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I'm PISSED. I thought I was all caught up on The Walking Dead and then I see that AMC only had the 1st 5 episodes of season 3. The fudgesticks!?! Now I have to wait and see when AMC on Demand will decide to realease the last three episodes.
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I don't think I have really retained any length at all for the year 2012. I swear when the year started I was just ducking my head down and surviving.

On another note sounding whiny and pathetic. Why haven't I made any friends yet??? THis is so abnormal for me. None of my coworkers are really interested in hanging out with me and I am not one to invite myself into a situation. My neighbors are well not neigborly. I finally spoke to someone in another building and I didn't go ahead and take the plunge and fully introduce myself because I was more concerned about buying a shovel at the moment. I am so fustrated right now.
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My ex called me this morning. I didn't answer, he didn't leave a message. He was probably bored on his way to work and or checking up on me to see that I hadn't offed myself or left France like I was debating.

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My ex called me this morning. I didn't answer, he didn't leave a message. He was probably bored on his way to work and or checking up on me to see that I hadn't offed myself or left France like I was debating.

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Don't respond. He will do that mess. You are quiet and now he is checking up on you instead of the other way around. Such is the way with men who don't know what they want , now that you are not speaking to him he is slowly but surely realizing that you are gone and that will make you seem more attractive. It is just more proof that you are better off w/ someone who will know what you are worth when you are with them, not when you are in the process of moving on. He did not leave a message because he was probing you, testing you out. Now he wants to see if you will call back even if out of curiosity. Don't let him play these games with you. He can't play them with you if you choose not to join in.

When you have had time to heal you will find someone who deserves you. I know it. It happened to me.
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My ex called me this morning. I didn't answer, he didn't leave a message. He was probably bored on his way to work and or checking up on me to see that I hadn't offed myself or left France like I was debating.

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Don't respond. He will do that mess. You are quiet and now he is checking up on you instead of the other way around. Such is the way with men who don't know what they want , now that you are not speaking to him he is slowly but surely realizing that you are gone and that will make you seem more attractive. It is just more proof that you are better off w/ someone who will know what you are worth when you are with them, not when you are in the process of moving on. He did not leave a message because he was probing you, testing you out. Now he wants to see if you will call back even if out of curiosity. Don't let him play these games with you. He can't play them with you if you choose not to join in.

When you have had time to heal you will find someone who deserves you. I know it. It happened to me.
Originally Posted by ricotdorothy
It hurt me that he did cause it just opened old wounds. The last time we spoke he straight up told me that we didnt have anything to talk about, I shouldn't care what he does or that he chose his side chick over me and missed her more than me cause I should be moving on and it was none of my business. He was sleeping with someone else for years while I was celibate and faithful while telling me it was fine we weren't intimate.

He doesn't care about what happens to me. And I'm bothered that he's playing these games. I won't be calling, but now I'm hurting again having to think on these things.

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I'm filling out a questionnaire for a position and they asked me my salary history. I'm a recent graduate and all of my jobs have been slightly above minimum wage or nothing. What should I say?
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I'm filling out a questionnaire for a position and they asked me my salary history. I'm a recent graduate and all of my jobs have been slightly above minimum wage or nothing. What should I say?
Originally Posted by CocoT
I would say be honest ( I have) because they would know that you are a recent grad with no "real job" salaries in the past. I think its for overqualified applicates who are are used to making more than what the position pays.


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Need help!!

I'm filling out a questionnaire for a position and they asked me my salary history. I'm a recent graduate and all of my jobs have been slightly above minimum wage or nothing. What should I say?
Originally Posted by CocoT
I would say be honest ( I have) because they would know that you are a recent grad with no "real job" salaries in the past. I think its for overqualified applicates who are are used to making more than what the position pays.


