I forgot about this famous quote. OOOh the nappy hairs on the back of my neck are cringing now as I remember that! Ugh!
Not to sound too cheezy, but I still believe to this day that I have my husband because of going natural. He's a beautiful black 100% Puerto Rican I saw at the Salsa club, His family was hosting the weekly parties, and he was the DJ. He was the best salsa dancer I had ever seen. I was wearing LONG, LONG LONG full-head weaves, which had broke-off relaxed hair underneath. I finally got enough nerve to go over and speak to him as he was coming from the entrance back to to the DJ booth.
"Hi," said I.
He just walked right past me.
"Maybe there's a language barrier?" I thought. "Maybe he's trying to play it off b/c he's completly not interested? Geez, I was only saying hi to try to get a dance." (at the salsa clubs, a dance is just a dance, it's not an invitation to your bedroom).
I could tell he was younger, so I brushed it off and never thought about it again.
A few bad relationships and a year or so later, I was transitioning and was "formally" introduced to him by a mutual salsa friend. He seemed nice and kind of cute, but it was obvious he was "claimed" by the mutual friend who was trying hard.
By the next summer, I had completed the BC and was happy and nappy. I bumped into him at an outdoor Salsa performance. I could tell that he was on to me, but I was in denial. "He's just being the typical nice member of the salsa community," I thought. We danced our first dance.
Later he asked me out on our 1st date via email (via the salsa group emails) - b/c he didn't know if/when he'd ever see me again. The rest is history.
After the fact, he says that he's sure I never went to the club before, or else he would have noticed me. He says that the very first time he met me via the mutual friend, he was awestruck and wanted to know more about me (but he really didn't like the mutual friend so hesitated b/c it seemed like she and I were best friends - like the drama?). Now mind you I went to this club at least 2x/week, every week for a couple of years before we "officiallly" met.
Therefore I have come to the conclusion (with no scientific basis) that either all black men are at least intrigued by naturals,
That by going natural, I have become more self confident and black men are attracked to the radiating self esteem (but not conceit, which is what the mutual friend had.
Sorry so long. I love you gurls! I've never had an outlet to talk about these issues of being a curlygurl before.