Exactly! I think so many curlies think that what they have is as good as it's ever going to get, so they just accept the status quo. I know that's how I was. My hair was frizzy and poofy and I hated it, but I figured that's just how my hair was. And in pictures it didn't even look so bad.
Interestingly, I discovered this week when I found some old containers of them, that the combination that had given me the best "pre-CG" hair and that I really liked before finding this site was...silicone free. Imagine that.