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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Ok I was honest. I told them what I've made and that now that I'm a graduate seeking more independence, I believe that I'm worth more and I'm willing to negotiate with them. I said it a little smoother than that.lol

But I looked up the salary range for the job I applied for and it is way way more than I anticipated.
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Need help!!

I'm filling out a questionnaire for a position and they asked me my salary history. I'm a recent graduate and all of my jobs have been slightly above minimum wage or nothing. What should I say?
Originally Posted by CocoT
I would say be honest ( I have) because they would know that you are a recent grad with no "real job" salaries in the past. I think its for overqualified applicates who are are used to making more than what the position pays.


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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Ok I was honest. I told them what I've made and that now that I'm a graduate seeking more independence, I believe that I'm worth more and I'm willing to negotiate with them. I said it a little smoother than that.lol

But I looked up the salary range for the job I applied for and it is way way more than I anticipated.
Originally Posted by CocoT
I usually SLIGHTLY overstate my income. I don't feel bad about it because really I think it's none of anyone's business if I'm not asking for a handout. They should be willing to pay me what I deserve according to the job requirements and my skills regardless of what I was making before. I figure if I tell them I make a little more then they'll be willing to at least pay me that versus thinking they can work me like a dog for slave wages. It's not like they can go into your financial records or your previous employer is going to tell them. Loan papers, credit card applications, rental agreements ect. I never put my real salary or my real expenses and I've never been turned down for anything.
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He called again, I didn't answer, but this time he left a voicemail. Said he's worried about me because it's been a week since he's heard from me and he knows I'm not doing okay. He was worried about me all day and he wants to know that I'm okay. He wants to know if I still need money and I need to contact him so he can send it to me. If there is anything he can do for me he'd "love" to do it. I deleted the voicemail.

He hurt me. Badly, as everyone who has seen my posts know. And yet he acts like it's nothing and he didn't do anything. Like he doesn't know what I could possibly be going through, like he didn't just leave me and decide to kick me out of his life because he chose to keep the other woman he was cheating on me with around instead of me when I gave him a choice.

But I do need money desperately and he knows I put myself in a financial hole to see him because when we were still together he promised to pay for half of my expenses when I got back. And I need to pay for my mandatory french classes that I need to stay in the country, and a mandatory exam for university, but I DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO HIM BY ANY MEANS. I am not a horrible person, but I could send him a paypal invoice in the amount I need and call it a day. But even that is too much for me as I don't want any contact with him. Should I just do that and hope that he sends the money, or bit the bullet and call or email?
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My ex called me this morning. I didn't answer, he didn't leave a message. He was probably bored on his way to work and or checking up on me to see that I hadn't offed myself or left France like I was debating.

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Don't respond. He will do that mess. You are quiet and now he is checking up on you instead of the other way around. Such is the way with men who don't know what they want , now that you are not speaking to him he is slowly but surely realizing that you are gone and that will make you seem more attractive. It is just more proof that you are better off w/ someone who will know what you are worth when you are with them, not when you are in the process of moving on. He did not leave a message because he was probing you, testing you out. Now he wants to see if you will call back even if out of curiosity. Don't let him play these games with you. He can't play them with you if you choose not to join in.

When you have had time to heal you will find someone who deserves you. I know it. It happened to me.
Originally Posted by ricotdorothy
It hurt me that he did cause it just opened old wounds. The last time we spoke he straight up told me that we didnt have anything to talk about, I shouldn't care what he does or that he chose his side chick over me and missed her more than me cause I should be moving on and it was none of my business. He was sleeping with someone else for years while I was celibate and faithful while telling me it was fine we weren't intimate.

He doesn't care about what happens to me. And I'm bothered that he's playing these games. I won't be calling, but now I'm hurting again having to think on these things.

