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I forgot i bought some blue algae powder. Going to make a deep conditioner on Saturday


blue algae , amla , shea butter, hempseed and coconut oil, aloe vera and a sucky conditioner as a base.


sounds LOVELY
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I just realized two of these samples are from products I tried as a newbie and my hair didn't like. One I took back. The other I gave away. IDK if I should try again. I was still doing wash and go back then but maybe they will work on a twist or braidout.
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
I got plenty of rest today so I can get Fierce, Fly, Fabulous this weekend. See you in Nu Awleenz!!
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
If this weather does not let up...this trim is gonna turn into a cut.
James Baldwin
A Talk To Teachers
[...]
one of the paradoxes of education [is] that precisely at the point when you begin to develop a conscience, you must find yourself at war with your society. It is your responsibility to change society
[...]

I forgot i bought some blue algae powder. Going to make a deep conditioner on Saturday


blue algae , amla , shea butter, hempseed and coconut oil, aloe vera and a sucky conditioner as a base.


sounds LOVELY
Originally Posted by Cerendipity
Blue Algae :Mixtress ~ A Happy Nappy Affair
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I skipped the first day of Fierce, Fly, Fabulous to go see my relatives. As much as I love my family they can work the nerves.I have decided next time I go to visit I'm going to twist my hair and either wear a scarf or a wig. I'm so tired of either ridiculous or hateful comments.

Relative one with fingers all in my scalp saying "It's curly all the way to the roots." Uh, I have curly hair. Is that so hard to believe? Maybe yours would be curly too is you kept it moisturized.

Relative two whose daughter has relaxed shoulder length hair sees mine resting at my shoulders. "Oh, you two have the same shoulder length hair." WTH. This person is natural so clearly she must realize that type 4 hair that is not straight and looks shoulder length stretched would have to be way longer to appear to be shoulder length. I just smiled.

But the cake is relative 3 who informed me today that she and her daughter think I have too much hair and need to cut it because it looks like a bush. Mind you my hair is BSL,not super long by natural standards. However, my hair is extremely dense so two years ago people were making comments about how much hair I have so that wouldn't change with a cut. And this is coming from the same people who are constantly abusing their hair and frustrated trying to get it to grow. Who have asked me for growth tips. That is over.

I have had so many hair struggles especially because of Alopecia. Some of bald patches did not start to grow in for a year and I still have one patch so I can't wear my hair up. You would think they would be happy for me and my progress but the hateration is unbelieaveable.
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
I skipped the first day of Fierce, Fly, Fabulous to go see my relatives. As much as I love my family they can work the nerves.I have decided next time I go to visit I'm going to twist my hair and either wear a scarf or a wig. I'm so tired of either ridiculous or hateful comments.

Relative one with fingers all in my scalp saying "It's curly all the way to the roots." Uh, I have curly hair. Is that so hard to believe? Maybe yours would be curly too is you kept it moisturized.

Relative two whose daughter has relaxed shoulder length hair sees mine resting at my shoulders. "Oh, you two have the same shoulder length hair." WTH. This person is natural so clearly she must realize that type 4 hair that is not straight and looks shoulder length stretched would have to be way longer to appear to be shoulder length. I just smiled.

But the cake is relative 3 who informed me today that she and her daughter think I have too much hair and need to cut it because it looks like a bush. Mind you my hair is BSL,not super long by natural standards. However, my hair is extremely dense so two years ago people were making comments about how much hair I have so that wouldn't change with a cut. And this is coming from the same people who are constantly abusing their hair and frustrated trying to get it to grow. Who have asked me for growth tips. That is over.

I have had so many hair struggles especially because of Alopecia. Some of bald patches did not start to grow in for a year and I still have one patch so I can't wear my hair up. You would think they would be happy for me and my progress but the hateration is unbelieaveable.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I am sorry to hear this lady, especially since they know about your struggles with Alopecia (do they know? - if not, maybe telling them would help with the comments). I think I remember you being frustrated before about family members asking for advise and just not taking it or not using the products you give them (that was you right?).

