"White men love natural hair!"

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I have heard this statement many times. I think that white men might appreciate natural hair more than black men do.. BUT I do remember how much more attention i got from white males when my hair was straight or in long braids. I really am not sure if white men prefer the natural hair over long straight hair. But then my hair is short... maybe if I had long curls the white men would love it. I know not all men are the same... but this is just what i have noticed.
I have heard this statement many times. I think that white men might appreciate natural hair more than black men do.. BUT I do remember how much more attention i got from white males when my hair was straight or in long braids. I really am not sure if white men prefer the natural hair over long straight hair. But then my hair is short... maybe if I had long curls the white men would love it. I know not all men are the same... but this is just what i have noticed.
Originally Posted by avaanstar
That's funny you say that most white men I know love our natural hair, most black men I know want straight permed hair-I wanna run my fingers through your hair! My fiancee(white) loves my hair....his fluffy pillow it's cute though.
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I have heard this statement many times. I think that white men might appreciate natural hair more than black men do.. BUT I do remember how much more attention i got from white males when my hair was straight or in long braids. I really am not sure if white men prefer the natural hair over long straight hair. But then my hair is short... maybe if I had long curls the white men would love it. I know not all men are the same... but this is just what i have noticed.
Originally Posted by avaanstar

I think we've all heard this as well (and BGWLH has a pretty cool perspective on it).

Personal experience, I believe that black men prefer straight hair more so than white men. My stepmother has some gorgeous locks, and I know for a fact that my father absolutely cannot stand them. He likes women with long straight hair. Most black men I know seem to share the same sentiments. It's incredibly depressing.

Now, the majority of white men I know have their preferences, but they tend to be more liberal, if that makes sense.
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I have heard this statement many times. I think that white men might appreciate natural hair more than black men do.. BUT I do remember how much more attention i got from white males when my hair was straight or in long braids. I really am not sure if white men prefer the natural hair over long straight hair. But then my hair is short... maybe if I had long curls the white men would love it. I know not all men are the same... but this is just what i have noticed.
Originally Posted by avaanstar
That's funny you say that most white men I know love our natural hair, most black men I know want straight permed hair-I wanna run my fingers through your hair! My fiancee(white) loves my hair....his fluffy pillow it's cute though.
Originally Posted by HennaRo

The key word here should be SOME. Some men of (insert race) like natural hair.
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The key word here should be SOME. Some men of (insert race) like natural hair.
Originally Posted by hippychic
Exactly. Like another poster said they (really any man) has their preferences.
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The key word here should be SOME. Some men of (insert race) like natural hair.
Originally Posted by hippychic
Couldn't have said it better myself hippychic. But I think that most people, male or female (whatever race) like the appeal of natural beauty more. When I see people that haven't seen me since before my bc their jaws drop and they can't get over how much they love my natural hair. The creator didn't make any mistakes with the way he made our hair.

"Remove the kinks from your brain not your hair."

I love that quote.
White, Hispanic (my husband is Mexican), and Black men ALL have a greater appreciation for natural hair when they have not been raised to think that there is a such thing as "good hair". When men are able to look past differences in skin color to date outside of their race they are just more receptive to natural hair because they just see it as another difference between races. I think that more (NOT all) Black men have been raised to think that straight is better, so they seem to be less tolerant of natural hair. But in general i think that men like healthy beautiful hair.
Oh schnap!

Mod...can we move this to the General Discussion section....?? I think it would be more fitting there....pretty please??
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I've had relationships with White, Black, Latino and Asian men. When I wore my hair straight I noticed a difference with only Black men when it came to my hair. ONLY one black man loved my long straight hair (ranged from MBL to TL). All the others hated it and asked me to cut it. They said it was just too much hair. Very weird since I hear most black men love long hair. However, now that I don't flat-iron it anymore and wear it natural ALL the black men I have come across love it. I actually NOW receive compliments from black men when I very rarily did in the past. And NOW I get men (black) touching my hair when this NEVER happened when I wore it straight. Perhaps I've run across strange black men????
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I've had relationships with White, Black, Latino and Asian men. When I wore my hair straight I noticed a difference with only Black men when it came to my hair. ONLY one black man loved my long straight hair (ranged from MBL to TL). All the others hated it and asked me to cut it. They said it was just too much hair. Very weird since I hear most black men love long hair. However, now that I don't flat-iron it anymore and wear it natural ALL the black men I have come across love it. I actually NOW receive compliments from black men when I very rarily did in the past. And NOW I get men (black) touching my hair when this NEVER happened when I wore it straight. Perhaps I've run across strange black men????
Originally Posted by NaturallyCurlyEnnovy

