Yeah I agree with you girls on both of those things and many other comments posted here but I'll run out of room trying to quote all of you!!! I'm trying harder to not obsess, I keep trying new things because I'm afraid what I'm doing will stop working. Luckily with the swaps I haven't spent a fortune. But I'm finally at a good place product-wise and routine-wise. It seems there are more curlies than wavies on here and the wavies are always trying to be more curly. We do need to accept what our hair can do and that's it. I'm not aiming for more curl anymore, I just want it to look neat and not poofy. I admired my hairstylist's hair once and told her I wish I had hair like YOU!!! She's a 3A/B mix gorgeous curls and she said to ME I wish I had YOUR hair, so the grass is always greener for sure.