Well, relaxed hair doesn't always equal easier hair to take care of. I have the same basic problems with relaxed as transitioning: not knowing how to style it or what products to use to keep it healthy and stop shedding. I'm learning how to do both now (still confused about the shedding). The frustrations were the same with me, whether relaxed or transitioning.
When I think about going back to relaxing (I've been transitioning a year, so you know the thoughts come up) I just start to remember what it was like when my hair was relaxed. Was it really easier to take care of? Not always. Did I really know how to style it then? No, I'm learning more now. Do I like how my hair looks now, even with two textures fighting for rights to my head, over how my relaxed hair looks? Most of the time. Can I afford to pay for a relaxer? Probably not, but I do spend a lot on hair products, so maybe it evens out
Anyway, I figure, if my hair is going to be frustrating at times, it's going to at least be my hair. Healthy, fluffy, curly, kinky...gotta love it! It's about finding the right products, the right routine, changing up with the seasons (styles, routine, products, etc) and REALLY listening to my hair.
Maybe I've preached more to myself than to you, but I hoped it helped