The New & Improved Say It I Dare You - Page 968

soleilmoncur · 01-17-2013, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

Something just popped into my head. Soleil, did you and ex talk about the future when you were together? As in REAL plans, not maybes.

Yes. Or is it maybe? Part of the reason this messed me up as much as it did was that I was expecting to be engaged this year since last year when we talked about it he said to give him a year. But looking back on it it was always me who kept talking about what we were going to do together outside of our individual plans. He really wasn't as committed as he was when we first got together and I should have just let it go but I didn't. Now I know I have to really move on. Today is the first day I didn't feel like crap all day, I managed to eat, and I hope I will get my first nights sleep in weeks.

I'm in the process of looking at the cost of living arrangements in the coming months when I'm done being an au pair. I started my CV and hopefully I'll have it done tomorrow for a job that I would like to have. I wasted 2 and a half weeks of this year doing nothing because I was so upset when I have a lot of work to do. I'm done with it. Thank you guys so much.

coilynapp · 01-17-2013, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

Something just popped into my head. Soleil, did you and ex talk about the future when you were together? As in REAL plans, not maybes.

Yes. Or is it maybe? Part of the reason this messed me up as much as it did was that I was expecting to be engaged this year since last year when we talked about it he said to give him a year. But looking back on it it was always me who kept talking about what we were going to do together outside of our individual plans. He really wasn't as committed as he was when we first got together and I should have just let it go but I didn't. Now I know I have to really move on. Today is the first day I didn't feel like crap all day, I managed to eat, and I hope I will get my first nights sleep in weeks.

I'm in the process of looking at the cost of living arrangements in the coming months when I'm done being an au pair. I started my CV and hopefully I'll have it done tomorrow for a job that I would like to have. I wasted 2 and a half weeks of this year doing nothing because I was so upset when I have a lot of work to do. I'm done with it. Thank you guys so much.

DING DING DING!!!!!!!!

I thought so. I mean 8 years is a long time to not be engaged, or living together or in the process of moving in that direction.

I'm so sorry this happened, but I said you you probably missed some signs, now you see them loud and clear. I'm so sorry

No one is going to be with anyone for that long without committing in some sort of permanent way (even if it was long distance for a while).

adthomas · 01-17-2013, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

Something just popped into my head. Soleil, did you and ex talk about the future when you were together? As in REAL plans, not maybes.

Yes. Or is it maybe? Part of the reason this messed me up as much as it did was that I was expecting to be engaged this year since last year when we talked about it he said to give him a year. But looking back on it it was always me who kept talking about what we were going to do together outside of our individual plans. He really wasn't as committed as he was when we first got together and I should have just let it go but I didn't. Now I know I have to really move on. Today is the first day I didn't feel like crap all day, I managed to eat, and I hope I will get my first nights sleep in weeks.

I'm in the process of looking at the cost of living arrangements in the coming months when I'm done being an au pair. I started my CV and hopefully I'll have it done tomorrow for a job that I would like to have. I wasted 2 and a half weeks of this year doing nothing because I was so upset when I have a lot of work to do. I'm done with it. Thank you guys so much.

One day at a time. Do you think you are in love with him or in love with the person you built in your mind him to be? Cuz Sounds to me you are In love with a dream of a fairytale ever after and that is what's hard for you to let go. Deep down I think you knew this was just a plain ole frog you were kissing. Just think if you had married him. Maybe had kids. Then found all this out. That means you would be stuck dealing with this jerk for decades. But you're not stuck. You're free. Free like Cealie from Curly Purple when she ditched Mista's sorry butt.

soleilmoncur · 01-17-2013, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

Something just popped into my head. Soleil, did you and ex talk about the future when you were together? As in REAL plans, not maybes.

Yes. Or is it maybe? Part of the reason this messed me up as much as it did was that I was expecting to be engaged this year since last year when we talked about it he said to give him a year. But looking back on it it was always me who kept talking about what we were going to do together outside of our individual plans. He really wasn't as committed as he was when we first got together and I should have just let it go but I didn't. Now I know I have to really move on. Today is the first day I didn't feel like crap all day, I managed to eat, and I hope I will get my first nights sleep in weeks.

