And herein lies the problem: when you think that some types of hair are nicer than other types. The ethos of the other site is loving your hair exactly how it is and celebrating the fact that natural hair comes in many textures, none of them are better than others, and the curl definition is not the be-all and end all.
If I remember correctly the flaming begun on the other site after the "you too may have curls that need attention" remark.
Anyhoo curl definition is a sticky point over there and the reasons go further than just "hair". That site is more about type 4 hair and the surrounding culture and this site is about all kinds of curly hair.
Anyhoo, I like to lurk on both sites and pick the bits that suit me because at the end of the day it's my hair. If I were to blow bry my hair bone straight, you think I'd go there and talk about it? No, because it's against the rules!
Anyway, I'm still trying to work out what type I am and what the hell my hair will do, my twists are good for 3 days
and my this morning's twistout may not last till I leave the office
I'm pleased for lalapixie that she has success with the style, I haven't tried it yet, because frankly I don't know if I want to invest the time and effort if I'm not sure it'll even work in my hair. Maybe when I'm less stressd and the flat hunting is over
So to round up my ramble,
It's your hair do what you think it best for it but respect the rules on either site particularly the fact the chemicals and a curl defining are banned on NP (there I said it!) and freely discussed on NP. Just as there's a relaxer board here and none over there.