Returning to the "R"

I hate to admit this, but I do sometimes think about going back to a relaxer. Not that I really liked it, but sometimes I get so frustrated with my hair because I cannot control it, I have these "dirty" thoughts....
Maybe you're getting frustrated, because you are trying to make your hair do something it doesn't want to do? I don't know if you are just ranting or you want suggestions. If you are just ranting, then disregard. If you want suggestions, what are you doing to your hair.
We all have those thoughts. They are natural. Whether you decide to relax or not, the decision is yours. When it comes down to it, we all want to look the best that we can and find a simple routine to get us there.

Sometime we need a change. We want to look different, try different style, colors etc. Never let anyone or any group make you feel that changing the texture of your hair is wrong. Embrace your inner voice and do what is best for you.
NNothing will ever make me ever go back to a relaxer,i like my natural hair the way it is now all i have to do is find a good moisture leave in for my hair.
I tried greg juice and it didn't give me the moisture my hair wanted,now i have to look further for another product .


any suggestions ?you can share them with me.
Nothing will ever make me go back to a relaxer,i like my natural hair the way it is now all i have to do is find a good moisture leave in for my hair.
I tried greg juice and it didn't give me the moisture my hair wanted,now i have to look further for another product .


any suggestions ?you can share them with me.
Don't feel bad. I'm sure at one time or another a number of us felt the same way you do.
"It moisturizes my situation... preserves my sexy."
Lately, I being feeling the same way, I think that I'm still trying to find out what products work best for my hair. I think that I may have some scab hair or something because each time I get my hair trimmed I notice in some places that part of it is different. Part of my hair curl and a very defined look to it and the other part has frizzy, wiry ends that seem to do their own thing, this is after getting it trimmed. I think that is adding to how I feel. I can use a product one day and my hair looks great but the next day it will look the opposite. I know that you have to kiss a lot of "frogs" before you find your "prince" but I did't think that it would take so long.
Travelgirl, I know what you mean....

My hair is the same way. It's wiry in the crown and has great definition in the back and on the sides. I guess the other thing that makes me jealous is that those with straight hair have what appears to be longer hair. My hair is so kinky until it strinks to half the length. I put my hair in twists and people think I had cut my hair it shrank so much.

I also have the same problem...the product that works today may not work tomorrow.
If you wanna return to the R, you have my full support. IT's only hair after all and there's no point in your being unhappy. If I wasn't 100% happy wiht my natural hair I'd relax the sh*t out of it in a minute or maybe even throw in a Destiny's Child-style weave. Hey, why not? Life's too short
Supernappy, superbad, "when are you gonna put a relaxer up in that mess?"shrinking breaking TYPE 5 hair that - against all the odds - is growing quite long
I do say do what you want. On the other hand, I realized (for me) that it took a while to grow my hair natural. I really didn't think about what I wanted because I saw others who were relaxed with long hair. I use to look at them and thought it would be so m uch easier but then again look how far I have come.

So what I did was just decide to aim for healthy hair rather than long and curl defined hair. Sure I would like that but it will take time. Yes others may have that instantly but maybe not you. I know I did not. Some days my hair is well defined and others days it's just one big poof. I just go along with it and make it look cute :P Yes there is a trial and error process but it is well worth it. At times the simplest things will work wonders. Key is to get products with good ingredients for cheap also.