I'm in the process of looking at the cost of living arrangements in the coming months when I'm done being an au pair. I started my CV and hopefully I'll have it done tomorrow for a job that I would like to have. I wasted 2 and a half weeks of this year doing nothing because I was so upset when I have a lot of work to do. I'm done with it. Thank you guys so much.

One day at a time. Do you think you are in love with him or in love with the person you built in your mind him to be? Cuz Sounds to me you are In love with a dream of a fairytale ever after and that is what's hard for you to let go. Deep down I think you knew this was just a plain ole frog you were kissing. Just think if you had married him. Maybe had kids. Then found all this out. That means you would be stuck dealing with this jerk for decades. But you're not stuck. You're free. Free like Cealie from Curly Purple when she ditched Mista's sorry butt.

He was my first everything. But you're all right. It wasn't going to last and I chose not to see it.

damsel_fly · 01-17-2013, 04:30 PM

Chad Ryan, get out of there!

coilynapp · 01-17-2013, 04:47 PM

I'm really sorry Soleil.

If you feel like listening to sad songs (I know you do), listen to Gabrielle's "Out of Reach". It's just your story. I love her music. It was on the Bridget Jone's Diary 2 soundtrack. It's a sad story, but it's a strong story because in the end she says that even if he never loved her, she knows that there is more for her out there. And there is for you.

(((SOLEIL)))

adthomas · 01-17-2013, 04:51 PM

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Yes. Or is it maybe? Part of the reason this messed me up as much as it did was that I was expecting to be engaged this year since last year when we talked about it he said to give him a year. But looking back on it it was always me who kept talking about what we were going to do together outside of our individual plans. He really wasn't as committed as he was when we first got together and I should have just let it go but I didn't. Now I know I have to really move on. Today is the first day I didn't feel like crap all day, I managed to eat, and I hope I will get my first nights sleep in weeks.

I'm in the process of looking at the cost of living arrangements in the coming months when I'm done being an au pair. I started my CV and hopefully I'll have it done tomorrow for a job that I would like to have. I wasted 2 and a half weeks of this year doing nothing because I was so upset when I have a lot of work to do. I'm done with it. Thank you guys so much.

One day at a time. Do you think you are in love with him or in love with the person you built in your mind him to be? Cuz Sounds to me you are In love with a dream of a fairytale ever after and that is what's hard for you to let go. Deep down I think you knew this was just a plain ole frog you were kissing. Just think if you had married him. Maybe had kids. Then found all this out. That means you would be stuck dealing with this jerk for decades. But you're not stuck. You're free. Free like Cealie from Curly Purple when she ditched Mista's sorry butt.

He was my first everything. But you're all right. It wasn't going to last and I chose not to see it.

Sorry I meant Color Purple. Lol. I have curly on the brain.

gagirl09 · 01-17-2013, 05:39 PM

This made me laugh:
@itsBlackStewie: Obama Killed Bin Laden, Got Most Of Our Troops Back Home, Gave Us Better Health-Care... What Else Y'all Hoes Want Him To Do! FREE BOOSIE?

murrrcat · 01-17-2013, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

I'm really sorry Soleil.

If you feel like listening to sad songs (I know you do), listen to Gabrielle's "Out of Reach". It's just your story. I love her music. It was on the Bridget Jone's Diary 2 soundtrack. It's a sad story, but it's a strong story because in the end she says that even if he never loved her, she knows that there is more for her out there. And there is for you.

(((SOLEIL)))

Justin timberlake what goes around comes back around.....and all of justin timberlake cause his angellic voice will ahve you lifted.

ummm so my professor from last semester was supposed to have my grade changed and she has yet to change it, she said she was going to change it and I should see the grade next week (this week), this week is almost over and I ain't have no grade change. I want my A, you heffa. Quit playing around.
She playing bald headed games y'all. I'M ABOUT TO LOSE IT.

coilynapp · 01-17-2013, 07:16 PM

^^I love JT!!!

juanab · 01-17-2013, 07:23 PM

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^^I love JT!!!

