"White men love natural hair!"

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In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Recently I went to Jamaica and all the men (black men) loved my curly hair. They kept saying "hey natural girl" or "empress." They kept comparing me to this natural Jamaican singer named Etana. Here's a pic.... My fiance is Jamaican and he loves my natural hair. He actually brags about my hair.
interesting.

some Black women say that (some) White men like their hair.

...most of the responses are to "convince" them otherwise -- "white men don't really like your hair; oh white (and black) men only like MY hair (curly/3c), they even ask me why Black women don't have hair like me; men have preferences, you're not special."

I also find it kinda funny that the Black women who are claiming that Black men love natural hair so much, have a curly texture.

all very interesting.

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Originally Posted by Artemise
Let me just say, I'm feeling your post. *now moving on*



My husband just likes hair - and lots of it. He has a fro, wants the boys to have fros or braids, wants the girls to have long hair, etc. He was devastated when I BC'd. I think it took him a lot of getting used to because we've been together since high school and I have always had long hair, so the TWA was a whole new thing - for both of us.

Now it's been almost a year since my BC and he can't keep his hands out of my hair. He is always rubbing it or grabbing or pulling. (uh huh, you know LOL) I asked him about it one night. I asked him why he was always rubbing my hair and he said, "because I like it." So then I asked him, "didn't you like it before?" "Yes." "Well why the big deal about rubbing it or playing in it now?" (here comes the kicker) "Well, before you cut your hair, when it was all straight I didn't rub it because I felt like I would mess it up." *dayum! That hit me like a ton of bricks!* How many times had I told him not to touch my hair or said no to the lovin' for fear of messing up my hair?

For a brief few seconds I felt really shallow. I was quiet for a minute. I didn't even know what to say next. Thank goodness he broke the silence for me and said, "I'm just glad I can mess with it now. I like it and it feels good."

I'm just saying...sometimes we need to check ourselves and our actions.
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regardless of race, hair texture or length, a good man loves a confident woman.

end of story.
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regardless of race, hair texture or length, a good man loves a confident woman.

end of story.
Originally Posted by subbrock

regardless of race, hair texture or length, a good man loves a confident woman.

end of story.
Originally Posted by subbrock

Originally Posted by lafemmenakia
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interesting.

some Black women say that (some) White men like their hair.

...most of the responses are to "convince" them otherwise -- "white men don't really like your hair; oh white (and black) men only like MY hair (curly/3c), they even ask me why Black women don't have hair like me; men have preferences, you're not special."

I also find it kinda funny that the Black women who are claiming that Black men love natural hair so much, have a curly texture.

all very interesting.

edit: had to change a few things
Originally Posted by Artemise
Gotta say, i like this statement.
"We Live From the Head Down and Not the Feet Up" ~Donnie
When I visited my half sister last year I actually had a very similar conversation with my sister (relaxed), half sister (relaxed), and her cousin (natural). My sisters are both 3c/4a, and her cousin and I are 3cs. This was a long conversation lol, but here are a few of the points and varying opinions.

The relaxed girls think hair has NOTHING to do with it, it's just confidence and being overall attractive that matters. I agree with this to SOME degree. However, I think that natural hair can be off-putting to some guys, whereas I can't imagine someone having long straight hair being any sort of detractor lol.

My fellow natural and I sometimes get blowouts, and in our experience, you DO get more attention from guys of all colors. A LOT MORE. It's not a big deal though, and if I cared that much about what guys thought I'd also wear a full face of makeup every day and 4-inch heels to go to the grocery store lol.

The relaxed girls said this is in our heads, all about confidence etc., as if getting a blowout adds confidence to a natural! I like to change it up, and I get better trims with the hair straight - it's more accurate since I've yet to find a curl-friendly stylist.

Then we were talking about black women dating white guys just in general (none of us have so far), and we noticed that most interracial couples contain naturals for whatever reason lol.

We also noted that unlike black men who tend to have REALLY REALLY bad taste in white women, black women when they do date outside of their race, are usually dating a really good white guy that they made an exception for lol. These include more rocker type guys, scruffy but hot guys, sweet nerdy guys, white guys who have exceptional swagger lol. I live in Texas and now I sometimes see straight laced black women/hot redneck couples. I have to laugh when I think of how much these women must get teased from their friends!

Nearly all of the black women/white man couples I've seen give off a Sean/Anglela from the TV show Boy Meets World. If you haven't seen it it's one of the most adorable couples ever. Angela is a natural, and Sean is scruffy.

