White Adoptive Mom's Hair Rant

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I'm in the "don't give unsolicited advice unless you know someone like that camp". And even then, proceed with caution.

I don't do it. I usually ask someone about their hair if I want to get my done similarly, so compliments usually follow.



I'm honestly more concerned that they're raising her to be a conservative Republican. You can call it the party of Lincoln and Reagan all you want, but please do mention all the dirt the party has done to people of color like her between Lincoln and Reagan and beyond. Walking on the street, I wouldn't know this, so yeah, there would be nothing for me to say. Now that I know this, I feel for that little girl. She's going to be steeped in a pretty intolerant ideology.

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Okay, I'm going on her blogpost and read and read. Go on the links featured and read some more.
All I can say is that there is a lot of underhanded racism coming from HER.
No doubt that it's frustrating to get unsolicited advice from strangers but I don't have any sympathy with this particular woman who not only displays a narrow, stereotypical view of Africa but also the so-called "white savior syndrome".
She talks about her daughter like a puppy she saved from the animal shelter. smdh
There are a lot of racial hang-ups from both sides here of course. And the controversies surrounding natural hair in the Black community are not new or a secret. But to pretend that the mostly white corporate world and entertainment industry don't have the same negative attitude on natural hair is ludicrous. It affects the whole of society. It's not just something "those silly black people" have a hang-up about.
curlyarca and Jo Somebody like this.
I re-read the blog just now. While I still believe neither side is innocent, something that lady said stands out for me (hadn't paid it much attention the first time). She said:

"White women like this hairstyle [natural, un-manipulated African hair] very much. But when black women see Naomi in public with an afro, they really disapprove."

This woman has lost her bearings here in at least two ways:

1. It is incorrect to assert that white women (even as a general rule) like afros. If that were true, white culture would reflect drastically different images in the media; workplace dress code policies would reflect less curl-hatred; more curly-haired white women - including on this website - would be less fearful of their hair looking "poofy", "frizzy" or any other euphemism used for hair believed to resemble African hair (Some apparently non-black ppl here have even panicked about their hair "looking afro-like" ). Moreover, I wouldn't - as someone biracial w/racially ambiguous features - still hear sketchy comments from some white women about black womens' hair on a regular basis, regardless of where in the US I live or travel. Certain white women try and hide their racism these days to appear PC.

2. If someone white is going to make a blanket statement about black women and their issues with black hair, then some intellectual honesty is called for: This blogger should also admit that negative black hair attitudes likely originated and are perpetuated by ongoing, institutionalized oppressive attitudes coming from a chiefly Caucasian power source. ... Instead the blogger chose to ONLY gripe about black women for the same be$hitted, racist thinking those women inadvertently inherited from her distant white relatives (and some other whites who are still alive).
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I'm in the "don't give unsolicited advice unless you know someone like that camp". And even then, proceed with caution.

I don't do it. I usually ask someone about their hair if I want to get my done similarly, so compliments usually follow.



I'm honestly more concerned that they're raising her to be a conservative Republican. You can call it the party of Lincoln and Reagan all you want, but please do mention all the dirt the party has done to people of color like her between Lincoln and Reagan and beyond. Walking on the street, I wouldn't know this, so yeah, there would be nothing for me to say. Now that I know this, I feel for that little girl. She's going to be steeped in a pretty intolerant ideology.
Originally Posted by curlyarca
I hope that Colin Powell's recent comments on the GoP will help change the direction of the party & shape little Naomi's republican experience for the better.

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I hope that Colin Powell's recent comments on the GoP will help change the direction of the party & shape little Naomi's republican experience for the better.

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Originally Posted by ss40
As someone who leans Republican on certain issues, I agree with you that the GOP has been problematic where race issues are concerned. I hope you're right about the GOP changing some things about its party, but as level-headed, brilliant and sane as Mr. Powell is, the GOP considers him a RINO and I doubt much is going to change that.
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