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My SO told me that he doesn't feel like he deserves someone like me because I'm better than he is professionally standing. He's at a job he hates and wants to go back to school but might not be able to because of the bevy of student loans. He would rather see me happy with someone else then for me to stay and continue to "bring me down" as he says. He can't offer me anything else but his love and he doesn't believe that is enough because he's disappointing me. I feel like his self worth is shot and said he would rather us go our separate ways than have me unhappy as I am now. But I love this man and I know that he's unhappy with his life and it's affecting how we work.

He has disappointed me recently because he's been upset and out of it, and being able to offer me nothing emotionally. I feel selfish because when I was depressed he was there and now I'm on the fence. I don't know what to do. I want to stay and support him but I don't know how when he feels like he's worth less than me because he's unhappy with his life and now he's shutting me out. I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused.
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My SO told me that he doesn't feel like he deserves someone like me because I'm better than he is professionally standing. He's at a job he hates and wants to go back to school but might not be able to because of the bevy of student loans. He would rather see me happy with someone else then for me to stay and continue to "bring me down" as he says. He can't offer me anything else but his love and he doesn't believe that is enough because he's disappointing me. I feel like his self worth is shot and said he would rather us go our separate ways than have me unhappy as I am now. But I love this man and I know that he's unhappy with his life and it's affecting how we work.

He has disappointed me recently because he's been upset and out of it, and being able to offer me nothing emotionally. I feel selfish because when I was depressed he was there and now I'm on the fence. I don't know what to do. I want to stay and support him but I don't know how when he feels like he's worth less than me because he's unhappy with his life and now he's shutting me out. I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused.
Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
I'm sorry you're going through this. Prayer and Meditation work for me when my mind can't figure out what to do. Asking a question and then sitting in silence for the answer. Perhaps your SO needs to spread his wings and be released from this relationship. It has nothing to do with you. You too, may need to release and let go. No matter what happens, you are well cared for by the Infinite.
My SO told me that he doesn't feel like he deserves someone like me because I'm better than he is professionally standing. He's at a job he hates and wants to go back to school but might not be able to because of the bevy of student loans. He would rather see me happy with someone else then for me to stay and continue to "bring me down" as he says. He can't offer me anything else but his love and he doesn't believe that is enough because he's disappointing me. I feel like his self worth is shot and said he would rather us go our separate ways than have me unhappy as I am now. But I love this man and I know that he's unhappy with his life and it's affecting how we work.

He has disappointed me recently because he's been upset and out of it, and being able to offer me nothing emotionally. I feel selfish because when I was depressed he was there and now I'm on the fence. I don't know what to do. I want to stay and support him but I don't know how when he feels like he's worth less than me because he's unhappy with his life and now he's shutting me out. I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused.
Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Sorry you're going through this. When you were going through your difficulties and he stayed and supported you, did you want him to stay? If so, there is your difference. He doesn't want you to stay. I am agree with the poster above. It may be best to let him go and find his way. That doesn't make you a bad person.

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Originally Posted by CocoT
No dearie Birthday Week! Belated Happy Birthday to you and kairo!!!!
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I think karma is getting me for hating my previous job because this job search has been very disappointing. I can't take this anymore!!!
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds

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My SO told me that he doesn't feel like he deserves someone like me because I'm better than he is professionally standing. He's at a job he hates and wants to go back to school but might not be able to because of the bevy of student loans. He would rather see me happy with someone else then for me to stay and continue to "bring me down" as he says. He can't offer me anything else but his love and he doesn't believe that is enough because he's disappointing me. I feel like his self worth is shot and said he would rather us go our separate ways than have me unhappy as I am now. But I love this man and I know that he's unhappy with his life and it's affecting how we work.

He has disappointed me recently because he's been upset and out of it, and being able to offer me nothing emotionally. I feel selfish because when I was depressed he was there and now I'm on the fence. I don't know what to do. I want to stay and support him but I don't know how when he feels like he's worth less than me because he's unhappy with his life and now he's shutting me out. I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused.
Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
I'm sorry you're going through this. Prayer and Meditation work for me when my mind can't figure out what to do. Asking a question and then sitting in silence for the answer. Perhaps your SO needs to spread his wings and be released from this relationship. It has nothing to do with you. You too, may need to release and let go. No matter what happens, you are well cared for by the Infinite.
Originally Posted by naturalyogini
Okay..wow..I honestly need to wear my glasses more. I'm looking and looking and thinking "Prayer and medication...prayer and medication...prayer and medication.." Until I realized it says prayer and MEDITATION..not no dayum medication. Lawd. I need to have a serious seat and find my glasses before I do.
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I think karma is getting me for hating my previous job because this job search has been very disappointing. I can't take this anymore!!!
Originally Posted by CocoT
I know the feeling. I've applied for more than thirty jobs & I'm now "competing" for a 10 hr a week position with a bachelors. It just got real out here.