Honestly, maybe hair should not even be a topic. When they bring it up, just decline to answer questions or talk about it. Covering or twisting your hair will only make them more curious and inevitably hurtful and rude (the last relative to stick her "I don't know where your hands have been" paws anywhere near my scalp caught it). Or maybe a stronger reaction would get them to realize they are being hurtful. I sincerely hope they are not behaving this way on purpose. If they are, being more "direct" maybe the only way.
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James Baldwin
A Talk To Teachers
[...]
one of the paradoxes of education [is] that precisely at the point when you begin to develop a conscience, you must find yourself at war with your society. It is your responsibility to change society
[...]

I skipped the first day of Fierce, Fly, Fabulous to go see my relatives. As much as I love my family they can work the nerves.I have decided next time I go to visit I'm going to twist my hair and either wear a scarf or a wig. I'm so tired of either ridiculous or hateful comments.

Relative one with fingers all in my scalp saying "It's curly all the way to the roots." Uh, I have curly hair. Is that so hard to believe? Maybe yours would be curly too is you kept it moisturized.

Relative two whose daughter has relaxed shoulder length hair sees mine resting at my shoulders. "Oh, you two have the same shoulder length hair." WTH. This person is natural so clearly she must realize that type 4 hair that is not straight and looks shoulder length stretched would have to be way longer to appear to be shoulder length. I just smiled.

But the cake is relative 3 who informed me today that she and her daughter think I have too much hair and need to cut it because it looks like a bush. Mind you my hair is BSL,not super long by natural standards. However, my hair is extremely dense so two years ago people were making comments about how much hair I have so that wouldn't change with a cut. And this is coming from the same people who are constantly abusing their hair and frustrated trying to get it to grow. Who have asked me for growth tips. That is over.

I have had so many hair struggles especially because of Alopecia. Some of bald patches did not start to grow in for a year and I still have one patch so I can't wear my hair up. You would think they would be happy for me and my progress but the hateration is unbelieaveable.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I am sorry to hear this lady, especially since they know about your struggles with Alopecia (do they know? - if not, maybe telling them would help with the comments). I think I remember you being frustrated before about family members asking for advise and just not taking it or not using the products you give them (that was you right?).

Honestly, maybe hair should not even be a topic. When they bring it up, just decline to answer questions or talk about it. Covering or twisting your hair will only make them more curious and inevitably hurtful and rude (the last relative to stick her "I don't know where your hands have been" paws anywhere near my scalp caught it). Or maybe a stronger reaction would get them to realize they are being hurtful. I sincerely hope they are not behaving this way on purpose. If they are, being more "direct" maybe the only way.
Originally Posted by cocodej
To be honest some of them I think are just oblivious to what they are doing so it is hard for me to really be "mad". They all know about my alopecia but my aunt in particular talked much sh@t about me and my "naps" after alopecia and I went natural. Then along came karma and her hair fell out in patches too and she came to me for advice. No they don't follow my advice because "only white girls wash that much." With alopecia you can't really be sure when/if your hair will grow back but I try very hard to take care of my hair and yes the parts that have grown in grow very fast. I'm actually a 6 week trimmer. Every time I see her she makes a nasty comment about my hair growth. I don't know if her hair grew back because she always wears wigs. I've noticed some family members even wear wigs at the house which I didn't know anyone did.
I really shouldn't let it bother me but I went through some depression when my hair fell out. Plus I don't understand why my hair has be to such a big topic every time I go visit.
Thanks for responding. I feel better now.
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
I skipped the first day of Fierce, Fly, Fabulous to go see my relatives. As much as I love my family they can work the nerves.I have decided next time I go to visit I'm going to twist my hair and either wear a scarf or a wig. I'm so tired of either ridiculous or hateful comments.

Relative one with fingers all in my scalp saying "It's curly all the way to the roots." Uh, I have curly hair. Is that so hard to believe? Maybe yours would be curly too is you kept it moisturized.

Relative two whose daughter has relaxed shoulder length hair sees mine resting at my shoulders. "Oh, you two have the same shoulder length hair." WTH. This person is natural so clearly she must realize that type 4 hair that is not straight and looks shoulder length stretched would have to be way longer to appear to be shoulder length. I just smiled.

But the cake is relative 3 who informed me today that she and her daughter think I have too much hair and need to cut it because it looks like a bush. Mind you my hair is BSL,not super long by natural standards. However, my hair is extremely dense so two years ago people were making comments about how much hair I have so that wouldn't change with a cut. And this is coming from the same people who are constantly abusing their hair and frustrated trying to get it to grow. Who have asked me for growth tips. That is over.

