Using SheaM on its own gives me an ultra soft head of frizz. I worked out that it works best for me when diluted. I find CK too runny and SheaM too thick so I mix them together and have had awesome results for a while now. Rake it through soaking hair and scrunch and I am good to go!
I also tried mixing it with water and this helped too. I have a mix of 3A/B curls and my hair loves heavy conditioners and hates gels. My CK/Sheam combo is making some gorgeous soft touchable curls!
I think that maybe you just have to find the best way to use it for your hair?