Perhaps you have lol. That's actually refreshing to hear. Please ask them to spread that around to others
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Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown
LOL you know

i can't even relate to this white men don't approach me in a serious way
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White, Hispanic (my husband is Mexican), and Black men ALL have a greater appreciation for natural hair when they have not been raised to think that there is a such thing as "good hair". When men are able to look past differences in skin color to date outside of their race they are just more receptive to natural hair because they just see it as another difference between races. I think that more (NOT all) Black men have been raised to think that straight is better, so they seem to be less tolerant of natural hair. But in general i think that men like healthy beautiful hair.
Originally Posted by DBOO75115

ITA w/this. Especially the bolded. It's a mistake to assume that this love of natural hair i.e. highly curly hair extends to an entire race. It's easy to see how the response of white men to a black woman with natural hair could skew her impression of the race at large though.

Based off of mainstream culture, I doubt if we took a poll there would be more white guys being attracted to black curly cottony haired women than their black counterparts.
My opinion is based on AMERICAN STANDARDS because in other countries it's different..so here goes:

Well I am mixed and I think SOME white men that are actually attracted to women of color do like natural hair on women of color, IF the hair is a certain texture and length.

I know some people don't want to deal with that or hear it because it evokes all kinds of feelings about race, beauty, equality, etc.. but it's true and acting otherwise is just that: Acting.

It also depends on HOW the woman looks on top of it. I don't think it's just this general thing of that white men like natural "black" hair and are so nuts over it as opposed to black men. I mean because a white man is quick to say he doesn't like nappy hair just as fast as a black man will.

I've participated in various race discussions and the hair topic has come up several times. In those discussions, white men say they generally do not like extremely kinky hair because they do not find it attractive or when compared to any other hair they find it the LEAST attractive.

This is not my opinion..this is what I have heard several white men say in general including white male members of my own family. If anything they like curly or wavy hair on women of color when it's natural. Examples would be hair types like Rachel True, Trace Ellis Ross, Alicia Keyes, Cree Summer, Amel Larrieux, Jasika Nicole, Jessic Szohr, Mya, Leona Lewis, etc. Basically women of color with a defined wave or curl pattern.

I have had SEVERAL white men ask me why more black women don't have hair like mine (I have type 3c hair) or wear their hair like mine because they don't get the whole "nappy" thing or why black women always "cut their hair off" and then get weaves. And I have explained to many that not everyone has the same texture and people like different things, etc.

The truth is there is not this overwhelming majority of white men interested in women of color with natural hair in general. I think when a white man is interested in a women of color, it's usually because he likes ALL of her reguardless of her hair type and texture. But in his inital attraction.. her hair does factor into it.

I honestly think this is actually true of black men as well. I think most black men generally don't have an issue with natural hair provided the texture and length are a certain way. I mean it is what it is.. it's that "good hair" syndrome.

So I don't think the overwhelming majority of black men are just clamouring for women with kinky hair either..given some don't mind it and/or prefer it. But it's hardly most or the majority.

I think in the United States the issue is that the longer and straight or looser or more defined a curl pattern is equates beauty.. and this is true of men and women..black and white.

The odd man out seems to be kinky hair as in type 4 hair that doesn't neccessarily always have a defined curl pattern. I think this hair type get the most put downs and flack from BOTH races from the men and women. I think because historically in this country kinky hair was often synonymous with ugly and black point blank.

And when people (especially men) are bombarded with images of what is considered beautiful then their preferences generally reflect that..and kinky hair is not featured as beautiful. Heck even in black hair care magazines they are always suggesting to relax, texturize, weave, lace front etc the hair.. and all of this leads to one thing: TO HIDE NATURAL HAIR as if showing it is inappropriate ESPECIALLY if it's type 4 hair.