I have had so many hair struggles especially because of Alopecia. Some of bald patches did not start to grow in for a year and I still have one patch so I can't wear my hair up. You would think they would be happy for me and my progress but the hateration is unbelieaveable.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I am sorry to hear this lady, especially since they know about your struggles with Alopecia (do they know? - if not, maybe telling them would help with the comments). I think I remember you being frustrated before about family members asking for advise and just not taking it or not using the products you give them (that was you right?).

Honestly, maybe hair should not even be a topic. When they bring it up, just decline to answer questions or talk about it. Covering or twisting your hair will only make them more curious and inevitably hurtful and rude (the last relative to stick her "I don't know where your hands have been" paws anywhere near my scalp caught it). Or maybe a stronger reaction would get them to realize they are being hurtful. I sincerely hope they are not behaving this way on purpose. If they are, being more "direct" maybe the only way.
Originally Posted by cocodej
To be honest some of them I think are just oblivious to what they are doing so it is hard for me to really be "mad". They all know about my alopecia but my aunt in particular talked much sh@t about me and my "naps" after alopecia and I went natural. Then along came karma and her hair fell out in patches too and she came to me for advice. No they don't follow my advice because "only white girls wash that much." With alopecia you can't really be sure when/if your hair will grow back but I try very hard to take care of my hair and yes the parts that have grown in grow very fast. I'm actually a 6 week trimmer. Every time I see her she makes a nasty comment about my hair growth. I don't know if her hair grew back because she always wears wigs. I've noticed some family members even wear wigs at the house which I didn't know anyone did.
I really shouldn't let it bother me but I went through some depression when my hair fell out. Plus I don't understand why my hair has be to such a big topic every time I go visit.
Thanks for responding. I feel better now.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I decided to go natural for two reasons. I suffered from alopecia in the past and I have a chronic disease that necessitates me taking a chemotherapy drug, which causes hair loss. Now that I have natural hair, it has allowed me to mitigate the hair loss along with taking prescription folic acid. My hair has grown back in the patches where I lost it, but is thin. I am happy for what I have. My hair is cbl in the back and jawbone length in the front. It is longer than it has ever been in my life and for that I am grateful!

You have achieved a lot in regards to your hair. If your family doesn't want to understand that, that's their problem. I say, YOU GO GIRL!!!!
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To be honest some of them I think are just oblivious to what they are doing so it is hard for me to really be "mad". They all know about my alopecia but my aunt in particular talked much sh@t about me and my "naps" after alopecia and I went natural. Then along came karma and her hair fell out in patches too and she came to me for advice. No they don't follow my advice because "only white girls wash that much." With alopecia you can't really be sure when/if your hair will grow back but I try very hard to take care of my hair and yes the parts that have grown in grow very fast. I'm actually a 6 week trimmer. Every time I see her she makes a nasty comment about my hair growth. I don't know if her hair grew back because she always wears wigs. I've noticed some family members even wear wigs at the house which I didn't know anyone did.
I really shouldn't let it bother me but I went through some depression when my hair fell out. Plus I don't understand why my hair has be to such a big topic every time I go visit.
Thanks for responding. I feel better now.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I completely agree with JuanaB, your Aunt is trying to shift her insecurities onto you. That is def not your problem. What can you do with someone that refuses to listen and uses ignorant assumptions as excuses? Absolutely nothing. Your hair will continue to be a big topic because they have their own issues. Maybe education would be better for some. However, I think your aunt deserves the big guns, at least once (tell her all about herself). Whatever you decide, I hope their behavior does not stress you going forward. The problem does not lay with you. Besides, who needs more stress? Just visualize this going forward...

James Baldwin
A Talk To Teachers
[...]
one of the paradoxes of education [is] that precisely at the point when you begin to develop a conscience, you must find yourself at war with your society. It is your responsibility to change society
[...]