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Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Originally Posted by *Marah*
well, somebody has to be the example.
Dang.. LL Cool J is not playing with folks that bust in his home... he laid the smack down on this fool:
Rapper LL Cool J nabs intruder at Los Angeles home - Yahoo! News
Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Originally Posted by *Marah*
well, somebody has to be the example.
Originally Posted by murrrcat
Yeah..well there are tons of examples. Furthermore, this dude DID kidnap and assault a young lady. He deserved punishment. I was just trying to convey that I don't get why he or his peeps were so shocked.
Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Originally Posted by *Marah*
well, somebody has to be the example.
Originally Posted by murrrcat
Yeah..well there are tons of examples. Furthermore, this dude DID kidnap and assault a young lady. He deserved punishment. I was just trying to convey that I don't get why he or his peeps were so shocked.
Originally Posted by *Marah*

I know.
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Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Originally Posted by *Marah*
well, somebody has to be the example.
Originally Posted by murrrcat
Yeah..well there are tons of examples. Furthermore, this dude DID kidnap and assault a young lady. He deserved punishment. I was just trying to convey that I don't get why he or his peeps were so shocked.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
ITA. Um, they had you ON CAMERA, beating this girl to a pulp and kicking her in the face...and fam thought he would get probation so he can play some ball in college?! Boy, bye.

If anything, I'm shocked three years is all he got...



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it makes me sad how people just throw away their lives like that.
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well, somebody has to be the example.
Originally Posted by murrrcat
Yeah..well there are tons of examples. Furthermore, this dude DID kidnap and assault a young lady. He deserved punishment. I was just trying to convey that I don't get why he or his peeps were so shocked.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
ITA. Um, they had you ON CAMERA, beating this girl to a pulp and kicking her in the face...and fam thought he would get probation so he can play some ball in college?! Boy, bye.

If anything, I'm shocked three years is all he got...



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Originally Posted by JFrank09
...and what's even more bizarre is the victim asked that he not be sentenced to jail time. I think some screws got loosened during the beat down.

But...this stuff is not uncommon. Women often protect and/or defend their abusers. Big ole' 6'7" strappin' guy beatin' and kickin' his ex, and then fallin' out and cryin', after he got not even what was due. Only 3 years?

He shoulda fell on the floor and cried, when his mind told him to stomp his ex-girlfriend.
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Seriously. You commit a felony, you get locked up when you get caught. It's that simple. I'm not sure why he (or his family) was surprised.

Yeah..well there are tons of examples. Furthermore, this dude DID kidnap and assault a young lady. He deserved punishment. I was just trying to convey that I don't get why he or his peeps were so shocked.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
ITA. Um, they had you ON CAMERA, beating this girl to a pulp and kicking her in the face...and fam thought he would get probation so he can play some ball in college?! Boy, bye.

If anything, I'm shocked three years is all he got...



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Originally Posted by JFrank09
...and what's even more bizarre is the victim asked that he not be sentenced to jail time. I think some screws got loosened during the beat down.

But...this stuff is not uncommon. Women often protect and/or defend their abusers. Big ole' 6'7" strappin' guy beatin' and kickin' his ex, and then fallin' out and cryin', after he got not even what was due. Only 3 years?

He shoulda fell on the floor and cried, when his mind told him to stomp his ex-girlfriend.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
I think that was part of the intimidation. I think he asked her (or his family) asked her to say that. He def. shld have gotten MORE time.

AMEN to the bolded. YES!
Look, I'm not trying to be mean but what on EARTH did they expect ? I mean just really. I guess he did not comprehend that young black men is almost assuredly going to jail for this stuff.. he kidnapped and assaulted a young lady for pete's sake. What did they expect community service ???

Top recruit collapses in court after receiving three-year prison sentence | The Dagger: College Basketball Blog - Yahoo! Sports
Originally Posted by *Marah*
Dang that was hard to watch.

He gon learn today though.
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Seriously. You commit a felony, you get locked up when you get caught. It's that simple. I'm not sure why he (or his family) was surprised.
Originally Posted by coilynapp
Yea. But if he's like any of the basketball players at my high school, they probably thought he would get off. I'm not trying to say they did stuff like this because I don't know that, but it wasn't unusual for them to have teachers fudge their grades so they can keep playing on the team. Stuff like that. I know what stuff like that can do to a person's ego.
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