Both.

I believe that Dear Abby should have advised her to take the vacation and move out. Not "get married" or "bring a chaperone" (which in my mind = decline the vacation).

I think people are VOTING based upon the sanity or insanity of the rule.

I voted that Abby gave the wrong advice... and *I* was discussing why I feel that she should absolutely stand up for herself and take the vacation.
The good people do is interred with their bones. Their mistakes live on forever...