Welcome!
You should be able to find a silicone list at this link
http://www.makeupalley.com/user/notepad/sweetpeacali/
The conditioner you are using is loaded with cones (Cyclopentasiloxane and dimethiconol), so you'll need to shampoo those out and start over with another kind (sorry!). I have found that drugstore.com lists ingredients, and walgreens.com usually does too, so I check out a lot of products before going to the store. If you want a recommendation for a new condidtioner, most people here like suave naturals, which have no cones. As for gels, you can find a lot of info searching the boards, especially the product review one.