Hi sammibammy,
My daughter also has curly hair and its so hard to know what to do!, I would advice to try really natural products like Kinky curly or Karens Body Beautiful, if you could post some photos of her hair it would really help, I know other curlys on this site will have some really good advice for you, good luck
Trying to work out my 5 year olds 2c fine frizzy/curly hair

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Password; curlygirl

Loving KBB and Kinky Curly!!
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