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gymluv 03-22-2013 05:49 PM

Help with going natural.
 
Hi:) Well, as I've posted before, I'm a thirteen year old girl who wants to go natural. At first I wanted to transition, but decided to just big chop after I got out of school in May. That would give me about 3 1/2 months of new growth, but my mom just made my get a relaxer before we came to Chicago. On the thirteen our ride, I just kept my hair wrapped from when I got it done. Well I started to unwrap my hair. On the side where my left temple is my hair was stuck due to the scab from the relaxer. I did get it unstuck, but my scalp is all red in that area. I hope there isn't any permanent damage. I told my mom, " I would rather cut all of my hair off before I ever get a relaxer again. She said, "ok" but I don't think it was genuine. When she saw the red scalp she said " Are you about to die. Mine has been like that too." It just baffles me that my mom exposes her scalp to that stuff and won't allow me to stop doing the same. Could someone give my some tips to try to prove to my mom the harmful effects of relaxer. Also, maybe give me some tips to convince my mom to let me big chop, but I think my scalp should be enough convincing . If I big chop, how long should I transition to get an appropriate amount of new growth? I was thinking about 3 months. What are some good products and hairstyles for a 13 year old? Just comment about anything you think is important information. Thanks.

myhairDOTcom 03-22-2013 10:46 PM

Sweetie, 3-1/2 months is very little new growth ( about 1-1/2 inches). Your mom may not go for that. You may get more support in transitioning. Have you researched that option? If you can prove that you can take care of your hair while doing that, your mom may let you cut it after you gain some length.

Good luck and congrats on your decision to embrace your natural hair. Natural hair is soooooo versatile. Maybe If you can show your mom what some of the ladies on YouTube who have similar hair to yours are doing with their hair, it will help some.

cora 03-23-2013 02:21 PM

Show her Chris Rock's Good Hair. If she doesn't want to watch the whole movie, fast forward to the part where the scientist puts the pop can into some relaxer. I'd like to think this will convince her to let you go natural.

gymluv 03-23-2013 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by myhairDOTcom (Post 2142515)
Sweetie, 3-1/2 months is very little new growth ( about 1-1/2 inches). Your mom may not go for that. You may get more support in transitioning. Have you researched that option? If you can prove that you can take care of your hair while doing that, your mom may let you cut it after you gain some length.

Good luck and congrats on your decision to embrace your natural hair. Natural hair is soooooo versatile. Maybe If you can show your mom what some of the ladies on YouTube who have similar hair to yours are doing with their hair, it will help some.

I have researched transitioning. That's what I wanted to do at first a long time ago(I've been wanting to go natural for a long time). However, I don't think that long-term transitioning it for me. If I transitioned to the end of May, would that be enough new growth? That would be 133 days (approximately 4 months 13 days)

Mane.attraction 03-24-2013 08:35 AM

I second the Chris Rock Video! As far as transitioning for 4 months and then chopping, I say go for it but realize that your hair will be about and inch long (if that) when it's in a dry state. I waited 5 months and chopped mine off...and I was in shock and had very little styling options...so accessories are key!

I see that you're not a fan of long-term transitioning...but if you're not comfortable with your hair being super short, you might want to consider braids or kinky twists to grow it out a bit before chopping. Just be sure to care for your edges while in those types of styles. I hope that helps! :)

Glamourstruckk 03-24-2013 11:23 AM

Unless your hair grows super fast or super slow, you will gain 1/2" each month. In 4 months that will be 2" w/o shrinkage. Shrinkage could take you down to 1". Just decide how long you want your natural hair to be, then calculate the months from there.

adthomas 03-31-2013 10:50 PM

I so feel your pain. I remember how when I was little the smell of the chemicals would make me so nauseated I would throw up. My mom would actually keep a bowl nearby while she did my hair so I could lean over and puke then she'd keep right on doing my hair saying "you have to suffer to be beautiful."

And I have also had my hair stuck to my scalp many times after a wrapping my hair after a fresh relaxer. Oh, the pain of having it pull it away from my scalp. I told the beautifician and her advice was to put Neosporin on it. I'm so glad I've been set free.

I bc'ed after four months. I'm not the long transition type either. But as insurance you could make sure you grow it long enough to get braids if you choose. There was a Dr. Oz show I remember seeing showing what relaxers do your hair that was compelling. There are some YT videos as well. But honestly, if your mom doesn't have an open mind there isn't much you can do.


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