Just remember to moisturize, trim, clarify, a little goes a long way. Well I hope that everything works out.
I said I should perm the other day. I have no idea what to do with all this hair. But I dismissed the thought qickly. Today is my one year aniversary of my last perm (just realized this) and I still have at least another year to go until I feel comfortable with my length once again. I look forward to the adventure.
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I was thinking the same thing about maybe a weave or braids. Just to make sure that you do want to take the path of a relaxer, it is only hair, but as we all know once its relaxed there is no going back without a transition or bc. Maybe try a texturizer before going all the way
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My friends Mother brought the relaxer topic up just the other day!
She told me how blessed I am to have naturally curly hair.
She says that she spends so many hours and so much money on hair care. She brought it to my attention that she has to have her hair done weekly. She spends her Saturday mornings in the salon.
She usually arrives around 8 am and does not leave until 10-11, and on the color/ relaxer days she leaves even later.
Sometimes she gets a rollerset/style on Sat. and by Tues. its gone!
A relaxer is $65, a style is $30, and color is $40!
After talking with her, I do feel blessed
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There's nothing wrong with thinking that way..we all haev our moments Im sure at one point or another. For me whan I have that thought I think of my hair when it was permed compared to now. Im sure with the knowledge I have now that I could have healthy permed hair but since I know my texture I also know that its weak when relaxed and limp....Now that I rambled about me my point is do whats best for you and what will make you happy. Thats all that matters in the end
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There's nothing wrong with thinking that way..we all haev our moments Im sure at one point or another. For me whan I have that thought I think of my hair when it was permed compared to now. Im sure with the knowledge I have now that I could have healthy permed hair but since I know my texture I also know that its weak when relaxed and limp....Now that I rambled about me my point is do whats best for you and what will make you happy. Thats all that matters in the end
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PW: lovely
Natural 4a/some 4b type hair, Thin, cottony coffee straw coils

Thought I found my HG (KKCC)..its good but Im sure there's better

Curls Milkshake current leave in, Fantasia IC w/Olive Oil gel for smoothing/shine, Curls Goddess Glaze for Twist/Braid outs.
My friends Mother brought the relaxer topic up just the other day!
She told me how blessed I am to have naturally curly hair.
She says that she spends so many hours and so much money on hair care. She brought it to my attention that she has to have her hair done weekly. She spends her Saturday mornings in the salon.
Originally Posted by zsazsa
Um, don't all Type 4 people have naturally curly hair? Nobody NEEDS to use relaxer.... So I don't see your or her point. How are you any more or less blessed than any other Type 4 person?
Supernappy, superbad, "when are you gonna put a relaxer up in that mess?"shrinking breaking TYPE 5 hair that - against all the odds - is growing quite long
The point is not to say I'm anymore nor less than anyone else!

The point is not having to spend countless hours and money on salon services.
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First of all, I totally sympathize. As a matter of fact, I'm going to a convention and I'm costuming and I'm thinking..."Dang...my hair is gonna be so frustrating!" I was walking the mall thinking of this and discussing it with my significant other when someone ran up to me.

Two sistas with straight hair, one had shoulder length hair. The other a too cute bob. "Excuse me," said shoulder length chick. "What do you do to your hair because its awesome!" (Did I mention I was having a bad hair day?)

I kid you not. I replied. "I cut it off and started from scratch." My bf piped in. "She has cards if you want the website." (Because I am INFAMOUS for handing out Curl Ambassador cards)

It made my night. I decided that for the convention, I'll flat twist my hair and wear a wig or a fall for certain looks. Its my compromise. My hair has been repressed too long. Besides, plenty of "R" girls wear wigs/falls/weaves anyway ^_^
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Thanks ladies. Very interesting....

I guess its also hard when my parents always want to know when am I going to "do something with my hair." I sometimes fantasize about going back, but I am not sure I could do that. My hair is healthier since it has been natural and I am able to save money (no more touch ups every 6-8 weeks). I guess if I had learned how to style my hair and do something nice with it, I wouldn't think about relaxers.

I don't think I will go back. I think I'd rather have the short fro again than to go back to the relaxer....
I guess its also hard when my parents always want to know when am I going to "do something with my hair."
Originally Posted by girlgc
I know how that is, especially coming from your parents. Mine did the same thing, I know my dad said it more than my mom. Anyway, you just have to stay strong and find out about your hair. Don't fight it but love it. I ususally came up with something to say about my hair. I remember saying "If God wanted me to have straight hair, I would have ben born with it (or sometimes "I would have been born with a lifetime supply of relaxer)"

It will all be ok. Just let them know that this is how your hair will be and you like it that way.

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