figure out what your goal is. my experience is that people do not do what they do not want to do. if she did not want to see you, she would not go out to lunch with you. as far as the skipped birthday, you could lightly ask her about it when you see her without putting a lot of baggage on it, or just let it go and see what the relationship is like now. i like the suggestion of a seasonal date rather than a bday date.
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls