You have very pretty hair! It is similar to mine, but I am a total 2C and my hair is frizzy beyond explanation hehe
You can see my pics through my profile to get an idea. I haven't blow dried my hair in the longest time and I don't want to! While my hair does straighten easily I'd rather work with my natural texture. To me waves and curls are much more fun looking than straight hair!
If your hair is oily, you may not want to go CG. I have dry hair and if I don't shampoo every so often it goes limp and gets too soft. So after many attempts at CG, I have decided to just find products that work for me (reguardless of cones) and stick with them. IMO there's nothing wrong with shampooing your hair as long as the cleansers aren't super harsh and there are moisturizing properties. I make sure to stay away from shampoos that contain Ammonium Lauryl & Laureth Sulfate or Sodium Lauryl Sulfate, which are the most harsh of the detergents.
As for the products you are using, the Pantene conditioner is verrry heavy! And if you have oily hair without a strong wave pattern this will just weigh it down more. If you want to get more wave and less oil, go with a conditioner that is lighter. If you choose to go without cones, try the Suave Naturals line. If you don't mind cones, some nice ones are: Aussie 3 Minute Miracle, Aussie Moist (A little heavy, but no waxes like Pantene, and makes the hair feel like silk!), L'Oreal Nutri-Moisture, John Frieda Brilliant Brunette Light Reflecting Moisturizing CO, Neutrogena Triple Moisture Daily Deep Conditioner & Mask, Physique Hydrating.
I don't see a problem with any of the stylers you are using, although I have never used any of them. I have a love/hate relationship with gels, so I am always trying new ones, and then switching to creams when I get tired of them. I also use mousse sometimes and I really like the one by Rave which is super cheap and performs better than some of the high end ones I have tried! That doesn't leave my hair crunchy at all and it defines my waves pretty nicely. But I am a total product junkie so I am always on the look for the next best thing. I choose not to order anything online as much as I am tempted to, because I almost *know* that I am going to be disappointed and will want to try something else. So I mainly shop at drugstores and sometimes the salons. That way if I don't like something it won't be a hassle to return.
If I were you I'd just experiment with different products until you find what works well. That's the boat I am in right now. I am still trying to find a styling aid that pumps up my waves, doesn't leave my hair super hard, and doesn't weigh my hair down or make it look dull. It seems impossible since I have tried many things, but I am going to keep looking.
Well I hope all my rambling helped you somewhat! Let me know if you need any more help