I got my hair styled and I need some advice

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Hello to anyone who has come across this new thread. I am in a serious dilemma and I couldn't find much articles which could help me out ... or really give me the answers I am looking for.

Anyway, I'm 19 years old and live in the commonwealth of Dominica. My natural hair journey has lasted two years (I only permed my hair twice when I was ten so it only really started in 2012) and for 20 months of those two years, I was transitioning. My college graduation is soon (like this October) and gah, I took off my braids so I decided that I should tuck up my hair until October, it would make no sense to put it back the braids for a mere 3 weeks.

So I got someone to do my hair in an updo and, I am really not a person to complain (that is one personality fault of mine), and through the whole thing she pulled a small toothed comb through my hair and twisted my edges tightly and I could feel her doing damage and recommended she switched to a wide toothed comb, which she did eventually. I understand my hair is multi-textured (3c at the crown and at my kitchen, 4a in the front, middle and back, 4c on the sides and some at the middle), medium-length and extremely thick to the point my curl pattern is really hard to detangle once the strands coil around themselves ... but it felt like the girl was harvesting crops despite the fact I detangled adequately already ... she felt the need to detangle again.

After she was done, the hair style was good, but I almost cried when I saw she removed a palm sized amount of hair. Also, I had tons of tiny pieces of broken ends all over my shirt. I suffer from hyperthyroidism and one of the signs is hair thinning (the area behind my ears and my hair line was completely devoid of hair at one point and my kitchen was barely a handful of hairs) ... after years of treatment, my hair just recently started to look like it was rehabilitated and was thick and coily as I wanted it and I am just devastated that, after putting so much effort into it, one styling session just put me back to square one - maybe I'm just being paranoid but I'm terrified to take down my hair and see it in the same embarrassing state it was in before I got any treatment for my disorder (since I am off my pills currently ...).

Now I just want to take out the hair style (completely unbraid everything) and assess my hair but I don't want to because the style is just what I needed to keep my Hand in hair syndrome at bay.

(Sorry ... I really needed rant a little before I got to my point ... I'm so frustrated right now)

So how bad do you ladies and gentlemen think my hair is damaged? She told me not to worry because my hair is natural so the hair ball would look big because the strands coil around each other.

But I am a bit dubious ... so any tips on how I can repair my hair even when it's in the updo (I do plan on taking out the bobby pins)? Any way I can work around the style and fix the damage simultaneously? Should I trim it when I take it down even if I just trimmed it recently (like a little over a month ago ... about 6 weeks)? Am I just being paranoid over nothing? I plan on blowing out my hair for graduation ... should I just abandon the idea because of this situation?

I'm sorry if it sounds I am freaking out (I am ... internally) but I would really appreciate the responses! Thank you so very much for taking time out to read this and responding. You have no idea how much I appreciate and trust this site for good hair care advice!

Last edited by Nappy246; 09-28-2014 at 07:37 PM.
You can't know if your hair is damaged unless you look at it and it sounds like the longer you wait you'll drive youself crazy wondering. It is not unusual to have a lot of shed hair after detangling if your hair was in braids a long time because braids do not allow for shed hairs to fall out. The broken hairs however are different I think the next time you go to the salon you should have a consultation beforehand about the kind of care you want given to your hair so you won't feel uncomfotable speaking up later.
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It's your decision whether to take it down or not. Like AdT said if it's gonna drive you crazy take it out. However if it's damaged it will remain damaged even after you take it out. So if you don't want to take it out, all you can really do is moisturize it and leave it at that and when you take it out moisturize and baby your hair and avoid styles that use a lot of tension. Next time you go to any stylist, make sure you speak with them about how they care for their hair. I generally let a person tell me without saying anything how they will wash and comb my hair to see what their answers are naturally. If they seem hard headed or change the game up when you get in the chair, you have to be brave (even I struggle with this) and get your behind out of that chair or say something to them. You don't really have a choice if you want to keep your hair. Sorry this happened. Many of us have been there.
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Hello to anyone who has come across this new thread. I am in a serious dilemma and I couldn't find much articles which could help me out ... or really give me the answers I am looking for.

Anyway, I'm 19 years old and live in the commonwealth of Dominica. My natural hair journey has lasted two years (I only permed my hair twice when I was ten so it only really started in 2012) and for 20 months of those two years, I was transitioning. My college graduation is soon (like this October) and gah, I took off my braids so I decided that I should tuck up my hair until October, it would make no sense to put it back the braids for a mere 3 weeks.

