I do not have hair quite as tightly curled as you do, but what helps me is all the moisture that I can get. On warm humid days (I live in the North East of the U.S., so coming out of Winter sees us having a huge increase in humidity) it gets much curlier. Thickness of the hair matters too as does how coarse it is and porosity. It sounds like you probably at the moment (this seems to change a bit depending on hair health) have high porosity or medium porosity. This means that there aer holes in the hair shaft. Coarseness means how thick the hair is. A few posts on here have said if one can feel the hair between the fingers, then it is likelier than not a coarse hair. Coarse and porous hair does not generally like protein.
Make sure you stay away from any products containing silicons as they tend to dry out the hair because they coat it and prevent moisture from getting into the hair shaft. Stay away from most things ending in "xane" and "con/cone". Basicamente algun cosa con con es mal jeje, no chiste hombre!. Sorry, couldn't resist the joke, but it is true. Basically, stay away from shampoo. Conditioner only would be my suggestion. If hard water is not a problem for you (I live in an area that is like 70% or more limestone, so hardwater is always a problem) then try water only washing.
Here are some abbreviations that are tossed around which may not be familiar:
co-wash- conditioner only wash
wo- water only
xane(s), cone(s),con(s)- silicons
o NOT use
EVOO- extra virgin olive oil (this one is pretty
common but still shows up here)
CGing- Curly Guying/Girling
(obviously for us Guying): means no cones/xanes in
products, don't worry, no one on here is going to look down on you for this method, the name is based on a book written by a woman who had curly hair, and we guys have apparently taken on her methods too because they work well
Deep Conditioning- leave the product on the hair for about an hour (or over night and the following day if you are off/not going anywhere), then wash out with water. You can put on lots of deep conditioning stuff or not. I use varying amounts of my equal part mixture of olive oil grape seed oil and sesame seed oil, depending on the day/my mood.
The thing that I have found by reading many many (I get tired of doing this really ><) bottles of de-frizzer is that what these companies mean by "de-frizzer" is the following translation: "We are going to de-frizz your hair by taking out all the curl thereby resulting in no frizziness." To me that is like saying, "Hello, we are now going to invade your country, kill your culture and then take it home with us, have a nice day." I combat frizz with moisture and more moisture, and yet more moisture. I am new to curliness too. I only started growing my hair into a medium length about a month ago and found out that I have curly hair. In the past, I only had had straight hair. I ran cross-country and track in school (I wasn't good, but it was fun) and had always cut it short, and living in an ultra-conservative area meant that long or medium hair on guys was a no-go.
Washing: my suggestion is to drop the shampoo and conditioner unless the shampoo has no cones/xanes and the conditioner has no cones/xanes either. Tresemme Naturals No Silicons Conditioner is a good line. I have thick coarse medium to high porosity hair and this conditioner has done well for me. Also, for deep conditioning (and if you are starting to feed your curls properly then you will need to deep condition while in transition away from harmful products) I use an equal amount of olive oil, sesame seed oil and grape seed oil. During deep conditioning, do not be alarmed if your curls come out. Do not worry, you will get them back and they will be healthier and stronger for having had the deep conditioning.
I do not clarify at this point, as I am not quite sure what to use. I took a good month and a half to get into a basic cg routine of just conditioning when the moisture is right for it. Watch out for "humectants". These things will do the opposite to the moisture content of your hair as has the atmosphere. Meaning, if it is wetter in the atmosphere than your hair then the humectant will move the moisture into your hair, if things are reversed the humectant will move moisture into the atmosphere. In other words it is water osmosis.
Consider carefully the following ingredients in a product: Xan/Xane/Con/Cone- do not use, alcohol and salt- use only if you must ie. hard water, humectant- use if the weather is right for it, oils (alone no other things with them)- use as conditioner because coarse porous thick hair loves them.
Suggested Washing Schedule: Condition every day, deep condition as often as you want/can/need (as you get into your cg routine you will figure out your own personal needs.), don't shampoo unless it is without Xan/Xane/Con/Cone.
Unexpected Side-Effects may include: women approaching you for no apparent reason, women moving closer to you if already in close proximity, other men encouraging you to get a haircut because you are threatening their poder- jeje
, increased confidence and libido, cat-calls from women, increased appraising looks from women
Cuidate bien, cuando tengas mas preguntas pues pregunta a nos. Estamos aqui conjuntos para nosotros incluso ti. Bienvenido amigo.