Yesssss!!

murrrcat · 01-17-2013, 07:34 PM

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^^I love JT!!!

omg!!! and jaunab, have you heard his new song??

He released it this week!!

Which means he's back, which means I need to save up monies to prepare for his album release which will spark his tour, which I have to go to(this could take years, no pressure JT, take your time baby, I've just been waiting ummm 5 years). I CAN ONLY WATCH HIS FSLS TOUR DVD SO MUCH.

coilynapp · 01-17-2013, 07:36 PM

Do I smell a road trip to a concert? Yes, I do. Yes, I do!!!!!

*screams like a tween* <---REALLY, FOR REAL

juanab · 01-17-2013, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

^^I love JT!!!

omg!!! and jaunab, have you heard his new song??

He released it this week!!

Which means he's back, which means I need to save up monies to prepare for his album release which will spark his tour, which I have to go to(this could take years, no pressure JT, take your time baby, I've just been waiting ummm 5 years). I CAN ONLY WATCH HIS FSLS TOUR DVD SO MUCH.

No, I haven't heard it yet. I have to check it out. I have seen both his concerts. Awesome!

coilynapp · 01-17-2013, 07:46 PM

JT should have gotten this guy Suit & Tie - Justin Timberlake Ft. Jay-Z (COVER) by @YoungMarkk - YouTube
instead of J-Z for the rap

murrrcat · 01-17-2013, 07:47 PM

I wanted to go HE HAD A CONCERT ON MY BIRTHDAY, but it was 300 dollars for a decent ticket and my mom is a hater.

juanab · 01-17-2013, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

JT should have gotten this guy Suit & Tie - Justin Timberlake Ft. Jay-Z (COVER) by @YoungMarkk - YouTube
instead of J-Z for the rap

Coily, I like him!

CocoT · 01-17-2013, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by coilynapp

JT should have gotten this guy Suit & Tie - Justin Timberlake Ft. Jay-Z (COVER) by @YoungMarkk - YouTube
instead of J-Z for the rap

Instant cool points for locs, freckles and the shades. The flow was the cherry on top.

B-Nessa11 · 01-17-2013, 08:25 PM

Alrighty. Yep it's official me and the hubs are separated. We ended up kinda randomly talking about it today. While I had a clear mind. And we both think it will be good for us. I know for me I can learn to be dependent on myself completely and he will be able to not worry about taking care of me lol. Cuz he is a worrier sometimes. And we can both focus on our career goals. He's about to take over his dad's business and I'm going into healthcare. So yep. That's that. Now my only decision left is if we are guna continue to have sex until we aren't co habitating. He's gone for work and is only here like once a month so it won't be much of a change....
As of right now though I'm guna say no. I'm paranoid about stds and even though I know there's no way he couldve had sex with anyone recently but me since he's always on the road, my body is starting to reject sex lol....

How can I say goodbye P.L.G.

juanab · 01-17-2013, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by B-Nessa11

Alrighty. Yep it's official me and the hubs are separated. We ended up kinda randomly talking about it today. While I had a clear mind. And we both think it will be good for us. I know for me I can learn to be dependent on myself completely and he will be able to not worry about taking care of me lol. Cuz he is a worrier sometimes. And we can both focus on our career goals. He's about to take over his dad's business and I'm going into healthcare. So yep. That's that. Now my only decision left is if we are guna continue to have sex until we aren't co habitating. He's gone for work and is only here like once a month so it won't be much of a change....
As of right now though I'm guna say no. I'm paranoid about stds and even though I know there's no way he couldve had sex with anyone recently but me since he's always on the road, my body is starting to reject sex lol....

How can I say goodbye P.L.G.

B-Nessa, I am sorry to hear this. But it is good that you both have come to an amicable agreement.