So I got someone to do my hair in an updo and, I am really not a person to complain (that is one personality fault of mine), and through the whole thing she pulled a small toothed comb through my hair and twisted my edges tightly and I could feel her doing damage and recommended she switched to a wide toothed comb, which she did eventually. I understand my hair is multi-textured (3c at the crown and at my kitchen, 4a in the front, middle and back, 4c on the sides and some at the middle), medium-length and extremely thick to the point my curl pattern is really hard to detangle once the strands coil around themselves ... but it felt like the girl was harvesting crops despite the fact I detangled adequately already ... she felt the need to detangle again.

After she was done, the hair style was good, but I almost cried when I saw she removed a palm sized amount of hair. Also, I had tons of tiny pieces of broken ends all over my shirt. I suffer from hyperthyroidism and one of the signs is hair thinning (the area behind my ears and my hair line was completely devoid of hair at one point and my kitchen was barely a handful of hairs) ... after years of treatment, my hair just recently started to look like it was rehabilitated and was thick and coily as I wanted it and I am just devastated that, after putting so much effort into it, one styling session just put me back to square one - maybe I'm just being paranoid but I'm terrified to take down my hair and see it in the same embarrassing state it was in before I got any treatment for my disorder (since I am off my pills currently ...).

Now I just want to take out the hair style (completely unbraid everything) and assess my hair but I don't want to because the style is just what I needed to keep my Hand in hair syndrome at bay.

(Sorry ... I really needed rant a little before I got to my point ... I'm so frustrated right now)

So how bad do you ladies and gentlemen think my hair is damaged? She told me not to worry because my hair is natural so the hair ball would look big because the strands coil around each other.

But I am a bit dubious ... so any tips on how I can repair my hair even when it's in the updo (I do plan on taking out the bobby pins)? Any way I can work around the style and fix the damage simultaneously? Should I trim it when I take it down even if I just trimmed it recently (like a little over a month ago ... about 6 weeks)? Am I just being paranoid over nothing? I plan on blowing out my hair for graduation ... should I just abandon the idea because of this situation?

I'm sorry if it sounds I am freaking out (I am ... internally) but I would really appreciate the responses! Thank you so very much for taking time out to read this and responding. You have no idea how much I appreciate and trust this site for good hair care advice!
Originally Posted by Nappy246
If you are that fearful of damage take it down! and have another person do it for you but tell them in advance that you don't want it tightly braided and to use a wide tooth comb. Another thing you can do, is comb(blow out your hair BEFORE GOING to the stylist(that is what my mom did to me when i was little and had braids, i do my own braids now so i don't have to worry for this anymore) so all the stylist has to do is do your braids without combing period(or barely just to part the hair).

But if you feel that the braids are too tight, you can loosen them with steam (or simply hot water from the shower while wearing a shower cap) then after the steam for about 15min add oil to the hair. That might ease it. I never had a problem with braids. So I hope this may help. But you can ALWAYS have them done AGAIN by someone else. So if you REALLY think it's messed up, take it down completely (for at least a weak to give your hair a break), and then wash,deep condition, castor oil for leave in and then use your heat protectant to blow out your hair JUST enough so that the comb can easily get through. Using a blow dryer with comb attachment(using small sections that are already detangled with your hands) blow dry your hair on low-medium. If you don't have comb attachment you can always comb each section yourself then blow it out stretching your hair.
Heat is not always good, but when you are doing braids and you want it neat this is the best option, besides you can keep the braids for longer than a couple of days so it is worth it.

This never damaged my hair, and I have midback length 4c/4b hair. So this should work.

But like i said, you should take them down. Give it a 1 week rest, then have someone else do it(but make sure u prep your hair, before you go)
I would NEVER let a stylist touch my hair(when it comes to washing or drying or applying products) if they do apply product to help the style, i'd suggest you bring your own and ask them if they can use it since it works best with your hair.
The stylist I had as a child was a family friend, so she made sure to NEVER make my braids too tight and not pull hard, she'd even ask me if it hurt or not, and if it did she'd take it down and rebraid.

Last edited by MIA1487; 10-21-2014 at 05:45 PM.
I am typically paranoid of other people doing my hair because I have had a HORRID experience. This girl did my hair and used a boat load of gel with alcohol in it. I had hair the was in the middle of my back (permed) and I had to cut it to the base of my neck because of shed hair so I understand fear of damage. The longer you leave your hair in that up do, the more damage you will cause because those tight braids will break your hair. Take your hair down and do a style that won't bother your hair condition you have.

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