How to get your man to embrace/accept his curls

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Wavy/curly hair on guys is SO hot!! Some of my guy friends have wavy or curly hair that I'm constantly trying to get them to grow it out....when they do and right before they cut it, it looks so good!!
Originally Posted by curlylifestyle
When I was younger, I was told by some adults that I had gorgeous hair but for whatever reason the ones that teased me for it won out. Oh well, better late than never. I was asked by one person a couple weeks ago if my hair was permed, in an odd sort of way I'm kind of flattered.
Originally Posted by bobby
Yea people are like that. We over think insults and forget compliments. I'm so glad you learned to live your curls can u post some pics of them
Wavy/curly hair on guys is SO hot!! Some of my guy friends have wavy or curly hair that I'm constantly trying to get them to grow it out....when they do and right before they cut it, it looks so good!!
Originally Posted by curlylifestyle
When I was younger, I was told by some adults that I had gorgeous hair but for whatever reason the ones that teased me for it won out. Oh well, better late than never. I was asked by one person a couple weeks ago if my hair was permed, in an odd sort of way I'm kind of flattered.
Originally Posted by bobby
Yea people are like that. We over think insults and forget compliments. I'm so glad you learned to live your curls can u post some pics of them
Originally Posted by curlylifestyle
I guess once I got to my early 30s, became married and had kids, in the back of my mind it allowed me to simply not care what others thought. I do have a gallery. Check out link below.
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Is it not care what other think or you became more confident?? I think there is a difference...
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Is it not care what other think or you became more confident?? I think there is a difference...
Originally Posted by GroYoFro
You're right, there is a difference but I think once you don't care what people think, you become more confident. With me that's how it worked out.
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Bobby, I agree. And I think one quality is an extension of the other. If you're confident, you care less about what others think. Or, if you care less about what others think, you're bound to be more confident.

And sometimes - this has been true for me, anyway - you can start out faking confidence, and that can lead to the actual feeling of confidence.

Years ago I stopped straightening my hair and didn't feel confident at all about it at first. I did care what others thought too.

Instead of waiting for an attitude of confidence I just decided to pretend I was confident enough to grow out my natural hair. That play at confidence was what helped me actually go through with it - that plus some vague hope my hair would look half as decent as my sister's naturally curly hair LOL

Sorry this is so wordy but I was thinking about anyone who thinks they actually need to be completely confident before starting their curly journey. The message is you really don't have to feel solid and confident at first. You can see it as an experiment and give yourself a chance to adjust to your natural hair. You can always go back to flat-ironing or whatever if it doesn't work out. For many of us, I think things do work out.
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Bobby, I agree. And I think one quality is an extension of the other. If you're confident, you care less about what others think. Or, if you care less about what others think, you're bound to be more confident.

And sometimes - this has been true for me, anyway - you can start out faking confidence, and that can lead to the actual feeling of confidence.

Years ago I stopped straightening my hair and didn't feel confident at all about it at first. I did care what others thought too.

Instead of waiting for an attitude of confidence I just decided to pretend I was confident enough to grow out my natural hair. That play at confidence was what helped me actually go through with it - that plus some vague hope my hair would look half as decent as my sister's naturally curly hair LOL

Sorry this is so wordy but I was thinking about anyone who thinks they actually need to be completely confident before starting their curly journey. The message is you really don't have to feel solid and confident at first. You can see it as an experiment and give yourself a chance to adjust to your natural hair. You can always go back to flat-ironing or whatever if it doesn't work out. For many of us, I think things do work out.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
Very interesting perspective and I think that was/is largely true in my case. At first, I wasn't enormously confident wearing it longer but I faked it and the next thing I know, my confidence soared. I also think that participating and exchanging posts on this site has made me more confident as well. In fact, when I first started wearing it longer eight years ago, I was blowdrying it and styling it with a round brush. My hair had plenty of volume and wave but not necessarily curl like it does now.
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This thread is truly an eye opener. I wouldn't have thought there was something wrong with men having curly hair because in some commercials I see guys with curls. The guys are mixed but still.
Originally Posted by curlicious13
I think that largely depends on what generation you are from and I think having a larger bi-racial population means a greater likelihood for guys with curls.
Originally Posted by bobby

