Natural Hair and Black Men

Ladies, have any of you had scenerios where black men would say things like "Hey sister" because of your natural hair? One of my girlfriends says this happens to her on a regular basis. This has happened to me a few times and it seems like the men go out of their way to greet me. This never happened when I used to relax my hair.
"It moisturizes my situation... preserves my sexy."
Wow, I'd have to agree. I think it has something to do with a matter of respect--Not that black men don't respect woman with relaxed hair, but it must be the kind of aura we give off as natural women. I just BC'd in sept. I still get the same amount of attention if not more, but it's just different attention --hard to explain...
Pizazz, ITA! I think it's also about respect and I think guys probably think we're on a different level. I love being natural! I've also noticed the catcalling has gone down. Before I would hear "Hey baby", "Hi shortee. Can I get your number" and the unforgettable "Pssssst! Pssssst!"
"It moisturizes my situation... preserves my sexy."
i agree i get a more respectful approach as a natural from black men and all men in general
yes Ive noticed this too...they take more notice of me now.... I feel a respect vibe too....dont know if its cause Im proud of who I am from the inside out and it shows...they admire me more than before...Im enjoying it. but hmmm I get that from everyone now as a matter of fact....some other people look shocked or curious and some I can tell they really dig the natural look on me.
Pizazz, ITA! I think it's also about respect and I think guys probably think we're on a different level. I love being natural! I've also noticed the catcalling has gone down. Before I would hear "Hey baby", "Hi shortee. Can I get your number" and the unforgettable "Pssssst! Pssssst!"
Originally Posted by msjoker
this is most definitely the change i've seen. guys no longer approach me like i'm some ditzy, easy hoochie-mama. i get approached by men in a more mature way.
Lady Libra
3c/4a???
i stick with the description "OS thready thick"

my curly fro now is at collarbone when straightened.... basically the length i had when i started transitioning! hooray for growth!!! =)
and the unforgettable "Pssssst! Pssssst!"
Originally Posted by msjoker
I forgot about this famous quote. OOOh the nappy hairs on the back of my neck are cringing now as I remember that! Ugh!

Not to sound too cheezy, but I still believe to this day that I have my husband because of going natural. He's a beautiful black 100% Puerto Rican I saw at the Salsa club, His family was hosting the weekly parties, and he was the DJ. He was the best salsa dancer I had ever seen. I was wearing LONG, LONG LONG full-head weaves, which had broke-off relaxed hair underneath. I finally got enough nerve to go over and speak to him as he was coming from the entrance back to to the DJ booth.
"Hi," said I.
He just walked right past me.
"Maybe there's a language barrier?" I thought. "Maybe he's trying to play it off b/c he's completly not interested? Geez, I was only saying hi to try to get a dance." (at the salsa clubs, a dance is just a dance, it's not an invitation to your bedroom).
I could tell he was younger, so I brushed it off and never thought about it again.
A few bad relationships and a year or so later, I was transitioning and was "formally" introduced to him by a mutual salsa friend. He seemed nice and kind of cute, but it was obvious he was "claimed" by the mutual friend who was trying hard.
By the next summer, I had completed the BC and was happy and nappy. I bumped into him at an outdoor Salsa performance. I could tell that he was on to me, but I was in denial. "He's just being the typical nice member of the salsa community," I thought. We danced our first dance.

Later he asked me out on our 1st date via email (via the salsa group emails) - b/c he didn't know if/when he'd ever see me again. The rest is history.

After the fact, he says that he's sure I never went to the club before, or else he would have noticed me. He says that the very first time he met me via the mutual friend, he was awestruck and wanted to know more about me (but he really didn't like the mutual friend so hesitated b/c it seemed like she and I were best friends - like the drama?). Now mind you I went to this club at least 2x/week, every week for a couple of years before we "officiallly" met.

Therefore I have come to the conclusion (with no scientific basis) that either all black men are at least intrigued by naturals,

OR!

That by going natural, I have become more self confident and black men are attracked to the radiating self esteem (but not conceit, which is what the mutual friend had. )

Sorry so long. I love you gurls! I've never had an outlet to talk about these issues of being a curlygurl before.
The attention is also different with me. I even had a black guy saying: "Black power" when I walked passed him with my afro.
mostly 4a, some 3c natural
Kdwhit, your story is so cute! I love going to salsa clubs even though I can't dance to the music

Kesse, that's interesting the guy said 'Black power'. Did he think you were militant? Some people think that when they see natural women.
"It moisturizes my situation... preserves my sexy."

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