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Old 12-31-2012, 02:13 PM   #19041
 
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Spike doesn't do films like this. Q.T. Has been talking about doing a Black spaghetti western for a while. I'm a fan of both directors. who doesn't love Jackie Brown or Malcolm X. I think I watch both films annually.

Spike is wrong because he knows Q.T. Has a certain style. Spike acts like he thought it would be more like a Clint Eastwood film or something. Like I said, Spike is hating because Red Hook Summer went from the theater to Netflix in 3 months. How many movies does he expect us to watch about Brooklyn? Gosh.

Is funny to hear folks say they don't want to see this film. I watch movies like A time to kill, Malcolm X, American History X, Higher Learning, & even Rosewood, to remind myself that we are not far removed from those times.

But if Django is more like inglorious basterds I know I'm going to enjoy it more if I watch it from that angle.

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I live in Florida. Home of Rosewood, Trayvon Martin, Jordan Davis, voter suppression. I get reminded on a regular basis. Don't need a movie for that.
You have a point. But many do not experience these things in reality. Particularly those who are not POC. These films are tools for teaching folks who don't have constant reminders. They taught me early on. My mom made me watch Malcolm
X before I was 10 years old. I had an experience with a racist teacher in school & the film hit home.

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Old 12-31-2012, 02:16 PM   #19042
 
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Spike doesn't do films like this. Q.T. Has been talking about doing a Black spaghetti western for a while. I'm a fan of both directors. who doesn't love Jackie Brown or Malcolm X. I think I watch both films annually.

Spike is wrong because he knows Q.T. Has a certain style. Spike acts like he thought it would be more like a Clint Eastwood film or something. Like I said, Spike is hating because Red Hook Summer went from the theater to Netflix in 3 months. How many movies does he expect us to watch about Brooklyn? Gosh.

Is funny to hear folks say they don't want to see this film. I watch movies like A time to kill, Malcolm X, American History X, Higher Learning, & even Rosewood, to remind myself that we are not far removed from those times.

But if Django is more like inglorious basterds I know I'm going to enjoy it more if I watch it from that angle.

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I live in Florida. Home of Rosewood, Trayvon Martin, Jordan Davis, voter suppression. I get reminded on a regular basis. Don't need a movie for that.
You have a point. But many do not experience these things in reality. Particularly those who are not POC. These films are tools for teaching folks who don't have constant reminders. They taught me early on. My mom made me watch Malcolm
X before I was 10 years old. I had an experience with a racist teacher in school & the film hit home.

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I understand. There are those that do need reminding. It seems some want to forget. That is a dangerous thought pattern.
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Old 12-31-2012, 02:28 PM   #19043
 
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Speaking of Netflix, my mom and I were watching a Madea movie, forget the name, where this daughter was really mean to her mom. Anyway my mom commented on it and I said it was likely an abuse situation which later was revealed. I think I could sense this because I have a similar situation. I think with the help of counseling and a church retreat I was able to forgive the person but watching that movie made me realize I have some deep down resentment toward my mom. I never told her but part of me feels like she suspected or should have known. I would beg her not to send me to my grandparents. I would cry and even throw up but she always made me go. The problem wasn't my grandparents but another relative. My grandma even found bad bruises on me when I was about five. At first I was afraid to tell because my cousin threatend me but eventually she got out of me that my cousin did it. Still I had to go back in the summer and the physical and sexual abuse continued for years. Now I don't talk to this particular first cousin and my mom has never once asked me why. So a few days after movie she asked me if anyone had ever bothered me and I lied and told her I didn't remember. Really I was mad thinking why are you asking me this now and not back then? My mom was always warning me about stangers. Don't talk to them. Don't take candy from them. Don't go off with them. TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ALL PREDATORS ARE NOT STRANGERS!! I have decided to never make it public bc of the problems it would cause in family. I also realize my mom was in a tough situation as a single working mother so summers were a problem. I also begged to go to camp instead but she couldn't afford it. it is funny how sometimes you think you have moved past something and then there is a trigger that brings it all back like it just happened.
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So I'm at McDonald's banging out my lesson plans and a woman comes to me and says are you a student? I tell her no I'm a teacher. She says omg you look so young. *le sigh* this is why I don't want to meet any of my seniors parents.......but it is coming
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Speaking of Netflix, my mom and I were watching a Madea movie, forget the name, where this daughter was really mean to her mom. Anyway my mom commented on it and I said it was likely an abuse situation which later was revealed. I think I could sense this because I have a similar situation. I think with the help of counseling and a church retreat I was able to forgive the person but watching that movie made me realize I have some deep down resentment toward my mom. I never told her but part of me feels like she suspected or should have known. I would beg her not to send me to my grandparents. I would cry and even throw up but she always made me go. The problem wasn't my grandparents but another relative. My grandma even found bad bruises on me when I was about five. At first I was afraid to tell because my cousin threatend me but eventually she got out of me that my cousin did it. Still I had to go back in the summer and the physical and sexual abuse continued for years. Now I don't talk to this particular first cousin and my mom has never once asked me why. So a few days after movie she asked me if anyone had ever bothered me and I lied and told her I didn't remember. Really I was mad thinking why are you asking me this now and not back then? My mom was always warning me about stangers. Don't talk to them. Don't take candy from them. Don't go off with them. TEACH YOUR CHILDREN ALL PREDATORS ARE NOT STRANGERS!! I have decided to never make it public bc of the problems it would cause in family. I also realize my mom was in a tough situation as a single working mother so summers were a problem. I also begged to go to camp instead but she couldn't afford it. it is funny how sometimes you think you have moved past something and then there is a trigger that brings it all back like it just happened.
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And yes, that is a great reminder, not too often is it stated. Lots of children are abused by family members. And I wonder if they don't report it because these are not strangers.
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Old 12-31-2012, 03:18 PM   #19046
 
