Hi. I'm still new at this too, so I understand your frustration. I am by no means an expert, but I can give you my thoughts.

From reading what you wrote it sounds to me (and I could be wrong) that you should probably lay down the shampoo's for a while if you are going to try this. They all sound like they are doing more worse than good for your hair.

Also, which suave co. did you try? there is more than one formula (which can be overwhelming) but they all have different ingredients and can act differently. Also, vo5 is used by many here as well, have you tried that? Also, if you need protein, another conditioner to try is Loreal Vive Pro Nutri Gloss in the light pink bottle. Make sure it says for LONG hair. Also, a very creamy conditioner that I like is from sally's called GVP conditioning balm. I also like to use it as a leave in when my hair is feeling extra dry.

Mousse may not be enough to keep down the triangle effect. You may want to go for a stiffer gel (LA Looks is cheap) If you don't like the crunch you can light scrunch that out when its dry.

Are you using a leave in? You don't have to buy a separate one right now, just use some of your rinse out or co wash conditioner. It will help.

Also noticed that you are trying to use a lot of the more "natural" products, which is your prerogative, but you might want to consider this : Cheap starter products.

It is a list of the cheaper products to start you out with... as trying this cg method out can cost some money trying all the different products until you know what works best for you.
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