books taken away from me (never really cared for toys), I got lectured, I got extra chores, hell...I even got extra homework (still trying to figure out how they swung that one with the teachers) and yeah, I got spankings. It's the height of know-it-allness to assume that you know better about a wo/man's child than they themselves do. Actually, it reminds me of a certain thread. My parents knew what was best for ME. Not what was best for Sally Sensitive or Poor Abby Abused---Me. Just like every child wouldn't respond to books being taken from them as a punishment...every child won't respond to spankings. I leave it to responsible parents to decide who needs what.

I was a bad asz kid. Real talk. I was hard-headed, I talked back, thought I knew everything...People have different personalities and mine was stubborn as hell. No amount of time outs alone were going to convince me of anything. No amount of spankings alone were gonna convince me either. My parents needed a mixed bag to raise me and I'm glad as hell that they didn't let some know it all social worker or whoever tell them to alter their methods. I'd be in a ditch somewhere.

Plenty of parents abuse their kids without the help of a belt. I'd say that many of those parents who whine and cry about never "raising a hand to their child", neglect their child. Don't give a damn about their child.

That stuff about slavery is damn insulting. My parents are educated and AWARE enough to know how slave masters beat their slaves. Ain't nothing similar between the way George Washington beat his slaves and the way my daddy spanked me. If people can't tell the difference that's willful ignorance. But like I said before, it's always been obvious to me that I never got a whipping out of anger.

My parents have never failed to encourage me in ANYTHING. Sometimes I wish they'd just shut up with the encouragement and accept my self-imposed limitations like I have.
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
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Awkward.
I'm sure someone will want to jump on me for this but since this is the SIIDY thread Ima just say my opinion:

Black people have been tapping their kids tail for centuries. It's worked for them for centuries. Matter of fact, there didn't seem to be so many black kids running around trying to act like they don't know any better before white people tried to insert themselves into the equation talking about, "child abuse....physical punishment is cruel...OhMyGawd....you're teaching a child to hit....call the po po and remove the child" when really, my spankings never led me to believe that it was anything but a punishment, since it was always began with the list of reasons why i was getting and how i could avoid it in the future. And avoid it i did. Sure there are some kids that are being beaten, but that was a far cry from the rare spankings I got as a kid. So I will definitely go right on along with having an ass-whooping in my little nifty child-rearing tool kit. It's very rare for me, and it was rather rare in my family because we usually followed the rules. Some of these kids do need a good old-fashioned ass-whooping. It woulda cleared them right on up and they wouldn't be acting a fool now.

Plus....we was po. Not poor. Po. The kinda po where my momma would go without food for days or a week and we were eating pots of beans, or peanut butter bread. What you gone do sit us in the bare corner with nothing to do? That wasn't punishment we learned to entertain ourselves in our head at a very young age. Take our phones, games, toys, other luxury items away from us? We didn't have those anyway so we didn't care. Ground us? We stayed in the home with family, we didn't stay on the phone talking to friends, we didn't go out with friends. We didn't want or need to have all these friends. We kept the outside friends at school and usually left them there. We were each other's closest friends.

And no I am not my child's friend. Not my job. That shouldn't be taken to mean that I am not a nurturing and loving mother, I'm just not her friend. Friendship invites people to over-step the boundaries and ignore the usual operating rules in place. Friends do it to other friends all the time.
Originally Posted by demsdata
i'm sorry, but i see plenty of these little hood children getting spanked, and theyre STILL bad. spanking just doesn't work for every child.

i never get when something happens w/ some kids doing ratchet sh*t in the news, and ppl jump up like "well their parents shouldve spanked them!" and i'm like... i'd bet every penny i have that that kid gets beat like every week.

and honestly, i think the population of ppl who believe that kids shouldnt be beat under any circumstance is VERY small. i don't even know any white ppl who weren't spanked as kids. i just think that most ppl believe you shouldnt automatically resort to spanking when the child acts up. it's kind of lazy, b/c you're not even taking the time to figure pout what kind f punishments your child actually responds to.

