OK.... so....
I hate to think that most of the suggestions I've gotten from fellow 3C/4A curlies need to go out the window.
(Most people take one look at my hair and say... "Black hair! Use oils!" I'm actually a Puerto Rican "Heinz 57" ethnic mix. A small amount of 'cones usually seems to work better than the oils.)
This is an excellent thread. I say we all go down to Florida and have StruttsWife examine our hair!