I would say from what I've seen is that I think the white guys who like black women like the natural hair better. I think the weavalicous Beyonce look is more apealling to black guys than it is to white guys. I would even go so far as to say that if you are a type 4 natural, you will probably get MORE attention from white guys then you would with a relaxer or weave, and probably more attention than you would get from black guys period.

I don't want to sound like you won't get a black guy with natural hair though. In fact two of my brothers like natural hair on girls. One even likes the super-short natural style the best. He says they're prettier and more confident.

Then we talked about white guys who date lots of black women. They date the entire spectrum of colors, with a preference for darker girls lol. Some famous guys who do this are Brad Pitt , Robert Deniro, Trent Reznor, David Bowie, George Lucas, and there's a few others but I can't think of them right now.

Also, I think there's A LOT of white guys who secretley like black women lol. One of my friends (who is a white guy) worked at the Walgreens said that all types of white guys would come in and buy those magazines that are the black equivalent of Maxim. King Magazine was their bestseller, and this was in a mostly white suburban area lol.
In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Originally Posted by Tazzy
SMDH

Ladies please do not be fooled. If a man likes you thats it, it has nothing to do with your hair. And if a man is giving you attention based on your hair then you should take heed.

And why are folks feeling special just cause a white man gave them some attention. If you like your hair then thats all that should matter. You dont need validation from a white man or a black man.

Men and women have preferences so just cause some men may show you positive attention doesn't mean the whole entire race now loves curly hair. If you dont believe me talk to some of the women on this board with 2a-3b and see what they say about the men in their race.



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Also, I think there's A LOT of white guys who secretley like black women lol. One of my friends (who is a white guy) worked at the Walgreens said that all types of white guys would come in and buy those magazines that are the black equivalent of Maxim. King Magazine was their bestseller, and this was in a mostly white suburban area lol.
Originally Posted by Truly


Um yeah...they do. But I'm not even gonna go into that topic.



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In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Originally Posted by Tazzy
SMDH

Ladies please do not be fooled. If a man likes you thats it, it has nothing to do with your hair. And if a man is giving you attention based on your hair then you should take heed.

And why are folks feeling special just cause a white man gave them some attention. If you like your hair then thats all that should matter. You dont need validation from a white man or a black man.

Men and women have preferences so just cause some men may show you positive attention doesn't mean the whole entire race now loves curly hair. If you dont believe me talk to some of the women on this board with 2a-3b and see what they say about the men in their race.
Originally Posted by Lynnery
say it sista
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In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Originally Posted by Tazzy
SMDH

Ladies please do not be fooled. If a man likes you thats it, it has nothing to do with your hair. And if a man is giving you attention based on your hair then you should take heed.

And why are folks feeling special just cause a white man gave them some attention. If you like your hair then thats all that should matter. You dont need validation from a white man or a black man.

Men and women have preferences so just cause some men may show you positive attention doesn't mean the whole entire race now loves curly hair. If you dont believe me talk to some of the women on this board with 2a-3b and see what they say about the men in their race.
Originally Posted by Lynnery


My lord!!!! LMAO Girl you better say that!
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In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Originally Posted by Tazzy
SMDH

Ladies please do not be fooled. If a man likes you thats it, it has nothing to do with your hair. And if a man is giving you attention based on your hair then you should take heed.

And why are folks feeling special just cause a white man gave them some attention. If you like your hair then thats all that should matter. You dont need validation from a white man or a black man.

Men and women have preferences so just cause some men may show you positive attention doesn't mean the whole entire race now loves curly hair. If you dont believe me talk to some of the women on this board with 2a-3b and see what they say about the men in their race.
Originally Posted by Lynnery
This is gonna be the post that will just not go away. Watch, it's gonna stay on the first page at varying degrees of popularity, (sigh) which is very telling for reasons we all know and that I'm not gonna get into.