a punishment means nothing if it isn't executed properly.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious

word up A town down
my dr said nothing over 25 lbs, well, the biggest box I had was 25 lbs :/ I still didn't like lifting it though just because it wasn't one it was tons and I had to put them on a cart when before I was preg I'd just carry them out. I think being there has def added to how sick I've been and having to stand the whole time but we couldnt afford for me to not be there right now so I was just toughing it out. the last day I was there I asked my boss what I'd be doing once I got bigger and he seemed stumped at the question so idk if that's what got him thinking or what. it just makes me angry that I worked my butt off being super sick for ppl who could of cared less. like I feel like I pushed myself harder than I should of at times and it went completely un noticed or not appreciated. it's opened my eyes for sure. I've always given 100 % every job ive had. every other job I've moved up, so to be fired. I was shocked. literally all the stuff that's come to my mind as to why this was shady and not right at the time I was just dead silent. except for when he said I could stay for the rest of the shift then I said no. I'm leaving.
all along I've wanted to quit since I've been sick but I was too prideful along w too broke to actually do it.


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Originally Posted by sweetmx85
I'm so sorry Sweet. Most employersdon't give a damn about their employees. You could slave your whole life and still just be a tool to them. I hope you have a case and make them pay. I hope your family is getting by okay without that check. Are you eligible for unemployment since you were fired?
Originally Posted by AmberBrown
Especially Sams which I think is owned by the same people as Walmart. I'm not sure....but you know Wallyworld got some bad employer practices. I've seen plenty of people get fired if they get sick, or pregnant, or hell...even old. They figure they can just replace you with the next eager beaver and save some money. Da sh*t ain't right.

I'm so sorry, you really have been having a rough time so far. Maybe a better job is around the corner. You said yourself you weren't happy, and sometimes you have to get pushed out of a bad situation to land into a better one. Just focus now on feeling better so you can be ready when it comes.
Originally Posted by Kinky DaySha
that's what my sister was just sayin, all of my previous jobs have been in offices and in management. the only reason I went w this job was because I could work part time in the evenings but home before 10:00. this way my husband would be the one watching our son and i wouldn't be gone allll the time. the hours seemed perfect for that situation the pay was the worst I've ever had. i was making almost 3 times as much at my old
job on commission checks and twice as much regularly. maybe if I do look for more ill be able to get a desk job again. what I'd really like is for y husband to get a pt job in the evenings so I can just rest.
idk about unemployment cause it literally just happened today I haven't looked that up yet I've just been googling ohio's laws for firing pregnant women. as far as bills. we were barely ahead w me working so this is gonna be in Gods hands till something works it's way out. my husband is the calmest person I know, he keeps saying its gonna be ok and trying to keep me calm. between him and my sister I feel a little better this still is messed up. like they literally saw me running to the bathroom multiple times each day I was there, saw me looking like death, knew about me habig to go to the er so many times, legit knew how sick I am and still was always there working hard. then just tossed me aside w no warning.




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I've always been a firm believer in spanking. when I was a teen I was everyone's nanny. Babysitter implies that you have the kid a hour or so and you get paid. No, I "babysat" from about 6 in the morning till 8:30 at night unpaid (my mom would volunteer me) everyday until said child started shcool/daycare. During this time every kid got spanked at least once, but I spanked rarely, usually only dangerous situations or extreme disrespect. It was always understood by parents, I would not watch said child if spanking isn't allowed. Even my nephew and his girlfriend know I'll be happy to watch the new baby coming, but I reserve the right to spank him or her for misbehavior. I don't remember ever trying time outs, I don't know if I know how to do them correctly. Usually if a situation didn't warrant a "buttwhuppin" just a look would work fine. Three incidents I remember well were two spankings and a hotsaucing.

1) My niece. Babysitting time for her actually started earlier than the others, around 4 am. Her mom would drop her off, slip her into my bed, and she'd be mine till 7pm. I remember one morning when she was 2 and I was about 16 I went to use the bathroom while she was still sleep, (or so I thought). When I came back to my room she was gone. I went looking for her, my mom's bedroom door was slightly cracked. I tiptoe in knowing she up to something. What do I find but my mom's 2nd floor window open, the screen is pushined out, and my niece is dangling out the window, giggling, only her ribs keeping her from fallling. To this day I don't know how I did it but I managed to quietly tiptoe to her and snatch her out the window without spooking her and making her fall. After a few seconds I calmed myself and spanked her legs "don't ever go to the window without a grownup again!!" To this day, she's 10 now, she kind of looks around for permission before looking out of a window.

