Welcome to the site
Im sure you'll find lots of very helpful info to help take care of your daughters curls. There's even a bulletin board just for parents with curly kids. You certainly shouldnt feel like a failure...sounds like you are doing lots to take care of her curls..and now you found this place
Oh just incase you havent seen this link...its very helpful for those that are new here in learning all the curly lingo.....