I used my sample of Mizani Moisture stretch to do my Senegalese twists and they look good. yay. I used it bc that is what a stylist used at meetup but I remember using this years ago and not liking it. I can see now part of the problem is back then I was still styling on wet hair when now I know damp is better for me. And i no longer do wash and go. But I didnt squint to look at sample ingredients first. Got mo and adimethicone. Im not tripping because i clarified before I used it and wont use it again before my next shampoo. I think this product might be good for people who dont cowash as much but i wont be buying this bc I know the buildup will come. I only used a little on each twist and my hair didnt take long to dry under the hood. Very shiny. I also mixed a few drops of supreme oil in my leave in.
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
To be honest some of them I think are just oblivious to what they are doing so it is hard for me to really be "mad". They all know about my alopecia but my aunt in particular talked much sh@t about me and my "naps" after alopecia and I went natural. Then along came karma and her hair fell out in patches too and she came to me for advice. No they don't follow my advice because "only white girls wash that much." With alopecia you can't really be sure when/if your hair will grow back but I try very hard to take care of my hair and yes the parts that have grown in grow very fast. I'm actually a 6 week trimmer. Every time I see her she makes a nasty comment about my hair growth. I don't know if her hair grew back because she always wears wigs. I've noticed some family members even wear wigs at the house which I didn't know anyone did.
I really shouldn't let it bother me but I went through some depression when my hair fell out. Plus I don't understand why my hair has be to such a big topic every time I go visit.
Thanks for responding. I feel better now.
Originally Posted by adthomas
I completely agree with JuanaB, your Aunt is trying to shift her insecurities onto you. That is def not your problem. What can you do with someone that refuses to listen and uses ignorant assumptions as excuses? Absolutely nothing. Your hair will continue to be a big topic because they have their own issues. Maybe education would be better for some. However, I think your aunt deserves the big guns, at least once (tell her all about herself). Whatever you decide, I hope their behavior does not stress you going forward. The problem does not lay with you. Besides, who needs more stress? Just visualize this going forward...

Originally Posted by cocodej
Yeah I need to find inner peace and block out her negativity. In the last week she has also called my uncle stupid, my 16 cousin a dumb a$$, screamed at grown family members for not coming quickly enough when she summoned them, accused my mom of faking sick and said all the people at the church are hypocrites who are going to hell. She is lazy. At the reunion I fixed her plate and plates for her grandkids she was supposed to be watching. (not to mention I cleaned up their messes). Then the heaux had the nerve to complain to everyone I put too much food on their plates.
At least she is an equal opportunity b%tch.
"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
Adthomas ur fam reminds me of some strangers who commented on my hair when I first cut it, it was probably about an inch long. Basically hating because I had the courage to wear my own hair. All of them had weave of somesort and their real hair was a mess.
Even my mama had something to say cuz I wouldn't "pick out" my fro. Ur aunt needs to get a hair life lol. Ur hair is beautiful and very special considering your struggles with hair loss. When my hair began to shed after my daughter, it was massive shedding and I felt so horrible (it took out all my baby hairs and kitchen, and dramatically reduced its fullness). And once the shedding slowed an began to grow back I felt SO good.

But anyway! Dont let those haters get on ur nerves. Once u tell them off in a sweet nasty way one good time they won't want to say anything else....that's what I had to do with my mom lol

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"A life without fame can be a good life, but fame without a life is no life at all." - Clive Davis
Hi Everyone!

I'm new around these parts. I am looking for a thread (yes I looked before I posted) about the World Natural Hair And Beauty Show coming up in October in Atlanta! Can anyone point me in the right direction?? Thanks In Advance!!
Hi Everyone!

I'm new around these parts. I am looking for a thread (yes I looked before I posted) about the World Natural Hair And Beauty Show coming up in October in Atlanta! Can anyone point me in the right direction?? Thanks In Advance!!
Originally Posted by ButtaCookie
There probably isn't one. Many of us went to the one in April. You can always start one.
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Thank ya ma'am. Well ain't that a bleep!! I am currently reading the old thread started back in 2011 trying to find some tips. Just wondering who was going this time.

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Hi Everyone!

I'm new around these parts. I am looking for a thread (yes I looked before I posted) about the World Natural Hair And Beauty Show coming up in October in Atlanta! Can anyone point me in the right direction?? Thanks In Advance!!
Originally Posted by ButtaCookie
There probably isn't one. Many of us went to the one in April. You can always start one.
Originally Posted by Ninjarette
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