in comes a new member talking about, "i hate my natural hair and where can i find a relaxer?" or "does miss jessies really work?" thats simply not tolerated over there. ....but the thing i admire about that atmosphere is how no matter how long or short, curly or nappy someone's hair is, they seem to love it for whatever it is or whatever it isnt. ...........and i dont get that same kind of self esteem or positivity that i used to get from this site. hell, ive been natural for 4 or 5 years now, and im just getting to the point where i honestly have that same self esteem about my hair. so it hurts me when i see the same types of behaviors or questions being posted here. and for me, i feel like thats what the majority of postings on this board are about. if you dont have hair longer than your shoulders (or youre not trying to grow your hair out), if youre not trying to "turn your kinks into curls" then no one really cares.