I voted for "love it wet, hate it dry". That's with no product though, because my hair is a big, poufy, frizzy, undefined mass on top of my head with no products.
You could try leaving in conditioner then braiding your hair loosely until it dries, then gently take out the braid, and loosen up the sections just a little. If you can, any gel (without cones) would help too. If you can't get gel, aloe works pretty good. HTH!