2) again my niece (she was a bad azz) was a biter. Serious biter, she drew blood. She had never bitten me before, but I'd heard stories. One day when she was 3 she decided to bite me for trying to take her upstairs for naptime. I (without saying a word) took her in to the kitchen, pryed her lips apart and shook two drops of hotsauce on her tongue, waited 60 seconds, then gave her bread and water. Habit broke then and there, all instances of biting stopped.

3) My godmother's grandson. When he was 3 my mom and I took him out with his big wheel. He knew the rules by that point, end of the curb, then turn, back up the curb. We'd been doing this everyday for two months by that point. This day he decided to test me and kept going, right into the street. A car stopped just short of hitting him, and he was laughing. I then gave him his very first whuppin with a belt. He always turned at the edge of the curb after that.

My spankings were effective and got my point across to toddlers, I don't know how I should have handled those situations without spankings.

Another incident I remember was with GG's cousin. At 20 months he had pink eye and needed a ointment rubbed into his eyes every few hours. I was battling the flu at the time and technically he was in my godmother's care, but she was a serious alcoholic, a falling down drunk, so all baby responsibilities fell to me as the only stable "grownup" (17) in the house. So I dragged myself out of bed, sat little ryan down on the table and got to work. A few minutes later as I washed my hands, my godmother and her favorite drinking buddy 'puddin' (who hated my mom and me) returned home from the liquor store. Puddin spots ryan's shiny undereyes and rushes over to him "oh ryan baby are you okay. Have you been crying, did shannon do something to you??!" I was stunned by ryan's reaction. He scrunched up his little face and went "no" in this tone of voice like "bish is you crazy?!" I burst out laughing. Later when I told ryan's mother about it she laughed too, and said "everybody know shannon wouldn't hurt a kid. Even my one year old know the idea is crazy. She a whup when the situation calls, but she ain't abusive to nobody."

I threw that last incident in to show I spank, but I ain't crazy. I ain't on no penny's momma from goodtimes ish. I adore children, I've never met a child I didn't fall in love with. Papi says that's one of his favorite things about me, when we go out if a child enter's the room my eyes light up and they seem drawn to me. Me and his his 4 year old niece are the best of friends, she actually seems to think I'm her girlfriend, he he.

I dunno, whenever I get over my mom/issues and everything that's happened, I'll probably go back to school. I'd love to study early childhood education and become a nanny, preschool teacher, daycare provider, something. I'd also love to register as a foster mother for infants/toddlers onece I get myslef together.
Hot sauce. Love it. I used my smack reflex on my cousin once for biting.

Spankings work but some kids are different and don't learn from them.

our family rule of thumb:

If they say the wrong thing, pop them in the mouth.

If they take the wrong thing pop their hands

If they go the wrong way, pop their legs.

Under one yr old: thump them, middle finger and thumb.

It worked for me.
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Huh? So are they admitting that she is of another culture?
i'm sorry, but i see plenty of these little hood children getting spanked, and theyre STILL bad. spanking just doesn't work for every child.

i never get when something happens w/ some kids doing ratchet sh*t in the news, and ppl jump up like "well their parents shouldve spanked them!" and i'm like... i'd bet every penny i have that that kid gets beat like every week.

and honestly, i think the population of ppl who believe that kids shouldnt be beat under any circumstance is VERY small. i don't even know any white ppl who weren't spanked as kids. i just think that most ppl believe you shouldnt automatically resort to spanking when the child acts up. it's kind of lazy, b/c you're not even taking the time to figure pout what kind f punishments your child actually responds to.

a punishment means nothing if it isn't executed properly.
Of all the comments about the issue, this is the one I agree with the most. It comes down to knowing your child and what they will respond to. Although parents do the best they can with what they have, not every parent is that attuned to their child. Not all children can be spoken to and reasoned with but by the same token, all children don't respond to spankings either. I often was obedient and well behaved, so I wasn't spanked often. Honestly, taking my books or radio away was more devastating than a spanking because I lived and breathed words and music. Taking those away was akin to taking away a part of myself. Spankings didn't register as much with me.
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Hot sauce. Love it. I used my smack reflex on my cousin once for biting.

Spankings work but some kids are different and don't learn from them.

our family rule of thumb:

If they say the wrong thing, pop them in the mouth.

If they take the wrong thing pop their hands

If they go the wrong way, pop their legs.

Under one yr old: thump them, middle finger and thumb.

It worked for me.
Originally Posted by sienna40
So the punishment should fit or correspond to the crime, so to speak.
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