we didn't tell people either time until i was out of my first trimester. we did this for 2 reasons: 1. to see the babies healthfully into the second trimester, and 2. to respect our private and intimate time. my husband and i relished knowing that we had such a tremendous secret growing in me that no one else was in on. i remember to this day the smiles and looks that we exchanged among family and friends long before we decided to tell them. soon enough, everyone would know and everyone would see. but until then, for those first few months, it was just for the two of us to know. that is precious to me.