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I can relate to this all too well. Also parents, please tell your children that family friends can be predators too, even those that aren't adults.
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Old 12-31-2012, 04:13 PM   #19047
 
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Ad I hope you do share your feelings with your mom. She may not want to hear it but you should put it out there.

All TP films seem to call molestation by a relative to attention. I think that's one reason he relates to the color purple. In African American families its like we try to protect both the victim & the predator. Most people ate grown before they seek any counseling or try to confront the person. Some never do.

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GIANT HUGS TO YOU AD!

And yes, that is a great reminder, not too often is it stated. Lots of children are abused by family members. And I wonder if they don't report it because these are not strangers.


Thanks. I think because it causes a rift in the family as people take sides because no one wants to think their relative could do such a thing. Look at Mo'nique and her family.

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I can relate to this all too well. Also parents, please tell your children that family friends can be predators too, even those that aren't adults.


Yes, actually my cousin is only a few years older than me so was also a minor at the time. I feel like there must have been some initial abuse that in turn got subjected on me. not to make people paranoid but realize that familial abuse can and does happen. Don't be lax about warning signs just because it's family. If your child acts strange or extremely uncomfortable around certain people there is a reason. So don't force them to hug or kiss or stay with that person. They may have trouble verbalizing what is happening to them but their behavior will show something is wrong. Also if your child does tell you someone has done something inappropriate believe them. I remember at about 7 yrs. old my aunt was grilling me about why my cousin and I had been gone so long. Finally I told her my cousin was showing me pictures in a magazine of a d*** and she told me I was a liar because her child didn't know what a d*** was. So I kept my mouth shut after that because I figured no one would believe me. Actually they still wouldn't.

I hope I'm not offending anyone by being graphic. Sorry. I'm telling you this hoping my story will save someone's child from this.
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I feel bad "liking" your post, but I'm "liking" to agree. You telling could open someones eyes. It is so hurtful what you went through and to know that your relatives don't believe you is even worse. As a child, that has to be a really horrible feeling to know something bad is happening, but no one would believe you if you told (or that if you told, it would split up the family). So sad
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A friend called an invited me to hang out on New Years. I never do anything on new years. I wasn't planning on doing anything so I accepted but now I'm struggling to get ready because I really just feel like being lazy. That's not a good excuse to be a potato though.


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A friend called an invited me to hang out on New Years. I never do anything on new years. I wasn't planning on doing anything so I accepted but now I'm struggling to get ready because I really just feel like being lazy. That's not a good excuse to be a potato though.


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I just know this poor kid is going to get a jacked up name. Is she even divorced yet?


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*Big hugs Adthomas*

I admire people who are strong enough to talk about these types of things, so thank you.

Too often blacks make comments to suggest that only white families do these things, and it is far from the truth. Sexual abuse is one of the biggest skeletons in our family history on my moms side...just generation after generation and nobody wants to acknowledge it really.

Hell, i only just told my mom about what happened to me last year. I had been sitting on that secret for about 18 years and I'm pretty sure I never said anything for fear that it would rip our family apart.
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And Happy New Year everyone, I hope you all had a fun and safe holiday.

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I can't even enjoy my yarn braids I put in my hair because I know I will have to take them out and that will take so BLOODY LONG.
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I can't even enjoy my yarn braids I put in my hair because I know I will have to take them out and that will take so BLOODY LONG.
why are you taking them down? didn't you just put them in?
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