Anyone see the Dr. Miracle's ad ? The woman's hair has "new growth", her hair is wild, messy, and she looks a mess making a distorted face sticking her tongue out.. but when she gets her Dr. Miracle relaxer..suddenly she's smiling brightly, has makeup on, and looks well put together. I mean if a person can't see the message sent in that..well they are blind. And when messages are sent like that in society..what else does one expect of men..even black men.. they are taught kinky hair is not attractive.

And I am not anti-relaxer at all. I think it's preference and I would never disparage a person about having relaxed hair. Frankly, I think straight hair just looks nicer on some people so I don't mind relaxers at all.

My point is that the messages sent about kinky hair are clear in society and I can't expect white men OR black men to see it otherwise. The majority of women don't even see it otherwise hence why women are always relaxing, flat ironing, hot combing, or trying to hide or straighten their kinky or curly hair.
Korkscrew and thelio like this.

And when people (especially men) are bombarded with images of what is considered beautiful then their preferences generally reflect that..and kinky hair is not featured as beautiful. Heck even in black hair care magazines they are always suggesting to relax, texturize, weave, lace front etc the hair.. and all of this leads to one thing: TO HIDE NATURAL HAIR as if showing it is inappropriate ESPECIALLY if it's type 4 hair.

Anyone see the Dr. Miracle's ad ? The woman's hair has "new growth", her hair is wild, messy, and she looks a mess making a distorted face sticking her tongue out.. but when she gets her Dr. Miracle relaxer..suddenly she's smiling brightly, has makeup on, and looks well put together. I mean if a person can't see the message sent in that..well they are blind. And when messages are sent like that in society..what else does one expect of men..even black men.. they are taught kinky hair is not attractive.
Originally Posted by Marah Mizrahi
I completely agree. The before pic on any "make over show" from Oprah to What not to wear they make it a point to have the persons hair look a hot mess, not smiling, and no make up on. Afterwards she is put together and looks dramatically different. The same thing goes for hair of any style or length on any man, woman or child. If it is styled nicely and the person is put together even if that look is not the preference he/she will still look good as a whole (including the natural hair). People like what they like.
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And when people (especially men) are bombarded with images of what is considered beautiful then their preferences generally reflect that..and kinky hair is not featured as beautiful. Heck even in black hair care magazines they are always suggesting to relax, texturize, weave, lace front etc the hair.. and all of this leads to one thing: TO HIDE NATURAL HAIR as if showing it is inappropriate ESPECIALLY if it's type 4 hair.

Anyone see the Dr. Miracle's ad ? The woman's hair has "new growth", her hair is wild, messy, and she looks a mess making a distorted face sticking her tongue out.. but when she gets her Dr. Miracle relaxer..suddenly she's smiling brightly, has makeup on, and looks well put together. I mean if a person can't see the message sent in that..well they are blind. And when messages are sent like that in society..what else does one expect of men..even black men.. they are taught kinky hair is not attractive.
Originally Posted by Marah Mizrahi
I completely agree. The before pic on any "make over show" from Oprah to What not to wear they make it a point to have the persons hair look a hot mess, not smiling, and no make up on. Afterwards she is put together and looks dramatically different. The same thing goes for hair of any style or length on any man, woman or child. If it is styled nicely and the person is put together even if that look is not the preference he/she will still look good as a whole (including the natural hair). People like what they like.
Originally Posted by mozeke
+1. Has anyone seen the new Garnier Frutis commercial? They are talking about a new product that helps with frizz, but when they show the before picture of the woman with frizz, she just has an AFRO of 4a/b texture!!!! Once she's used the new product, her hair is silky and straight.
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So what the h-e-double hockey sticks is Garnier trying to say ??? And if a woman has 4a/b hair texture there's no dang way some Garnier is going to make it silky straight so can they PLEASE stop fronting! *Sigh*

Um.. why the heck didn't they show Sarah Jessica Parker (their spokeswoman) with frizz and then her after ? (rolling my eyes)... LOL!

Oh but I guess I should be thrilled to some people cause Lo'real doesn't want to put people of color in their commercials unless they look like Beyonce.... opps did I type that ? Rolling my eyes again!

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