Since I was the one that wasn't going to lie and your being honest, i figure you mean me.
You are right. I already said that. But thank you for pointing out my pathetic little insecurities more than I did. I only got an issue about it after someone very important to me made a comparison between myself and someone I don't care for (and who didn't have hair like me at all). Before that, I didn't think twice about it. So it IS my
insecurity. I dunno about arrogance (on a personal level), so maybe you meant the larger group of people who bother to think about this.
Personally I never considered it an arrogant thought to have an opinion on what a curl is versus what a wave is, unless you (the general 'you') weren't really comparing the two and comparing someone elses hair to your own. That is arrogant (if you think yours is better of course).
eta: I hope that i'm reading too far into this. Either way: I agree with you. A curl is anything other than straight. I can give opinions all day as to what I think, but at the end of the day, a curl is anything that isn't straight. Anything more that I say is just my personal opinions and views.
Mix of 3s, thick, coarse, medium porosity
Current hair styling technique: rake with a scrunch at the end. (works with my coarse hair)
Known HGs: KCCC, homemade fsg, honey