Funny you brought up generations. I'm not much younger than you, was in high school from the late 80's- early 90's, am Gen X as well, and curly men were most of what I saw. I was just reflecting on the grunge scene

Chris
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Eddie
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Layne
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just to name very few. We won't bring up hair bands of the 80's :-/

There was a very even number of guys with curly hair and straight hair in my high school and in college. I've only dated 3 guys with straight hair and can only recall one who hated it. It seemed to be embraced, for the most part and most guys I know with straight hair, secretly wish they were curly.

Maybe men having a hard time embracing their curls should keep that in mind.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

^ One more side note on that. I remember being pissed in the early to mid 2000's when seeing pictures of Chris Cornell in magazines and in video's. His hair was always straightened

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Shame! And it doesn't just happen to the ladies.

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That's more like it.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

It's amazing how much of a difference a loss of curls can make to someone's image. Some of these celebs who decide to go from curly to straight end up almost unrecognizable; pedestrian. Maybe that's what some of these celebs want after a while - not to be recognized and not to be hassled.
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It's amazing how much of a difference a loss of curls can make to someone's image. Some of these celebs who decide to go from curly to straight end up almost unrecognizable; pedestrian. Maybe that's what some of these celebs want after a while - not to be recognized and not to be hassled.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
A lot of it is simply makeup artist/stylists following the trends of the time for shoots and videos. That was weird to see because the ones I mentioned were very leave me alone! Most still are. The ones who are still alive at least.

*The time before that was full of men in makeup, lots of leather, outfits, teasing, etc. These guys were all, I'll be in the corner in my jeans and t shirt full of holes if you need me.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 09-14-2013 at 11:02 AM.
As a Black Male (from my experience) I'm constantly told, Black Men shouldn't grow their hair out. That curly afro hair is unprofessional and unkempt looking.

I straightened it a few times because not because I hated afro hair no, but because I hated the way I look, because people kept telling me Black Men look handsome with short hair or bald, but whenever I cut it short or bald, I'd get: "Oh no you don't look Black enough to go Bald"....What ?

Or as my mom puts it.....You look too Asianish/Nativish, and that ruins the Afro. Afro's don't look good you.

So one time I shampooed my hair and for once I looked up while it was shampooed and noticed it was a combination of corkscrews and coils some the size of a big penspring and some the size of a pencil, with the top that is so loose it creates frizz and the only way to fix it is to finger curl.

So I put gel in my hair and screw and coils formed and my mom looked at me and said "Oh you look handsome now" I just stared at her.

So eventually after a while, I learned to love my hair in both afro state and kinky/curly/coily state. I like both the same, but everyone else prefers kinky curly/coily.
I honestly wish that curly hair on guys was more accepted by other guys. My boyfriend of three years has the most handsome 3a/3b curls all over his head, and when he wears it curly, it's super sexy.

However, he gets so many comments about how he looks "scruffy" and has a "man-fro" that every 2-3 months he goes in and gets it cut so short that all his curls disappear. I beg him every time not to; I tell him that he looks good with curly hair, but he wants to look "professional" (his words, not mine), so he does it anyway.

I've tried to explain that he looks amazing with curly hair, but because he refuses to use any product at all on his hair (product, according to him, is girly), he gets frustrated fast with the volume of curl that results.

I really wish that other people would stop razzing him about his hair and he would just grow to accept and like the hair he has, but I don't know if that will happen anytime in the foresee-able future.

If any guys out there have any insight, I would be glad to hear it.
Originally Posted by HazelTessera
get him to grow it out to the point where he can ponytail it or plait it. both will make the hair appear 'professional', especially the ponytail. good braids will set u off right too; hopefully you have bars cause nothing sux more than ugly braids


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