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Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Unfortunately the games may not stop any time soon. I broke up with a guy a year ago for playing games with my emotions. the whole "I want to be with you but I don't" syndrome. I have told him many times not to contact me but he still calls and texts. He uses Merry Christmas, Happy birthday, Happy Mardi Gras or random innocent questions so I feel like the bad guy if I tell him to f off. Anyway yesterday he sent "Miss you" and how it sucks to be away from me. I told him not to say that to me. And he asked me if it bothers me because I still have feelings for him. He said just because he said he misses me doesn't mean he wants me back. Games. It's like he knows I still love him and uses it to hurt me by rubbing salt in the wound. I could never be that cruel. If I didn't want to be with someone I would leave them alone. I can't make him stop contacting me but I decided to send him a text today putting him on notice I will not be responding anymore.
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If he is keeping up his end of the agreement, for once, and I really needed the money I would send a PayPal invoice with a note like "thanks for keeping this commitment," or something. Get your money and then blow him off. You'll have your pride and sanity intact and not be financially broken.
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Last edited by curlyarca; 01-21-2013 at 02:14 PM.
I can't imagine what you're going through but shoo I would email him n be like yup I need money. And how much. No convo foreal. Just, you put me n bind so yep I need some dough. Add extra for pain and suffering.
But that would be me being a spiteful Biotch. Use him for a minute lol

How can I say goodbye P.L.G.
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He called again, I didn't answer, but this time he left a voicemail. Said he's worried about me because it's been a week since he's heard from me and he knows I'm not doing okay. He was worried about me all day and he wants to know that I'm okay. He wants to know if I still need money and I need to contact him so he can send it to me. If there is anything he can do for me he'd "love" to do it. I deleted the voicemail.

He hurt me. Badly, as everyone who has seen my posts know. And yet he acts like it's nothing and he didn't do anything. Like he doesn't know what I could possibly be going through, like he didn't just leave me and decide to kick me out of his life because he chose to keep the other woman he was cheating on me with around instead of me when I gave him a choice.

But I do need money desperately and he knows I put myself in a financial hole to see him because when we were still together he promised to pay for half of my expenses when I got back. And I need to pay for my mandatory french classes that I need to stay in the country, and a mandatory exam for university, but I DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO HIM BY ANY MEANS. I am not a horrible person, but I could send him a paypal invoice in the amount I need and call it a day. But even that is too much for me as I don't want any contact with him. Should I just do that and hope that he sends the money, or bit the bullet and call or email?
Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
He doesn't care about your financial situation. He cares about pulling your strings and maintaining his hold on you. He's dangling the money like a carrot. If this was out of the "goodness of his heart" and he knows you need money and he knows he agreed to pay it then there is nothing stopping him from putting a check in the freaking mail. As someone who is dealing with this same kind of man, I'm telling you he will find one excuse after another to manipulate his way back in your life and make it harder for you to move on. My ex even wants to know how my mama is doing. You'll still be dealing with his crap a year later because like me you don't want to be a "horrible person". I say if you can afford it blow him off, if you can't send the paypal.
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^^^^

Thanks to all you guys. I sent the paypal invoice, no personal message. I'm done talking. I asked for twice what I needed just in case and I won't call or email about it because it is what he promised me as ayedee said. I'm emotionally drained for the day and it's after 10pm in France. I'm going to try to sleep.
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Last edited by soleilmoncur; 01-21-2013 at 02:22 PM.
^^^^

Thanks to all you guys. I sent the paypal invoice, no personal message. I'm done talking. I asked for twice what I needed just in case and I won't call or email about it because it is what he promised me as ayedee said. I'm emotionally drained for the day and it's after 10pm in France. I'm going to try to sleep.
Originally Posted by soleilmoncur
Like B said that's money for pain and suffering.
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Um so remember when my car was vandalized coincidentally after I told someone to stop contacting me?

Said person just emailed me omg.
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Sounds like a stalker.

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Soleil, you're good because I would have got my money before I got back from my trip. Youre conjuring up stank memories from a trifling ex. Punk axx. This is a time when manipulating back is in order. I would not let this ahole put me on the streets! What a dbag.

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