I know it's really frustrating, but don't give up just yet, it sometimes does take a lot of trial and error to find something that works with your hair. I think I read in the beginning when I went CG that when you give up sulfates and cones your hair goes through an adjustment period, that could be why your hair is so frizzy and dry. But really, as it mentions in Struttwifes book, dry frizzy hair stems from lack of moisture, so your hair needs to be infused with it.

kathymacks soap bars are great, and very moisturizing. Many people, myself included like Giovanni tea tree shampoo which is sold at target. Giovanni also has nice moisturizing conditioner, which can also be found at target.

If you want a list of drugstore sulfate free/cone free products you can check here: sulfate, 'cone and protein-free products [updated 10/12/2010!!]

Hope this helps a little bit...
Hair Type: 3a with 3b tendencies, medium texture and normal porosity
Shampoo: Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Treat and CJDF
Conditioner/Leave-in: Giovanni 50:50, and Suave Naturals (Just not the Coconut), CALI
Stylers: CJ CCCC, AFG, HESMU
Fotki: http://public.fotki.com/Elphie2983/