But yeah Lynnery I so cosign on your reply.
I know this is an old post, but I have to say something really quick and then I am gone. I read some of you saying that black men men don't like curly hair or white men don't like natural hair or men don't like kinky hair in general. LOOK!
MEN ARE PRIMAL!
It has nothing to do with light skin, silky hair, long hair or whatever.
People will always say men like "whatever they posses" or "whatever they are comfortable with".
I learned a lesson a long time ago. If you like it, everyone else will love it.
I get hit on the same now as I did with straight long hair. You know why?
Because I like my face! I actually like a lot about myself that has nothing to do with my hair. I view my hair as a cute frame to a beautiful piece of art.
My black husband loves my natural hair and my white ex-boyfriend says I should have done it a long time ago (and he married a straight hair white woman).
Saying that men prefer you because you are mixed with a silkier texture is SUPER SELF-INDULGENT!
Men say whatever they need to in order to make you think you are special. They tell white women that they prefer them because they can run their hands through their hair and take a shower with them. They tell black women that they like their butts and hips. Basically, men say whatever they need to in order to get to the prize. It doesn't mean that it is a general statement for all men. I also dated a latin guy who said I was the only black girl he could understand because I wasn't ghetto (I broke up with him immediately).
Either way, it is what it is!
I know that I am a mutt whether I look like it of not. My mom is one quarter french and one quarter latino and her hair is super long silky 3b texture. Let her tell it, I have better luck with men than she ever had. Men hit on me because I KNOW they are going to and I believe they will.

I guess The Secret was right.
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I know this is an old post, but I have to say something really quick and then I am gone. I read some of you saying that black men men don't like curly hair or white men don't like natural hair or men don't like kinky hair in general. LOOK!
MEN ARE PRIMAL!
It has nothing to do with light skin, silky hair, long hair or whatever.
People will always say men like "whatever they posses" or "whatever they are comfortable with".
I learned a lesson a long time ago. If you like it, everyone else will love it.
I get hit on the same now as I did with straight long hair. You know why?
Because I like my face! I actually like a lot about myself that has nothing to do with my hair. I view my hair as a cute frame to a beautiful piece of art.
My black husband loves my natural hair and my white ex-boyfriend says I should have done it a long time ago (and he married a straight hair white woman).
Saying that men prefer you because you are mixed with a silkier texture is SUPER SELF-INDULGENT!
Men say whatever they need to in order to make you think you are special. They tell white women that they prefer them because they can run their hands through their hair and take a shower with them. They tell black women that they like their butts and hips. Basically, men say whatever they need to in order to get to the prize. It doesn't mean that it is a general statement for all men. I also dated a latin guy who said I was the only black girl he could understand because I wasn't ghetto (I broke up with him immediately).
Either way, it is what it is!
I know that I am a mutt whether I look like it of not. My mom is one quarter french and one quarter latino and her hair is super long silky 3b texture. Let her tell it, I have better luck with men than she ever had. Men hit on me because I KNOW they are going to and I believe they will.

I guess The Secret was right.
Originally Posted by arkanfine
Love it!
In my experience, I know lots of black and white men who like natural hair. I'm starting to think this may be a regional thing. I'm not totally sure. Maybe some background on where everyone lives/are from may help me get to the bottom of this.

BTW, white men have been more uhh, physical about liking my hair lol. I get random kisses on the cheek when I'm out and about from white men of whom I've had at best a 15min. convo from. Of course it weirds me out, but black men don't do this. Black men will touch and play in my hair, but no kisses on the cheeck lol.
Originally Posted by Tazzy
SMDH

Ladies please do not be fooled. If a man likes you thats it, it has nothing to do with your hair. And if a man is giving you attention based on your hair then you should take heed.

And why are folks feeling special just cause a white man gave them some attention. If you like your hair then thats all that should matter. You dont need validation from a white man or a black man.

Men and women have preferences so just cause some men may show you positive attention doesn't mean the whole entire race now loves curly hair. If you dont believe me talk to some of the women on this board with 2a-3b and see what they say about the men in their race.
Originally Posted by Lynnery
Amen to that .. and on that note
Maybe I'm just lucky but my SO actually prefers my hair out as opposed to twisted. I don't know what hairtype I am but even when shrunken he still likes it as long as there's no weave or straightening involved. I think he prefers tectured over straight anyways.

I don't think I could tolerate someone who didn't like my hair. That's too shallow for me.
Every guy I've met digs my hair whether natural or relaxed, however since I've been natural, the guys love to touch it. Say its soft and cottony.
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My hubby is white and he loves my hair. He said he likes it better this way because it "brings out my beautiful face" lol and it fits me better because it is the hair God gave me.
In the Bible, Moses married an Ethiopian woman, I don't think Moses complained one bit LOL
But honestly race doesn't matter. It's about personal preference. Some men like curly hair, some men like straight, some like shorter, some like long, some don't care because they only want a one night stand, some men don't care because they only care about your personality.
If you're happy with something, stick to it, and the people (man/men/etc) that support you will end up being the only ones that matter.
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