my hair is like this too! each strand is its own curl. heres the remedy:
when you CW: (finger) comb hair foward, bend at the waist, rinse from back to front.
when you apply leave in or product: rub in your palms, tap on your hair, then finger smooth over sections of hair.
these steps make my curls clump and cuts down on the extra volume. my hair isnt long, but i have a feeling it will work for you as well.
loose 4a, silky meets cottony
routine: co-wash, add leave in or plain water, shake & go
staples: elucence poo & conditioners, V05 & suave naturals, jessicurl too shea, AO.