VERY well said.I think the problem with the whole race categorizing thing is that how would it be done? If skin tone is the sole variant then there are a lot of white folks who would be put into the black category simply b/c they tan so damn much. I am from Louisiana and so is my family for generations. I understand the Creole, mixed, good hair vs bad hair thing better than anybody. It's all dumb. It all stems back from slavery and the oppression afterwards where multi racial ppl could get better jobs (or a job period other than being a maid) and were accepted better by white folks. I completely understand where it came from and for some that brown paper bag test is what allowed them to get a job that would feed their families. So they played to role. I'm not mad at them at all. They did what they had to to survive. The problem today with that is like so many things stuff starts to go to your head. Iím sure a lot of ppl didnít think it (society) would get any better. So they taught self hating things to their children (or they learned it) in order to make sure the fair skin tone continued. Unfortunately, regardless of race/background ppl are flawed. They get uppity and think they are better than others. The same thing happens with money. Some rich ppl think the world should revolve around them. The same way some lighter skinned ppl think they are better than others.
I agree that it's REALLY hard to break out of that way of thinking, especially if it's ALL you're taught. You never really know what all someone has been through, since most people don't unload all their baggage upon meeting someone lol. Even though people might put their foot in their mouths on an issue, a lot of times they don't mean it the way it sounds.Messages are passed down for generations that you need to be this way in order to survive. I say this b/c my grandmother raised me and she has a slave mentality to me. Sheís more concerned with me being able to cook and clean than get an education. She really didnít get that I didnít have to do that. I could go to school and learn instead of having to struggle and just take whatever is handed to me. Again not mad at anyone. Once you begin to understand ďwhyĒ someone thinks they way they do ( good start is who raised them and in what decade) you can stop being mad at folks and just know that this skewed thinking has been so re-enforced that it will be hard to retrain their minds. As for today, there's no reason for all the division. If getting a "race" test were madatory like at birth or something then more ppl would find out they are multiracial regardless of their skin tone. Please everyone try to understand where someone is coming from. You never know what they were taught.
For instance, even though my dad's family spout off all that stupid creole stuff all the time, about a third of them married non-mixed black people, so it's not that strong. They did however freely admit that they regretted ending up with such dark kids though.